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Everyone is an Expert On Someone Else’s Life

In divorce, life, love on June 30, 2014 at 9:17 pm

Something I have noticed as of late is that suddenly, quite a few people have become experts on life. Not theirs, mine.

Most people mean well and want to help. I am guilty of this as well, but it is funny how people can be so sure of someone else’s choices.

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Happy Hour #3: Out in the Sun With Tea: Company Acquired

In Happy Hour on June 30, 2014 at 9:04 pm

Today, and last night in fact, I was fortunate to have 2 friends to see. To sit, talk, and chat with, while drinking my beloved tea.

It wasn’t something huge, but it was something to keep me from remembering that I have lost one of the most important things in my life. That I have a billion things up in the air, and no matter what I do, I seem to have no control over.

Sometimes, a little tea, a little air, and some sun, is more than just something “little.”

It’s enough to get you through the day, and when times are tough, these happy hours add up to make for a better life.

With Chai and Chocolate,



Ladies, You’re Kidding Me: A Few Things You Ladies Shouldn’t Do On Your Online Dating Profile

In dating advice, love, relationships on June 28, 2014 at 2:45 am

Whoa…was just about to go to bed, when I started to view women’s profiles on an online dating site. And now, I have to write this before I rest my poor weary head. Read the rest of this entry »

Happy Hour #2- Bikinis, Meltdowns, and Happy Endings of the non-perverted kind

In Happy Hour, life, parenthood on June 27, 2014 at 6:09 pm

Today, I took my daughter to the community pool. I’m not a huge fan but she wanted to go, so off we went when low and behold, it was closed.

It shouldn’t have been but due to human error–community didn’t have the proper documentation in order for inspector to do his job. Inspector said pool was closed. Some tool from the lifeguard company came in and said it was–all while being incredibly rude to me in front of my kid. (you bet I promptly but nicely told him he was being unkind heh), and there was my daughter sobbing, “I’m very disappointed I don’t get to go in the pool. I was really looking forward to it!”

Yes, she’s 3 but can articulate her feelings in a rather adult way. Not many kids announce they’d “prefer to eat rather than play right now Mama.”

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Happy Hour: Day 1–Finding Happiness and sharing it, even if it’s just for one pithy hour

In Happy Hour, life on June 27, 2014 at 12:24 am

The other day I really wanted to spew a mouthful of annoyance because A; someone asked me a nosy question and yet the person could care less about me…just wanted gossip; B: haven’t heard from one friend–you know the kind of friend who is always selfish when you’re down and out, yet you’re there for him/her all the time? and C: Other stuff. Like… Read the rest of this entry »

Quick Meditation on Love and Marriage: Don’t Wait

In love, marriage on June 24, 2014 at 8:56 pm

Here’s today’s quick meditation on love and marriage:

Don’t wait until  problem becomes so huge that neither one of you can talk about the issue. Waiting creates anger, resentment, miscommunication, assumptions, and distance–all negative things for a marriage. As painful as the truth may be or speaking words you’re still struggling to deal with, address the issues now before there’s a gulf so huge that it will take a boat to get you back to the one you love.

With an anchor,


Quick Meditation On Marriage And Love: Anger

In love, marriage, relationships on June 23, 2014 at 8:53 pm

Today’s quick meditation on love and marriage is as follows:

Being angry all the time gets you nowhere. If you’re angry at your partner, address it before it blows up. Choose your battles. Do you need to get mad about everything? Do you need to blow up? If you’re ready to lose a gasket, consider taking a run, grabbing a beer with a friend, taking a bath, or watching a funny movie. Maybe what you’re mad at about isn’t so important or worth being mad at after all. Angry creates distance and distance creates heartbreak.

Chocolate and Wine,


More Things You Shouldn’t Put On A Dating Profile: How to Online Date

In dating advice, humor, relationships, romance on June 23, 2014 at 8:47 pm

It’s a scary world out there, but the fact is that you gotta live in it, and for some of us, date in it.

I haven’t dared to reach out to some of the nut jobs I see online, but I have learned some valuable lessons.

Dudes, if you want to nab a date or a hot “ride” for the night, here are some additional things you need to consider. To read my first 5 tips for what to NOT put on your online dating profile boys, go here.

Now without further adieu, here goes part II:

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Mother and Child

In divorce, motherhood, parenthood on June 21, 2014 at 2:08 am

Today when I went to get my daughter from her daddy’s house, she was mad at me.

Men, you can relate to this I am sure–and women too: When a woman is mad at you, and she gives you brief responses (if you’re lucky to get that even) and physically gives you the cold shoulder like, “Don’t even talk to me fool.”

Well, that was my daughter.

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Signs He/She Doesn’t Love You Anymore

In Uncategorized on June 19, 2014 at 2:39 am

It’s hard to know when it’s over sometimes. When you love someone, you cling to hope. Any positive word or thought could mean that there is hope on the horizon.

But sometimes there isn’t…

Here are a few signs that it’s over, Toots.

Yeah, pretty sure only 80 year olds and up call people Toots…anyway, back to the topic at hand.

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