Are you in love, or is it just hormones?
I asked someone this, who I really cared about.
I was trying to decide: Did I really love this man or was I simply just, well, drunk on oxytocin and other various hormones?
I mean, the person in question is incredibly attractive. Great body. Beautiful face. Even better touch.
All of those factors could have meant my feelings were really just hormones and hot-in the pants and not necessarily, straight from the heart. Although let’s be real: a good relationship requires “hot in the pants” and “straight from the heart.”
I found my answer though, when I went down this little list of mine. Here are a few ways to tell whether it’s love or hormones:
1- You Can Talk to the Person
If you crave the person’s conversation, you might be in love & not just well, horny.
2- Circle of Friends
You want the person to be a part of your circle, and not just in your bed.
3-The Room Stops
This is sort of hormonal, primitive and I believe, evolutionary: the feeling that when you see the person, the room stops and no one else exists: it’s love and hormones together. And primal. Hunter-like. Your target is your focus. Everything else is a blur. To survive, you would have had to focus on the kill. It’s the same with love.
4- They Bring More Than Orgasms
The person brings comfort, love, trust and then some…
5- Values on Target
You don’t need to agree to everything, but you need to have common ground. When you share that common ground, it’s the pathway to long-lasting love.
6-Forgive & Want More For The Person
If you forgive easily and would put that person’s happiness above your own– you’re in love. Congrats!
7- They Know
You share with him or her things you wouldn’t with others. You tell that person first.
The person understands you. Sometimes, it just takes a look.
Wouldn’t you know it?
It might be love.
Good Luck My Hunters & Gatherers,