I know that this sounds like a total lie, but some men won’t bang their wives.You may be laughing right now, but it is indeed, true.
Do some googling. Male sex drive isn’t as “golden” and high-geared as the rumor mill would like you to believe. Here are some reasons why your husband may not be banging you.
Note: I’m not a therapist, so don’t think of my word as “bond” to quote old-school 80’s hip-hop, but think of my word as a guide for “next steps,” mainly, buying a vibrator and possibly hiring a private investigator.
No Thanks Honey
Your husband may be saying no to a romp because he’s depressed. Depression can kill a sex drive. Why would he be depressed? Who knows? His job performance. Weight. Hormonal imbalance. Fighting with you. Money. Depression can kill a sex drive. If you think this is it, sit him down and talk to him. Now.
Before it gets worse and the two of you have become roommates.
Money Money Money Money….MONEY
If there are money issues, stress will kill that erection in a heartbeat, especially if you are arguing over it. Killing sex is always a bad thing, but if money is the culprit, you guys need to sit down and have a little face-to-face on how to iron out (if possible) your financial woes before your sex life officially dies for good.
Someone Else is Banging Him
Sorry to add, but there is always the chance that he is getting it from someone else, especially if your once hornball husband is now an ice cold nun around you. If this is your suspicion, think it through before confronting him. Maybe you’re being paranoid, or maybe he truly is getting head from your next-door neighbor.
If he is feeling like a loser because of his job or weight or balding patches, he might just put an end to all things sexy and good, or he may try to find another woman to make his ego feel better.
Give him some prozac and the number of a good shrink, or just start buffing up his tender ego. It could work.
I said it in my post on “why your wife won’t bang you”: weight gain can be downers for both parties. Maybe he feels like you’ve let yourself go. Maybe he feels as if you’re not trying to be sexy. It might even be the fact that he feels as if the two of you as a unit has dwindled as kids entered the picture. While kids should be the center of attention, it’s not wise to ignore your identity as a couple. If he feels you’re ignoring this aspect, he will start to sexually and emotionally withdraw.
On The Other Side
It’s possible he might be gay. Maybe he just likes men. He doesn’t have to be writing an opera at the dining room table to be gay, but if this is suspect, it’s time you two went clothes shopping and had a heart-to-heart about coming out of the closet.
You’re a Bitch
You make him feel like shit and therefore, he doesn’t want to be around you. You pick at him. You’re unhappy. You bring him down. This deflates a hard-on faster than you can say, “Guess what? You’re the Daddy.”
Start being a little nicer, pub-lease.
Scientific Studies Say:
If a guy is not into sex, it can feel really awkward for the female because we have been told that men love fucking since we were, I don’t know, about 3 years-old? We were warned all men were perverts and would look up our skirts and now look, we have someone who doesn’t want it. It can be hard to talk about and very isolating. You can start to feel like you’re the problem, but in most cases, you are not the sole culprit.
While nursing your ego, use a vibrator, but seek out the cause pronto.
A good penis is a terrible thing to waste. Reconnect with your husband if it is possible.
With Battery-Operated Power,