8 Ways to Say I Love You Without Really Saying It

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Saying “I love you” is certainly important and meaningful, but there are many ways to say those 3 words without really saying them. And why wouldn’t someone want to just say “I love you?”

There are many reasons:

  • It’s boring to just use the words constantly without backing them up with actions!
  • Someone might not be ready to say those words– and therefore, would rather show love instead of make a declaration.
  • Someone could love you but not really realize it yet.

Truly, showing someone you love them is the most important thing of all– above and beyond those 3 little words.

Here are ways you can show someone love, without having to speak a word.

Eliminating or Assisting With a Burden

Helping someone with work or a task that stresses the person out is a great way to show love.

Caring When You’re Sick

Got a sick partner or love interest? Caring or helping the person in some way is an act of love.

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6 Ways to Hide You’re Hurting When You Can’t Be Real

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It’s not easy keeping it together if you are feeling depressed or going through some serious life stuff. A biggest part of the challenge is hiding it.

Sure, maybe you have people you can come clean with, but for the most part, adult life is going through the motions without showing the “emotions”– unless you trust someone and let your guard down. I’m not saying you should fake it and not get help. If you are depressed, you should get help. But what I am saying, is sometimes you have to keep it together when you’re out in public or in a situation that demands privacy.

Here are some tips for keeping cool when really, you need a hug and a break.

1. Steer conversations towards other people

Avoid questions and have the person talk about him or herself. Most people like to do that!

2. Take time outs

Take a mental health day. Go for a walk. Hide out for a while and work in a different location in the office.

3. Say, “I’d rather not…”

Discuss it. When people ask if you are upset, you can decline talking– and find someone you trust to vent to.

4. Take a drive and cry

If your kids can’t see you cry or you just need to let it out, blast some music and cry a bit. Just watch the road.

5. Can say you’re fine

Not ready to talk to someone about your hurt feelings? Say you’re fine and wait for a time when you’re more composed.

6. Exercise, meditate or dance

Move. Move and mooove. Put your sadness or stress into the motions.

 

Chin up– hang tight– and hope for the best,

Laura

 

 

6 Best Traits Every Man Should Have

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Not all men are equal. Well, okay– we are all equal as humans, but not all men are super awesome as the rest. Hey, like I tell myself– someone will always be funnier, smarter, prettier than you– but that doesn’t mean you’re not funny, smart or pretty!

But there are certain traits that set other men above the pack and let them shine as stellar examples. Nice pecs help, too, but I’m talking about character and personality.

Does your love interest or man have these 6  traits?

Integrity & Honor

He stands by his word. He doesn’t lie and he will tell the truth, even if it sucks.

He puts his name on everything and everyone he touches– in a positive way.

He does not half-a*s stuff. He puts in an amazing amount of effort.

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12 Days of Christmas, Single Mom Style

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I tend to listen to holiday music ad nausem because I miss singing in choir; this season always reminds me of numerous years of concerts I either sang or sang and played an instrument in over the years. But, as I “race” to get stuff done– and try to remember hiding the elves for my daughter, and oh can’t forget Hanukkah too, it all blurs by. This is when I wish I had four hands instead of two, but part of being a single mom is learning how to be more than one person. Guess what? I still haven’t quite learned because it’s just not possible.

It had me making up my own little 12 days of Christmas song– if only.

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How to Talk to Her Before You Lose Her for Good

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Women aren’t as complicated as we get pinned for. Truly, all we want is to feel:

  • Valued
  • Heard (Listened to)
  • Cared for and Respected

It’s not rocket science and it doesn’t require any ab-bearing or fish-caught touting selfies to make us happy.

If you really give a crap about a woman and you have a pulse, you can change how you speak to her and make her even happier to ensure she cares about you for years to come.

Or, you can keep missing the mark. You decide.

Be Specific– Not Cookie-Cutter

Instead of saying I had a good time, say something like:

  • I really enjoyed spending time with you because I felt like I learned more about you.
  • Coming over was great– I loved being close to you and getting time to relax.

