5 Things Someone Will Love You Will NEVER Do

If you have to wonder if someone loves you, chances are he or she doesn’t.
But there are a few things that someone who truly loves you for all of who you are will NEVER do, no matter what.

If the person does these things, chances are he or she is toxic and it’s not a healthy love.

A person who loves you will never:

1- Leave For Good:

He or she may temporarily leave your life or need a break, but if the person really loves you, he or she isn’t going to leave you for life. Eventually, that person will return to you. The old adage, “if you love someone set them free, if they return…”is true. True love returns. Passing fancy does not.

It’s normal to need a break and it’s o.k. to fight sometimes, but if the person loves you, he or she will want to be around you.

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How to Recover From a Bad Marriage or Relationship

It’s not easy recovering from a bad marriage or relationship. You could end up walking away feeling:

  • Emotionally drained
  • Of no value—as if you have nothing to offer
  • Afraid
  • Bitter
  • Distrustful of your judgment
  • Lack of hope

 

For me, I felt as if I had very little value as a person and hopeless. Somehow, I didn’t become completely bitter. I think that’s just my nature as a person—bubbly.

But for many of us, starting over and moving forward is hard when we have the emotions from the past still acting on our present.

Here are ways to resolve these issues:

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How to Tell If Your Body Image Is Negatively Affecting Your Sex Life

The two of you are there, in the middle of the most passionate and intimate act — sex — when your hideous and incorrect views of your body cause discomfort, displeasure, or sadness in the middle of the deed! Except here comes the worst part: you don’t even know that this is happening but your partner, who is the victim as well in your bad body image game, is aware. Painfully so. You may not even realize it, but your toxic feelings about your body are ruining the most precious and intimate aspect of your relationship. Here are four signs that your body image is negatively affecting your sex life.

1. You Experiment Less

Because you think your thighs, butt, or what have you are too big, too small, or not right, you experiment less in the bedroom. You’re uncomfortable in your skin and so you’re not ready to jump into a sexual relationship feeling confident and free. Instead, you’re feeling burdened and restrained.

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It’s Damaging,

Laura

4 Myths of Single Motherhood

When people hear I’m a single mom, a lot of stereotypes and myths come to mind. First off, some people would fight my single parent status: my ex and I are coparents and he is not what I call a “No-Show” or “Deadbeat Dad.” He is very present in my child’s life; however, to me, if you parent alone and without help, you are a single parent. By alone I mean no one ever comes home to relieve you. No one ever shows up to pay your bills, clean the home, care for the kid, and be an active part in you and your child’s daily routine. Instead, my ex and I “coparent.” To all the ladies and gents parenting alone with “No-Show” and “Deadbeat” parents, I commend you even more.

However, whether you’re a single mom because Dad skipped town, passed away, or you got a divorce, there are still many myths about single parents that need to go! They’re antiquated and untrue. In today’s day and age in which, according to the Pew Research Center, “Fewer than half (46%) of US kids younger than 18 years of age are living in a home with two married heterosexual parents in their first marriage,” the idea of what a family “looks” like has changed so drastically, whether it’s the gender of the parents raising the kids, the amount of parents in the home, the marital status of the two parents, and then some! The days of Leave It to Beaver are long gone. And so should some of these old tired single mom myths that I am sick of hearing.

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Myth Isn’t Truth,

Laura

5 Signs He or She Doesn’t Care About you

When someone shares his or her feelings with you and says he or she cares, it could make your heart skyrocket for days, especially when the feelings are intense and mutual.

But the reality is when it comes to love and relationships, words matter but actions matter more. How do you truly know if the person you’re involved with, whether male or female, is genuine?

Here are 5 Signs he or she doesn’t truly care about you.

I recently dealt with a guy who seemed like a dream. A great man with good values. But because he wasn’t able to commit, I questioned (and still do) how viable his feelings were for me even though he seemed like a wonderful man and person.

 

In my eyes if someone truly cares about you, he or she will:

1- Be Ready to Prioritize You

If he or she isn’t making you a priority, most likely your potential partner doesn’t really care.

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Beyond Fertility: Why You Need to Pay Attention to Your Period

When you first got your period you probably experienced a combination of excitement — “I’m a woman!” — and dread — “Ugh, is this going to suck every month?” And if you are lucky, your cycle has been a regular and predictable ever since you wore your first maxi pad, but for many of us, our periods can become an outright problem.

