As a mom who has suffered with bouts of anxiety, I understand what it’s like to have to say to myself, “Don’t hover,” but I have seen parent after parent, most without any anxiety symptoms, hovering over their kids.
The first time I saw hovering was at a Mommy and me class. The babies were mostly between 14 and 18 months. There was one 2-year-old. We were working on an art project and I just sat there and let my girl make her mess, while most of the other moms were taking over to make the art projects look perfect. They had missed the whole point of the class apparently: to give the little ones a sensory experience and some fine motor practice. Oh and let’s not forget: give the little ones some fun! Creating is a good time. When we all left, miraculously all the art projects looked perfect besides my daughter’s, which was exactly the whole point.
I said to one mom who was fussing over an unglued part, “Don’t worry — it’s not the finished product but the process that matters. Besides they’re just babies.”
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