The Essential Guide to Having a Work Husband or Boyfriend

He knows you like your coffee black with three sugars. He knows you have a serious addiction to Ryan Reynolds and that you and your best friend talk every day on your way home from work. He tells you when you’re having a great hair day.

“He” is otherwise known as your work boyfriend, aka the work hubby!

You can’t imagine clocking in or out without seeing your favorite co-worker, the work hubby, and he’s frequently there to join you at lunch break, talking away as if you two have known each other for life. But is your relationship with the work hubby appropriate, especially if you’re involved with a man (married or dating)? Let’s discuss the right and the wrong way to have a work boyfriend or husband.

Desk Chatting Ends at 5 p.m.

A work husband should stay your work husband: at work.

It’s OK if you feel like chatting here and there with your WH on Facebook or what have you, but the constant communication should come to a halt after 5 p.m.

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Behave,

Laura

Why It’s Time to Divorce For the Kids’ Sake

“Divorce is devastating for kids.”

“It’s so hard living between two homes. Sharing your kids is torturous. How difficult is it for kids to feel as if they’re in the middle?”

“One home and one set of parents are much better than two homes and multiple new partners or stepparents that might just be — gasp — awful.”

“Divorce means kids will grow up to be adults who never commit. Divorce means kids will grow up with issues and scars. A married family is so much better for kids”

“Just stick it out. It can’t be that bad. Right?”

Have you heard any of those phrases before? Have you told yourself any of those phrases before? Have you bought into the idea that staying in a marriage is better than leaving it? Have you bought into the fact that a broken marriage together is better than starting over, divorced and apart, for your kids?

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It’s Time,

Laura

7 Ways To Love A Woman With HUGE Balls (Metaphorically Speaking)

She might be a little terrifying.

You love this woman but she’s quite honestly the most outspoken and bravest woman you’ve met. You might just be a little terrified of her. She never hesitates to say what she means or mean what she says, and she will call you out on your sh*t more often than not.

Perhaps you wonder if you’re man enough for this woman. She might threaten your sense of masculinity if you’re truly that insecure and need someone to validate traditional roles of masculinity. She might make you question those traditional roles and ideas of gender in ways you don’t expect.

Or, you may be relieved that she can take charge and find this a huge turn-on. It might also make you feel like more of a man, no matter where you fall on the spectrum. Here’s how to love a woman with big metaphorical balls.

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She’s Got Game,

Laura

The 5 Types of Guys You’re Bound to Meet at the Gym

The gym. It’s your haven. You might feel a little more at home at the gym than at work, or heck, even your own home. It’s the place you are at your worst and sweatiest, yet it’s also the place that you’re at your best. Your most hopeful. Your most powerful.

But as women, chances are hight that during a “moment” in our safe haven (aka the gym), our sanity and Zen attitude has been jarred by at least one of these five guys that women always seem to run into at the gym.

The Creepy Guy

Some of these guys have actual issues and others don’t have proper social graces, but the weird man who stares, as if he’s from The Silence of the Lambs asking for “the lotion, Clarice,” is so unnerving that you almost wished you joined an all-female gym or decided to work out at home that day.

Even when you give him your pitiful “please don’t chop me up into pieces” face he still stares back blankly at you as if he doesn’t register your pain and the awkwardness of his stare. The struggle is real.

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It’s a Scary Scene at the Gym Sometimes,

Laura

Why I Love Working and I Don’t Feel Bad About It

Let’s be real for a few minutes, shall we?

I am a divorced single mom. Not working is not an option. Work is survival. I am the head of my household, and that’s not likely to change anytime soon. When I was at home with my daughter, I built a lifetime of memories into two and a half short years, and if I could do it over again, I would. I miss all that quality time I had with my girl. I miss not running around like a mad woman. I miss having time to schedule things rather than cramming every moment in. I miss feeling like I could slow down for one second without worrying about when life was going to bulldoze me over.

But those days are long gone. And you know what? My single parenthood. My divorce. My hectic, crazy life does not mean I go on day to day, surviving. I thrive. And even more still, I actually enjoy working. I enjoy knowing that, at the end of the day, no man or other human being is responsible for me and my daughter’s care. That, ultimately, the fruit of my labors bring us care, shelter, food, and more. That my efforts are building a young girl’s world and substantiating mine!

