Motherhood usually means kids first, partner second . . . and Mom third. One of the first realizations of motherhood is how once that baby is out of you and in the world, who you were as you once knew it changes. It’s a hardcore identity struggle for some of us: how do we be “a person” yet be a mom too? For some, it’s one in the same, but for most mommies, just because we gave birth doesn’t mean we have forgotten the interests and sparks around us that make us happy. There’s this dialogue that if you don’t take care of yourself and only focus on the kids, you’re doing it wrong. Then there’s the opposite dialogue: if you’re enjoying yourself and taking too much “me” time, you’re a crappy mom. How does one win?
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