“I’m too tired.”
Has your wife or husband ever told you this as one of the reasons why there won’t be any sex for the night?
If you answered yes, I am pretty sure you’re in big company.
And while we are all too tired to do things sometimes–even fun things like sex– it’s an excuse your marriage doesn’t need.
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Here’s a reality check:
If you are a parent, be prepared to be tired for the rest of your life.
“Oh but the baby is teething.”
“Oh but he’s been wetting the bed.”
“Oh he’s out with friends late.”
You will always be tired. Congratulations, kiddo.
If it’s your job that tires you, here’s another piece of hearty news:
Retirement is rarity in today’s world. Your career may get less demanding and stressful, but that may take a while.
So if you want to wait 20 some odd years, or maybe 10 if you’re lucky to be less tired, I hope your partner doesn’t mind waiting.
But that’s all he/she wants Laura…
One of my favorite go-to guru’s on relationships, Esther Perel, suggests in her book Mating In Captivity that sometimes, a female partner may mistake a husband’s desire for sex as just some empty throbbing need to get off when the reality is, wanting to have sex with a partner is often the way a husband or wife wants to show how much he/she cares…wants to connect. It’s not just about someone wanting to get his or her jollies on.
We all get tired. We all feel less than “in the mood” at times…well, some of us not so much, but still…it’s okay to not want it every night but if you’re always tired, you’re missing out.
You can sleep when you’ve left the earth.