What It’s Like to Have Too Much to Offer As A Divorced Woman

I used to think that I wasn’t good enough. Mainly because of late tween and teenage experiences that bled into more colorful but not so great experiences in my early-twenties. And then furthermore, being married to someone who loved me based on conditions and not on who I was. Someone that could give up and someone that didn’t seem to see the best in me, even though I was trying my best. Perhaps he was too.

Now I know I am good enough. I have much to offer. A stable career. A blooming career. The ambition of a billion men and (wo)men. The spirit and energy of a teenager. The friendliness of a Labrador Retriever. A healthy child. Great friends. Two parents who tolerate me. Wink.

I’m fit and healthy. I have a good work-life balance although yes, I am rather busy. I make friends with strangers. I am open and not bitter. I am not the least bit grieving my divorce.

Yet somehow I end up feeling as if I have “too much” to offer someone that often dates, back off or never happen.

Guys worry: Are you judging my grammar? ( I am a writer after all.)

You write about sex? Wow. Intimidating.

Read More: What It’s Like to Have Too Much to Offer As A Divorced Woman

Strong & Tall (Well, In Spirit),

Laura

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5 Signs He or She Doesn’t Care About you

When someone shares his or her feelings with you and says he or she cares, it could make your heart skyrocket for days, especially when the feelings are intense and mutual.

But the reality is when it comes to love and relationships, words matter but actions matter more. How do you truly know if the person you’re involved with, whether male or female, is genuine?

Here are 5 Signs he or she doesn’t truly care about you.

I recently dealt with a guy who seemed like a dream. A great man with good values. But because he wasn’t able to commit, I questioned (and still do) how viable his feelings were for me even though he seemed like a wonderful man and person.

 

In my eyes if someone truly cares about you, he or she will:

1- Be Ready to Prioritize You

If he or she isn’t making you a priority, most likely your potential partner doesn’t really care.

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The Essential Guide to Having a Work Husband or Boyfriend

He knows you like your coffee black with three sugars. He knows you have a serious addiction to Ryan Reynolds and that you and your best friend talk every day on your way home from work. He tells you when you’re having a great hair day.

“He” is otherwise known as your work boyfriend, aka the work hubby!

You can’t imagine clocking in or out without seeing your favorite co-worker, the work hubby, and he’s frequently there to join you at lunch break, talking away as if you two have known each other for life. But is your relationship with the work hubby appropriate, especially if you’re involved with a man (married or dating)? Let’s discuss the right and the wrong way to have a work boyfriend or husband.

Desk Chatting Ends at 5 p.m.

A work husband should stay your work husband: at work.

It’s OK if you feel like chatting here and there with your WH on Facebook or what have you, but the constant communication should come to a halt after 5 p.m.

Read More: The Essential Guide to Having a Work Husband or Boyfriend

Behave,

Laura

Why It’s Time to Divorce For the Kids’ Sake

“Divorce is devastating for kids.”

“It’s so hard living between two homes. Sharing your kids is torturous. How difficult is it for kids to feel as if they’re in the middle?”

“One home and one set of parents are much better than two homes and multiple new partners or stepparents that might just be — gasp — awful.”

“Divorce means kids will grow up to be adults who never commit. Divorce means kids will grow up with issues and scars. A married family is so much better for kids”

“Just stick it out. It can’t be that bad. Right?”

Have you heard any of those phrases before? Have you told yourself any of those phrases before? Have you bought into the idea that staying in a marriage is better than leaving it? Have you bought into the fact that a broken marriage together is better than starting over, divorced and apart, for your kids?

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It’s Time,

Laura

7 Ways To Love A Woman With HUGE Balls (Metaphorically Speaking)

She might be a little terrifying.

You love this woman but she’s quite honestly the most outspoken and bravest woman you’ve met. You might just be a little terrified of her. She never hesitates to say what she means or mean what she says, and she will call you out on your sh*t more often than not.

Perhaps you wonder if you’re man enough for this woman. She might threaten your sense of masculinity if you’re truly that insecure and need someone to validate traditional roles of masculinity. She might make you question those traditional roles and ideas of gender in ways you don’t expect.

