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9 New Traditions to Make in Your Life After Divorce

In divorce, divorce advice on October 16, 2017 at 1:04 am

If you’re recently divorced or just divorced, it’s sort of a baptism or conversion by fire. Suddenly you’re single. Suddenly perhaps, you’re raising children alone. Suddenly, your money is gone…you’re back in the workforce…

Whatever the case may be, divorce brings up sudden, and in many ways, irreversible changes to your life. And while some of these changes may be joyous, others may not be. You’re essentially sitting there with the pieces of your life saying, “Hmm, what is the best way to put this together in such a way that my life is better than it was before?”

Because we divorce to have a better life, don’t we? To have a better marriage. To have a better love. To have peace within our hearts and our homes and our children’s homes. To start afresh. To accept that sometimes, relationships end.

And to start your life off right whether you’re newly divorced or perhaps divorced for years and realizing that hey, I haven’t been doing this whole “post-divorce life” right….

You need new traditions! You need milestones and “evaluations” that symbolizes who you are and maybe even who your family is now, after divorce. These traditions will make your life feel and be special and positive.

These traditions will show that your home is not broken, just reconfigured.

1) Annual Divorceaversary

I don’t see this to be crude about divorce or trite but, each year as your divorce anniversary comes around, why not take it as a moment to evaluate:

  • How far you have come and maybe even how far your kids have come
  • Where you need to go to next
  • What things are you still struggling with? What are things your kids struggling with still?
  • Have you made peace with the divorce?
  • Are you having meaningful relationships, romantically and with friends and family?

Use this time to reflect on all you have done…and all you need to do still.

Read More: 9 New Traditions to Make in Your Life After Divorce 

All Fresh,

Laura

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10 Subtle Signs A Man Is Carrying A Broken Heart

In love, relationships on October 16, 2017 at 12:59 am

You’ve met this great guy, but there is something about him that just doesn’t seem quite right. Is it his mood? Does he seem hesitant around you? Does he talk about the ex periodically and when he does it’s like he’s sulking?

Before you become someone’s rebound and end up with your own broken heart, here are 10 signs his heart is broken and you need to beware before dating him.

1. He talks about his ex like he’s injured.

We all talk about our exes now and again. That’s normal as long as it’s not frequent. But when your new dude talks about his ex, he talks like he or she killed his cat or slashed his tires.

2. He’s very hesitant to commit.

He seems very into you but is extremely vague when talking about the future. It seems like he can’t decide what he wants: to keep you at a distance or to bring you closer. That hesitation to commit may be a sign he’s still broken-hearted.

3. He makes jaded comments about love.

When he talks about love, he sounds like a scorned teenage boy who will never believe in a happy ending. You feel a little like he’s been listening to too much Morrissey or The Smiths and wonder why he’s so downtrodden over love. Well, he’s that way because he’s still broken over someone that crushed his dreams and heart.

Read More: 10 Subtle Signs He’s Carrying A Broken Heart

 

Be Weary,

Laura

Why Saying Goodbye Can Mean Saying Hello To A Better Start

In divorce, love, relationships on October 8, 2017 at 2:37 am

Saying goodbye is probably the most painful thing, ever. It’s the worst word to ever utter. It’s right up there neck and neck with, “I don’t love you” or even worse:

Telling someone you love him or her…and that person not saying I love you back.

Goodbye is final. It’s depressing. It’s heartwrenching. It cuts you right in the gut.

Endings are the worst. Truly. There is no torture worse than a breakup or divorce, right?

Right…very right. And wrong.

When love is real and right, it doesn’t end. It doesn’t end for a few weeks or months. It doesn’t die. It might ebb and flow. You might have times in which your “love tank” for your partner is low.

But it doesn’t end. It doesn’t say goodbye. Real love persists, even when sometimes, g-d damnit, we wish we didn’t love someone …

Real love with someone is forever because it always exists.

So if you’re saying goodbye or someone is leaving you in the dust it is very painful, but sometimes?

It’s very right.

Saying goodbye means that there is a “Hello” about to come right around the corner.

Saying goodbye to someone who isn’t right for you, isn’t right to you, or you two aren’t right together…means a fresh start.

Saying goodbye means you are back on that train platform, waiting to see what destination awaits you.

Where your heart will take you next.

Read More: Why Saying Goodbye Can Mean Saying Hello To A Better Start 

Start Fresh,

Laura