Most women would never outright say this. Most men would.
I realize that the older I get, the less I know, and the more I don’t know, and the closer I am to ending up in a looney bin 🙂
But after being hurt and making the choice to commit to someone, I have decided why risk it again?
Sex is Easier
Sure emotions get involved, but don’t let them. Why decide to commit to someone when chances are, it won’t work out anyway? I mean, what’s the chance that the person you went to bed with will still love you 15 years down the road? Maybe like a .001% chance.
It’s shitty to think like that, but that’s the way it is. People aren’t monogamous and in fact, Esther Perel psychologist, says that an affair doesn’t have to mean the end of a relationship. It could mean the beginning of a newer and better relationship.
But overall, I think short-term relationships that involve basic needs like food, orgasm, and water are easier to sustain than ones that require work and love.
Maybe I am just bitter, or maybe I am having a mid-30’s hormone surge!
It is hard to grow as a couple without growing apart.
In my opinion being in any long-term partnership or marriage means waking up every day and saying, “I have decided to commit to you today and work on us and me. On loving you. And myself.”
Both parties have to do it and work to some degree. It is hard enough to do it yourself but then asking someone else to do it as well?
Not an easy feat.
Feminism and rise of two working partners
Suddenly the game has changed when two people don’t need to lean on one another to survive and both parties are juggling schedules of varying natures.
We don’t need the men to go hunt for us. We can do it for ourselves.
What does this mean for us? For our relationships?
Food for thought.
In Case You Think I am A D*#K
I believed in love. I believe in hope.
I am not sure I am capable of doing that right now.
Plus, I think it makes me sound tougher and meaner than I am.
I am pitifully sweet and wish I could be evil, but unfortunately I am cookie coating on the outside and squishy center on the inside.