Or, you may be relieved that she can take charge and find this a huge turn-on. It might also make you feel like more of a man, no matter where you fall on the spectrum. Here’s how to love a woman with big metaphorical balls.

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She’s Got Game,

Laura

When to Accept It’s Over For You

I hesitated to write this but felt compelled to get it off my petite shoulders.

I am happily single but there is one thing that I have yet to grapple with. The fact that it is over.

Oh not my marriage. That I am totally fine with being over. Yes, I said that. I am fine with having a divorce. I am not grieving the end anymore. I am sure once I get word that my divorce is final that I may feel some sadness but to be honest, I am not sure there will be any more pain. I am done, done, done. And so is he. That chapter is long shut.

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The 5 Types of Guys You’re Bound to Meet at the Gym

The gym. It’s your haven. You might feel a little more at home at the gym than at work, or heck, even your own home. It’s the place you are at your worst and sweatiest, yet it’s also the place that you’re at your best. Your most hopeful. Your most powerful.

But as women, chances are hight that during a “moment” in our safe haven (aka the gym), our sanity and Zen attitude has been jarred by at least one of these five guys that women always seem to run into at the gym.

The Creepy Guy

Some of these guys have actual issues and others don’t have proper social graces, but the weird man who stares, as if he’s from The Silence of the Lambs asking for “the lotion, Clarice,” is so unnerving that you almost wished you joined an all-female gym or decided to work out at home that day.

Even when you give him your pitiful “please don’t chop me up into pieces” face he still stares back blankly at you as if he doesn’t register your pain and the awkwardness of his stare. The struggle is real.

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It’s a Scary Scene at the Gym Sometimes,

Laura

Why I Love Working and I Don’t Feel Bad About It

Let’s be real for a few minutes, shall we?

I am a divorced single mom. Not working is not an option. Work is survival. I am the head of my household, and that’s not likely to change anytime soon. When I was at home with my daughter, I built a lifetime of memories into two and a half short years, and if I could do it over again, I would. I miss all that quality time I had with my girl. I miss not running around like a mad woman. I miss having time to schedule things rather than cramming every moment in. I miss feeling like I could slow down for one second without worrying about when life was going to bulldoze me over.

But those days are long gone. And you know what? My single parenthood. My divorce. My hectic, crazy life does not mean I go on day to day, surviving. I thrive. And even more still, I actually enjoy working. I enjoy knowing that, at the end of the day, no man or other human being is responsible for me and my daughter’s care. That, ultimately, the fruit of my labors bring us care, shelter, food, and more. That my efforts are building a young girl’s world and substantiating mine!

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Sisters Are Happily Doing it For Themselves,

Laura

Beyond Fertility: Why You Need to Pay Attention to Your Period

When you first got your period you probably experienced a combination of excitement — “I’m a woman!” — and dread — “Ugh, is this going to suck every month?” And if you are lucky, your cycle has been a regular and predictable ever since you wore your first maxi pad, but for many of us, our periods can become an outright problem.

I delivered my daughter via C-section and have had two D&C’s (dilation and curettage) due to miscarriages, and after the last D&C I noticed my periods weren’t the same. While I had always had lighter periods than some of my friends, they had a consistently normal flow lasting around three days and came every 27-28 days. Suddenly, it was as if my period came and went in two days and then only occasionally, and I would spot for days on end afterward. Wondering to myself what the problem could be, I started to go through the three questions a woman might ask if her period was light or absent:

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Be Informed,

Laura

Here’s How to Know If a Guy Will Be Good in Bed — It May Surprise You!

You’ve met someone. And this time? You think you might actually like him. When his name starts to get peppered into your conversations with friends, that’s when they start popping the questions:

  • Did you two kiss?
  • Have you done it?
  • What’s he like in bed?

The questions fall out of their mouths like wildfire but the fact remains that you haven’t done the deed with him yet. It’s just been intense makeout sessions or perhaps not even that. So how do you know if this new man is going to deliver when it comes time to hit the sheets? Well, there’s no scientific guarantee to measure whether your man is going to curl your toes or not, but there are a few signs that say you might have snagged a hot one!

And if you have? Enjoy and do tell the ladies. Not everyone can be so fortunate to have a man that makes love and does the deed like a champ!

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I Hope You Get Lucky,

Laura