The Gift I Received For My Miscarriage

My mom came in with a plant.

“What is this?” I asked, certain that unless it barked or meowed, it was dead on sight in my care.

“A Cyclamen plant. I thought you could take care of it.”

“Okay,” I said and there you have it — I was a plant owner.

A few days before, I had a D&C for a miscarriage. At ten weeks along, the OBGYN and ultrasound tech discovered my first pregnancy was no more. So as I wore some mega-big maxi-pad, I found a place for my plant, and then went back to lying down on the couch with my crampy uterus to watch some seriously nostalgic television.Little House on the Prairie was one of the shows I watched on repeat, enduring the tragic pregnancies the show had one by one, in tears. I was in a funk. The kind of funk that has you eating privately, ignoring your friend’s phone calls, and not returning to work.

The flowers on the plant bloomed white shortly thereafter and my friend, an absolute genius when it comes to anything that’s green or crawls on four legs or a million who I have known since childhood, Jason, told me how to care for the plant.

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I Am in Bloom,

Laura

7 GLARINGLY Obvious Signs Your Wife Absolutely Hates Your Mom

You’ve met your perfect match and you’re so over the moon for her that you married her, but your favorite gal doesn’t seem to be in love with the original first woman of all time: your mom.

You dreamed they would be best friends — going for manicures and baking at Christmas — but instead, it seems like your wife would rather have oral surgery than go for tea with your mom. What’s a guy to do?

Here are seven huge signs your wife hates (gulp) your mom.

1. She refers to her as “your mother.”

Never mom, never my “mother-in-law,” and never by her first name. It’s always “Your mother” at every turn, and it’s typically said with a cold or disdainful voice. Eeek!

Read More: 7 GLARINGLY Obvious Signs Your Wife Absolutely Hates Your Mom

Sorry to Share the Bad News,

Laura

10 Things I Seriously Regret NOT Doing Before Getting Married

I’m divorced now so I won’t say “wish I didn’t get married” on this list, because I gained a beautiful girl, as well as a lot of experience and life lessons from my marriage. But there are things I wish I did before I said “I do” and “I don’t.”

With perspective, I’d like to pass this on to those of you who are still single and considering getting hitched. Before you put a “ring on it,” read up!

  1. Had a more serious relationship experience

Before I said “I do” to my ex, my longest relationship was three months. Before you become a Mr. or a Mrs., have enough relationship experience under your belt to truly know what it takes to make a relationship like marriage work, and know what a good long-term partner truly looks and acts like.

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Don’t Regret,

Laura

6 Reasons Youngest Sisters Make the Best Girlfriends (& Friends!)

If you’ve met a lady who says she’s the youngest sibling, you better win her heart now or you’ll end up with a serious case of regret. Everyone knows (besides perhaps the older and middle siblings) that the youngest sibling makes for an amazing better half and woman. Listen up and choose your next woman wisely and make sure she’s known as the “last in the family.”

1. She Appreciates When You Remember the Little Things

The youngest kid? Our mothers didn’t fill out our baby books — in fact, she probably didn’t even buy one or if she did, one of our older and supposedly “wiser” siblings ruined it by scribbling all over it with crayon that it never got filled out. No one remembers our first steps. Actually, neither of my parents is completely sure what my Hebrew name is because I’m number four out of four girls! (OY VEY!) as long as I was breathing, all was OK with the world.

Your youngest sibling girlfriend will go gaga if you remember her full name (that’s first, middle, and last) simply because she was most likely called by her siblings’ names for her whole life.

If you can tell her anything about her childhood — like her favorite boy band or cartoon growing up — she might make you dinner for a month! This is a good thing unless like myself, her older siblings cooked for her and now her domestic skills are less than subpar.

Read More: 6 Reasons Youngest Sisters Make the Best Girlfriends (& Friends!)

I’m Biased,

Laura

Making Time to Play With Your Child as a Working Mom

While each situation has its pros and cons, I miss the time I had to play with my child when I was a stay-at-home mom. To add salt to the wound, as a divorced mom, I have to split my time with my daughter even further. It often feels as if my time with her was cut by 75 percent, and each weekend I have with her seems to whiz by. When I tell you that even eating breakfast with my daughter is a delight, I am not lying. With my work schedule and the custody schedule, I live against the clock.

A big challenge for any parent but especially a working parent who is not home for one-on-one time with the children is finding time to play with your little ones. Weekends aren’t just for playtime — they’re for errands, homework if your children are old enough, couple time (if you’re married), and then some. You often feel as if you’re stuffing a life into short sprints of time and clinging to minutes. This is where that serious working-parent guilt comes into play. I remind you, working moms: “It’s quality and not quantity.” You could sit down with your child every day from 9 to 5, and if you simply stared at your kid, what much good would it be? Not much. To all parents, working or not: it’s the quality you put into your interactions with your kids that matter. Not the hours.

