The divorce process can drag on forever. At this rate, I’m wondering if my divorce will be final before my daughter goes to college (she’s 4 years old). During the process, it’s completely normal to have highs — days in which you feel happy about the divorce — and lows — days in which you feel burdened with grief and pain over the decision.
It’s also just as common to have highs and lows with your former spouse, especially as the two of you attempt to get into a rhythm as coparents. Distance helps any drama the two of you may have, but being diligent coparents requires that sometimes you’ll have to deal with each other. If you’re ready to blow a gasket because your divorce is becoming ugly or stressful, these are six things you can do to calm your head.
1. Review, Review, Review
Before you hit send on that text or email message to your ex, back away from your words for at least 20 minutes if the two of you have been fighting. Sometimes we say things out of anger but things said out of anger can be used against you in divorce.
When you’re ready to pull out your hair (or your ex’s) it’s time to move — physically. Getting exercise will help release anxious and stressful energy and allow you to have a space to release toxic feelings. Not only will exercise give you that ability to let go of bad emotions, but it will also flood your brain with feel-good emotions. To this day, running has been the best therapy since my divorce. And even better? It’s free!
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