You’ve been unhappy now for a while. It’s been so long that you’ve forgotten what happy looks like. Some people have no idea what you’re enduring. On the outside, you two look like a happy couple. But to the people who know you well, they know the full story and there are no pretenses there. You’re unhappy, and it shows. Even when you think you’re putting on a good show for the kids, you’re not. Even if your children can’t put their finger on what’s wrong with Mommy exactly, they know that their mother is not happy.
And most likely, although I know you don’t want to hear this, your kids see you in an unhappy marriage, especially the older children who have the outside world to compare your situation to. But because you’re a great mother, you stick around in this unhappy situation, believing wholeheartedly that you must be doing the right thing by staying married for your children. You feel by choosing unhappiness for yourself, you are choosing happiness for your children. Besides, how could you do it by yourself anyway? It would be impossible. You settle for your miserable marriage because you’ve told yourself it could be worse. They could be worse. You could be worse off. Your kids could be worse off.
Is it Worth Your Sanity and Theirs?