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Making the Time,

Laura

9 Brutal Truths About Dating In Your Late Thirties

There you are, ready for love in your late thirties, yet you’re either entering the dating world after a big breakup/divorce or you’re the last of your friends to be married off. It can be discouraging, and everyone tells you, “Oh, you’re still so young. You’ll find love!” But it seems like you’d have a better shot at winning the lottery than finding the right match.

Don’t give up, though. Giving up is for quitters and you aren’t a quitter. Love is out there for everyone at any age, whether you’re fifteen or eighty-five. But here are some harsh realities of dating in your late thirties that you need to know, if you don’t already.

  1. You feel like a time bomb if you don’t have kids already.

If you want kids and still have none, you feel like your ovaries are ready to explode. They’re not, but each date seems heavier than the last. Is this the one? you find yourself thinking. It’s hard to not feel the pull of biology and hormones.

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Can You Handle the Truth,

Laura

15 Quotes That PERFECTLY Sum Up What Having Anxiety Is Like

Anxiety will never enrich your life or allow you to bloom.

At every turn, anxiety is your enemy and not your friend. Anxiety doesn’t discriminate; no matter your race, gender, sexual orientation or class, anxiety kills our spirits and hearts, and worse — our health.

Make 2016 the year you say “Buh-bye!” to anxiety. You deserve it. How many more moments do you want to waste, thanks to that b*tch anxiety?

  1. Anxiety is your enemy.

Anxiety will not help you succeed, nor does anxiety nurture your spirit or care about how badly you slept or ate that day. Anxiety is a soul-sucking parasite.

Read More: 15 Quotes That PERFECTLY Sum Up What Having Anxiety Is Like

Knows Her Enemy,

Laura

8 Signs You and Your Partner Are Stuck to Each Other Like Glue

Love is a wonderful thing, and being close with your partner is a must if you want a successful relationship, but sometimes a couple is way too close — like conjoined twins close! It’s not cute if your other half literally becomes your other half, unless you were looking to meet a human double of yourself rather than an equal person to enjoy life with! Here are five signs you and your significant other are crazy-glued together in a stage five clinger mess and impossible to tear apart — gulp.

1. “I” Becomes “We”

Your friends don’t invite you to girls’ night because, suddenly, it’s not girls’ night anymore. It’s girls’ night plus your dude, and that sort of takes the “girls'” part out of the fun.

His guy friends don’t even bother asking him to hang out unless they don’t mind hanging out with you. And it’s not that they don’t like you, but that they want their “bro” back and they’re beginning to wonder if he stays home with you doing facials and watching The Bachelorbecause their “bro” is definitely, sniff, long gone!

The two of you are attached at the hip and require a “plus one” everywhere you go. It’s nauseating!

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Get Breathing Room,

Laura

How to Deal With Mama Drama

I never had mama drama before — until this Fall.

Now? I’m officially terrified for when my kid starts elementary school next year.

The mom in question was a mother of one of my daughter’s preschool classmates. Our kids were butting heads daily at the beginning of the school year in typical 4-year-old-girl fashion. I was familiar with these little 4-year-old-girl battles, as I had taught preschool and pre-K before. These things happen, and they were common developmental issues that come up for girls and preschool-aged children. I approached her with a smile and friendly demeanor, but she was so agitated, I thought she would burn holes right into my soul with her eyes. She was nasty to me in front of our two kids at a class birthday party (thankfully it was at the end of the party), and I was floored. I had never experienced that before. All I told her was that our cuties were both strong-willed and learning to take turns, play leader, and test each other’s limits of “who’s the top dog,” essentially. That all we could do was work with our littles and let the teachers manage as they had been, but it wasn’t enough for her. She wanted to battle, but I wasn’t about to engage with a volatile opponent who shouldn’t have been “my opponent” to begin with.

Read More: How to Deal With Mama Drama

Have Empathy,

Laura

How to Navigate Your 50/50 Custody Agreement

Long gone are the days in which fathers were merely visitors in their children’s lives — and this is a good thing. Children need both parents, and they need to feel as if they can have healthy and positive relationships with both parents without any guilt or grief. Divorce is hard enough on children. However, there is a growing trend of 50/50 custody, and while it has its drawbacks, it is mostly positive. Even with 50/50 custody, there is a custodial parent (the residence that dictates where the child goes to school), and then the two parents share joint custody, meaning both parents are actively involved in all decisions regarding the child’s welfare.

Read More: How to Navigate Your 50/50 Custody Agreement

It’s Tricky,

Laura