If you want to know how close you are with your family, ask yourself how well your children know them.
Having a child really brings the reality of your family relationships to light, whether for good or bad. When someone has a child, he or she usually looks to bring the child into the family fold. How people respond to this child and spend time with this child usually says a lot about how close they are to you.
For me, having a child held up a looking glass into my family dynamics. It reflected the truths of everyone related to me both blood and married. The fact is, that picture is not always so pretty. This is a hard pill to swallow sometimes. I think when you have a baby, you imagine being surrounded by a positive community of people, namely your family, as that is what a baby deserves and that’s what parents need to feel supported. This doesn’t always happen. And this is a let down, a grief, that things are not as you would like them to be, but if that is the case, it is up to the parents to build a team of people, a community or extended family of sorts to help lead the little one positively into the world and help the parents get through the newness of being a parent.
Family is not always blood, but rather a conglomerate of people that you “initiate” into the child’s world so as to protect and nurture the child, and parents too.
If you don’t like the support you have, go out and make connections with people–real connections beyond Facebook and text messages.
Build your own family.