A month or two ago, a woman who I knew as an acquaintance at my gym had her first baby.
“How’s it going?” I asked, congratulating her and asking how she was feeling, something I noticed most people don’t do.
It’s all about the baby, after all.
“It’s OK, you know, she’s not sleeping very well and she cries a lot. I mean a lot, a lot!”
I heard it in her speech: infancy was not her cup of tea right now.
“I’m so sorry. You know, it’s OK if you hate this right now. My daughter slept very well, but I’ve had friends and family who dealt with colic.”
Looking at me with a face of relief: “Thank you — you’re the first person I’ve been able to be honest with. The first person who asked how I was. Honestly, I’m struggling and totally hating it. I feel so guilty.”
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