I delivered my daughter via C-section and have had two D&C’s (dilation and curettage) due to miscarriages, and after the last D&C I noticed my periods weren’t the same. While I had always had lighter periods than some of my friends, they had a consistently normal flow lasting around three days and came every 27-28 days. Suddenly, it was as if my period came and went in two days and then only occasionally, and I would spot for days on end afterward. Wondering to myself what the problem could be, I started to go through the three questions a woman might ask if her period was light or absent:

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Be Informed,

Laura

How to Get More Sleep as a Mom

It came as no surprise to me when the Centers For Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recently revealed a study showing that 44 percent of single moms with kids under 18 at home do not get the recommended minimum seven hours of slumber per night. Headlines blared about our lack of sleep: Single Moms Are Tired! And truly, this was no news to those of us pulling the single mom shift either because of divorce or because dad decided to be a “no-show” parent. But what news articles and websites didn’t tell us single mommies was how to get more sleep! We know we’re sleep deprived but could you tell us how we could get more shut-eye? Somehow? Here are my suggestions:

Leave the Country or Use a Sleep Schedule

Leave the country and run away. That way, you will be alone and able to catch up on hours of much needed rest. Of course, that would also mean not being a mom anymore. So unless you’re ready to jump ship, instead of packing your bags and moving to Guatemala, try setting a sleep schedule for yourself.

Read More: How to Get More Sleep as a Mom

I’m Tired,

Laura

Set Your Price High

I recently met a man randomly. It wasn’t online. It was a simple chance encounter.

Honestly, it was the kind of random encounter that novelists and film makers concoct in some huge romantic comedy or drama. It was the type of thing I could talk about happening in theory, but it wouldn’t actually happen.

Until it did.

He was a supposedly, loving, smart, educated, kind and easy-going man. We had an instant connection and rapport. He didn’t leave me alone for much more than a second, always calling or texting me to ask how I was. To tell me he was thinking about me. To help me with something. Always another excuse to just randomly stop by. Even if he wasn’t in the area, he was suddenly in the area.

I thought to myself, “What a great guy.”

I couldn’t get enough of our conversations. Everything about him, was amazing. It was as if I had known him forever. I could sit in silence with him, happily.

Yes, me. Quiet. With him. A man.

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Single on Valentine’s Day? Who Cares!

Hi, my name is Laura and I am single on Valentine’s Day.
When I enter any store or public location, I am harassed and dazzled with hearts of pink and red and chocolate boxes and cards for people of all ages.
When I go to the store, my daughter points out all the Valentine’s Day candy she sees because apparently to four year-old’s, every holiday is a celebration of chocolate and gifts…upon them.
Truly, it is though.
I am Laura, and I am almost divorced, separated for almost two whole years and am completely and utterly single.
When I go to websites and social media outlets, retargeting ads hit me saying “Buy this sexy lingerie” or “Indulge in the taste of sweet chocolates.”
I am Laura, and I have gone on a bunch of dates and had not one real boyfriend (minus one guy who got really close) in the time I have been separated.

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As One & Happy,

Laura

7 Signs You’re WAY Too Freakin’ Hard On Yourself

Be nice to yourself. You’re doing better than you think you are.

We are our own worst critics, but some of us have a literal scoreboard in our head that’s constantly giving us the “thumbs down.” It’s like living with a movie review team in your head. Except, unlike the famed Siskel and Ebert, the critic in your mind doesn’t have a day off or a moment of rest.

On one hand, being hard on yourself has pluses: people who don’t really care about what they say and do aren’t typically out making the world a better place. Someone who’s hard on themselves is someone who cares about their time on this planet, and that’s a good thing! Where it becomes problematic is the intense self-criticism that sucks the joy out of life and the intense “second-guessing.”

Are you too hard on yourself? Here are a few signs you need to ease up the pressure.

  1. Your accomplishments are never enough.

You got published somewhere huge. You landed the big raise. Your master’s thesis was accepted. It’s all just bliss and kittens to everyone … except you. You should have done X. You should have gotten 5K more in that raise. Did they really approve your thesis idea? Sure, but I bet they didn’t love it.

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Be Good to Yourself,

Laura