Fighting Fair: How to avoid the frying pan to the head when arguing

In marriage, relationships on January 20, 2014 at 5:45 pm

Boxing Gloves

Sometimes it’s not very easy to stay calm when your partner has pissed you off or hurt you.

It takes a lot for me to stay angry with anyone; I’m a mush like that, and am known for being a softie, unless someone has created continual damage repeatedly. Once that has happened, getting a ticket back into my show is not easy. While I will extend the invite, I will do it cautiously, but it takes a whole lot for me to get to that point because I’m too nice.

In an argument, I’m not one to get nasty unless backed into a corner or degraded. In general, nastiness is not my weapon but rather shutting down, exiting the conversation, or becoming defensive. None of those things are really helpful. I have used guilt from time-to-time as well, hee hee. Jewish roots you might say, but I think I acquired that skill from my mother, who’s Irish and Scottish.

After much thought, debate, and experience, I decided I should write a piece on how to fight fair, and here it is in Ocean Happening. Please share and read!


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