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Sisters Are Happily Doing it For Themselves,

Laura

Beyond Fertility: Why You Need to Pay Attention to Your Period

When you first got your period you probably experienced a combination of excitement — “I’m a woman!” — and dread — “Ugh, is this going to suck every month?” And if you are lucky, your cycle has been a regular and predictable ever since you wore your first maxi pad, but for many of us, our periods can become an outright problem.

I delivered my daughter via C-section and have had two D&C’s (dilation and curettage) due to miscarriages, and after the last D&C I noticed my periods weren’t the same. While I had always had lighter periods than some of my friends, they had a consistently normal flow lasting around three days and came every 27-28 days. Suddenly, it was as if my period came and went in two days and then only occasionally, and I would spot for days on end afterward. Wondering to myself what the problem could be, I started to go through the three questions a woman might ask if her period was light or absent:

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Be Informed,

Laura

Here’s How to Know If a Guy Will Be Good in Bed — It May Surprise You!

You’ve met someone. And this time? You think you might actually like him. When his name starts to get peppered into your conversations with friends, that’s when they start popping the questions:

  • Did you two kiss?
  • Have you done it?
  • What’s he like in bed?

The questions fall out of their mouths like wildfire but the fact remains that you haven’t done the deed with him yet. It’s just been intense makeout sessions or perhaps not even that. So how do you know if this new man is going to deliver when it comes time to hit the sheets? Well, there’s no scientific guarantee to measure whether your man is going to curl your toes or not, but there are a few signs that say you might have snagged a hot one!

And if you have? Enjoy and do tell the ladies. Not everyone can be so fortunate to have a man that makes love and does the deed like a champ!

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I Hope You Get Lucky,

Laura

How to Get More Sleep as a Mom

It came as no surprise to me when the Centers For Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recently revealed a study showing that 44 percent of single moms with kids under 18 at home do not get the recommended minimum seven hours of slumber per night. Headlines blared about our lack of sleep: Single Moms Are Tired! And truly, this was no news to those of us pulling the single mom shift either because of divorce or because dad decided to be a “no-show” parent. But what news articles and websites didn’t tell us single mommies was how to get more sleep! We know we’re sleep deprived but could you tell us how we could get more shut-eye? Somehow? Here are my suggestions:

Leave the Country or Use a Sleep Schedule

Leave the country and run away. That way, you will be alone and able to catch up on hours of much needed rest. Of course, that would also mean not being a mom anymore. So unless you’re ready to jump ship, instead of packing your bags and moving to Guatemala, try setting a sleep schedule for yourself.

Read More: How to Get More Sleep as a Mom

I’m Tired,

Laura

Set Your Price High

I recently met a man randomly. It wasn’t online. It was a simple chance encounter.

Honestly, it was the kind of random encounter that novelists and film makers concoct in some huge romantic comedy or drama. It was the type of thing I could talk about happening in theory, but it wouldn’t actually happen.

Until it did.

He was a supposedly, loving, smart, educated, kind and easy-going man. We had an instant connection and rapport. He didn’t leave me alone for much more than a second, always calling or texting me to ask how I was. To tell me he was thinking about me. To help me with something. Always another excuse to just randomly stop by. Even if he wasn’t in the area, he was suddenly in the area.

I thought to myself, “What a great guy.”

I couldn’t get enough of our conversations. Everything about him, was amazing. It was as if I had known him forever. I could sit in silence with him, happily.

Yes, me. Quiet. With him. A man.

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Single on Valentine’s Day? Who Cares!

Hi, my name is Laura and I am single on Valentine’s Day.
When I enter any store or public location, I am harassed and dazzled with hearts of pink and red and chocolate boxes and cards for people of all ages.
When I go to the store, my daughter points out all the Valentine’s Day candy she sees because apparently to four year-old’s, every holiday is a celebration of chocolate and gifts…upon them.
Truly, it is though.
I am Laura, and I am almost divorced, separated for almost two whole years and am completely and utterly single.
When I go to websites and social media outlets, retargeting ads hit me saying “Buy this sexy lingerie” or “Indulge in the taste of sweet chocolates.”
I am Laura, and I have gone on a bunch of dates and had not one real boyfriend (minus one guy who got really close) in the time I have been separated.

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As One & Happy,

Laura