Share Your Feelings- Don’t Be Scared

Instead of saying after intimacy, a kiss or sex That was nice, say something like:

  • I really feel closer to you after that– which is amazing.
  • Wow– how lucky am I to have you next to me?
  • You feel amazing and make me happy.

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5 Reasons He/She REALLY Doesn’t Want a Relationship

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You’ve spent a lot of time wondering why he/she is so flaky or unavailable. You seem to have a good time with the person, but then he or she is nowhere to be found. The person ghosts you for a while, and then pops back up. Or, you can’t get any consistency from the person. Dates are good, but they come and go. You wonder to yourself “WTF is wrong with this person,” when you get the “I don’t want a relationship” line that we all know is total bullsh*t for the most part.

Here are 5 reasons your love interest really doesn’t want a relationship.

Brace yourself. The harsh truth is coming.

1. He/She Doesn’t Care About You

Their options and freedom is more important. They like the idea of having many options available to them and you aren’t special.

Yup– you aren’t special and you mean squat to that person.

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Hurtful Behaviors That Keep You Up at Night From a Love Interest or Spouse

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You’re up late at night wondering and stressing over what you have done wrong to make a partner or love interest act differently. After a while, your self-esteem starts to tank. You start to wonder what you’re doing wrong or, why you’re not good enough. It becomes a late-night bashing party of one: you bashing yourself.

If your partner or love interest is doing the following things, you are probably having some sleepless nights wondering what’s going on, like why is your person of interest—

1. Running Hot and Cold?

Someone who wants to see you and then doesn’t want to see you, clearly has some issues.

However, most likely these issues reside with your love, and not you. Point out this person’s weird behaviors.

2. Withdrawing Affection and Acting Cold?

This person may simply not care about you at all. Coldness is a sure sign that the person is rejecting you or being hurtful or, is hurt themselves. Maybe you hurt this person’s feelings. Talk about it!

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9 Signs of Serious Depression at the Holidays

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Suicide Prevention Month is technically September but with the holidays rolling around, I thought it might be helpful to talk about it now. Many people feel alone, worthless and stressed at this time of year.

It’s not unusual for people to hit a rock bottom during this time of year. Unfortunately, I have known a few people (mostly from a distance) that took a turn for the worse right around Thanksgiving and Christmas.

So, I figured I might compile a list of some symptoms of serious depression so you can all keep an eye on your loved ones or yourselves if needed. A person very close to me lost someone she loved to suicide and it was and is, an unending wound. Hug your loved ones tightly this season and be the supportive ear that person might need!

9 Signs of Serious Depression– Especially at the Holidays

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4 Things to Remember About Online Dating

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Online Dating is a bizarre place, indeed. I have to wonder what people are thinking sometimes with the things they write, share or use as photos with the goals of meeting someone.

For example, one man wore a squirrel outfit as a main profile pic. Funny? Maybe, if you like nuts. Haha.

Another man looked like he was half asleep or high.

In other words, you have to have a really good sense of humor in order to swipe left and right for more than ten minutes. It’s easy to see why people don’t really enjoy the process. Both my male and female friends seem to groan over the whole thing.

So, if you’re about ready to swipe left or right on potential matches, keep these 4 things in mind in order to laugh more and cry less.

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Is He Using His Job as a Coping Method?

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One of the things my friends have been commenting to me lately is that the men they love tend to bury themselves in their work.

Consider that phrase- bury themselves.

Literally, suffocate themselves and their feelings by giving themselves so much work that they’re not accessible to handle their relationships or other issues of the heart. They’re not around. They’re present, but absent.

As someone whose dad worked constantly, I could relate to their feelings.

When men are depressed, anxious or any other kind of troubling emotion, they “seem” to dive into their jobs, isolating themselves from others.

Society jokes about the “man-cave” and of course the newly minted, “she-shed,” but work can be a safe place for men to dive in and ignore their feelings. This really interesting article in Psychology Today talks about the ways in which men manage their emotions.

Typically, men compartmentalize and shut out their feelings at work. So, it’s not unusual to me when people start commenting that their husbands are working too much, or that their partners are coming home late, only to find that the man in consideration is struggling with his feelings.

So, if you start to notice these signs, it’s possible that your favorite man is burying his feelings at the office or place of work.

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