The other day I was speaking to two guys who I could tell were in their early twenties. We were chatting about college, job choices, dating, and I was handing out some advice–wanted advice, FYI.
Anyway, the two guys who I later learned were 23 years old, thanked me.
‘We never get to talk to a gorgeous 30-something woman. Thank you.”
The other guy politely propositioned me in the most nicest way possible if you can imagine, (I did not go for it) and I found it nice to be appreciated by young guys who if I had been their age, probably would have had a much different demeanor around me.
When I walked away, I recounted an earlier event a few months back in which 2 guys at the mall about 22-23, tried to hit on me.
It had me thinking, “Why do younger guys love older women?”
Is it their underlying need to be mothered?
Is it the confidence that women in their 30’s and up carry, unlike the anxiety of the 20’s?
That’s funny. I’m still anxious in my 30’s. But I am certainly much less self-conscious.
Is it some sort of sexual fantasy thing, like the naughty nurse/teacher dynamic?
Is it because an older woman won’t really want a relationship from a dude that young?
And how unfortunate is it that men peak sexually so young whereas women peak much later?
This may also be a reason for the young guy/older woman dynamic.
I will say while I didn’t make any inappropriate moves (still living with your mom is a bit odd at my stage of the game), younger men come off so sweet, baggage free, and less creepy than men my own age, but maybe that is because I am so nice I attract weirdos, and still miss my husband that I am super-critical…and gonna die surrounded by boxes of chocolates and fifty cats.
To all the young men,
(However you like)