Growing up with two married parents, I really didn’t have a framework for what my daughter, a child of divorce, would go through when her dad and I split up. Although I hate the expression “child of divorce,” as we didn’t make her from divorce, the fact is she has a rather different experience than I did as a child. I wanted to understand what it might be like to go through her shoes. So I interviewed my friends, at least 10 who were all children of divorce, and over time as a parent undergoing the divorce process, I learned a lot about what things a kid doesn’t need to hear or deal with about divorce or from his or her divorced parents.
1. Negative Comments About the Other Parent
I don’t really care if your ex was a deadbeat dad or if your ex-wife was a royal b*tch. The bottom line is your child most likely loves the both of you so much that your negative comments or a family member’s comments, like a grandparent or aunt or uncle, are detrimental to your child. When someone else goes to say something bad about a child’s parent during or after the divorce process, it injures the child severely.
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Be the Adult,
A great post , all very true , please don’t forget there are men out there also who are affected the same way , whilst I wish the mama’s out there the very best they are not an elite group worthy of any greater or lesser praise
This article isn’t about moms or dads, but about the children.
Yes, there are hardworking dads who are also affected by divorce, no doubt.