When people hear I’m a single mom, a lot of stereotypes and myths come to mind. First off, some people would fight my single parent status: my ex and I are coparents and he is not what I call a “No-Show” or “Deadbeat Dad.” He is very present in my child’s life; however, to me, if you parent alone and without help, you are a single parent. By alone I mean no one ever comes home to relieve you. No one ever shows up to pay your bills, clean the home, care for the kid, and be an active part in you and your child’s daily routine. Instead, my ex and I “coparent.” To all the ladies and gents parenting alone with “No-Show” and “Deadbeat” parents, I commend you even more.
However, whether you’re a single mom because Dad skipped town, passed away, or you got a divorce, there are still many myths about single parents that need to go! They’re antiquated and untrue. In today’s day and age in which, according to the Pew Research Center, “Fewer than half (46%) of US kids younger than 18 years of age are living in a home with two married heterosexual parents in their first marriage,” the idea of what a family “looks” like has changed so drastically, whether it’s the gender of the parents raising the kids, the amount of parents in the home, the marital status of the two parents, and then some! The days of Leave It to Beaver are long gone. And so should some of these old tired single mom myths that I am sick of hearing.
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