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What Your Sex Style Reveals About Your Personality

In relationships, sex on December 15, 2016 at 2:03 am

How you love, live and seduce in the bedroom says a lot about your personality. The bedroom is a place of play, intimacy, and secrecy in many aspects for your average adult. Even though many of us have many different facets and aspects to our personality, the bedroom can reveal sides of ourselves that no one else has seen before, other than our partners.

So what really can your bedroom style say about your sex personality? More than you would care to admit.

Dominant Style

A person who is domineering in bed is behaving as such for two reasons: lacking power in his or her real life, or craves power in all aspects of his or her world.

For the person craving power, he or she may be having issues at work or be unemployed. He or she might be under financial stress or having to make personal sacrifices that he or she doesn’t want to do. Perhaps it’s a woman who spent years with a controlling and abusive man and she now wants to reclaim power. Perhaps it’s a man who was cheated on and emasculated by a former wife or partner. Gaining his mojo back requires a little power in-between the sheets.

The bedroom is then a place to earn back some pride and power in a life of feeling powerless. Sex and the bedroom are separate domains to “get it back” and feel confident again. It can make an underdog a hero again, at least in the bedroom sense of “hero.”

Read More: What Your Sex Style Reveals About Your Personality

What Type Are You?

Laura

I Am Not A Second Option. Either Choose Me Or Lose Me.

In dating advice, love, relationships on December 15, 2016 at 2:01 am

When you’re a matter of convenience and not a matter of the heart, you know you’ve got to walk away.

Let’s be real. We have all been the second choice. Default option. Substitute woman. Sidepiece. Batter-up. Understudy. Pinch Hitter. It’s the worst position to be in.

When you’re little, you’re taught to be a graceful loser. But when you’re a man’s second option, you’re fooled into thinking you matter, except it’s really not true. You’re just getting slivers and slices of this person’s affection, but somehow you’ve been walking around like you must matter to this man.

But you don’t.

You matter when it’s convenient for him. You matter when his first choice doesn’t show up or fulfill her role. You matter on an “as needed basis.” There’s no pain greater than continuing to live as the second option and accepting your occasional walk-on role in a man’s life.

So there must be a time when you decide no more. Finito. It’s time to retire the damn role of “default option.” It’s time to decide that you deserve to be the first choice, primary woman, lover, and friend, the priority not an option. The be-all-end all owner of his heart.

Read More: I Am Not A Second Option. Either Choose Me Or Lose Me.

Be Number #1,

Laura

A Single Mom’s Prayer

In single dad, single mom, Uncategorized on December 12, 2016 at 3:29 am

Now I lay me down to sleep…except for, I am still awake.

Awake thinking of the many things I meant to do, but couldn’t get done today.

Awake thinking of the things I said that I second guess—

In my mind, I go over these conversations with my child and wonder if something could have been said differently or if perhaps, there was something I might have missed in her words.

Or if perhaps, my strong love came through with each sentence, word and syllable

As she lays down to sleep,

I pray she doesn’t feel the difference between us and “them:”

As we walk our neighborhood on crisp days, she points to houses and says, “I want us to have our own home.”

As she lays down to sleep,

I hope she knows how amazing, creative, smart, strong and bright her light already is.

I sit and hope.

Hope that each day in every way,

my child knows I love her.

Read More: A Single Mom’s Prayer

 

Amen,

Laura

How to Use Wine in the Bedroom

In humor, sex on December 12, 2016 at 3:27 am

You’ve met a very discerning man or a scintillating lady of taste. You’ve been on your very best behavior. You mentioned your stint in the Peace Corps twice and then once more because they were rustling their napkin the first time and chewing loudly the second. You dropped mention of all your charity works and in between describing all the joys you have brought to the less fortunate, you remembered to flash your abs, flex your arms, or push out your chest and bat your eyelids. The mating dance is officially complete, and it’s finally that time: the Sexy Time. 

But all your grad school accomplishments and your fancy office and your good deeds won’t get your new amour in bed quite like a great bottle of wine will. Here’s how to use wine in the bedroom:

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Va-va Voom!

Laura

Broke Single Parent Holiday

In single dad, single mom, single parent life on December 12, 2016 at 3:26 am

The buzz is on. Everyone is chatting about their awesome holiday vacations. The presents they’re buying for their spouses. The gift list they have made for their kiddos. The smashing New Year’s Eve reservations they’ve got in store. It sounds so thrilling and wonderful, but to you it feels pretty god darn awful. This is the part in which your “Fa-la-la-la-la” is completely flat:

The part in which you realize you’re flat broke and there’s no awesome holiday getaway or hot spousal date or worse, amazing list of gifts you’re dying to buy your kids.

Sure. Those things exist in your head but they’re not reality. Instead, you sit down and look at your budget. You look at how much money you have coming in and how much you can use to contribute towards the holidays, whether that be taking any days off or buying gifts for your children. You don’t feel so “Fa-la-la-la-la,” when you look at the bottom line that money is tight and that you’re going to be lucky if you can take vacation days because guess what? As a single parent you probably used up quite a bit already.

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You’re Rich In Love,

Laura

How to Survive the Holidays Alone

In Single Life on December 12, 2016 at 3:24 am

The holidays are the most wonderful time of the year, but they can also feel like the most gosh darn awful time of the year when you’re alone.

It’s not that you need a partner to “jingle all the way,” light a menorah, or watch the ball drop, but the holidays symbolize love, togetherness, and an exchange of affections for all who we love, from family to romantic partners. And hey, let’s not forget those tantalizing Victoria’s Secret ads we ladies see each holiday season with a whole lingerie line full of whimsical, lacy nothings guaranteed to impress our hot, hunky . . .

Nobodies. We’ve got nobody.

Suddenly, you can really feel like you just got a whole bunch of coal in your fishnet stockings . . .

But instead of hanging your head and doing the weeping woman sob of shame, buck up, buttercup! The holidays can be pretty amazing alone, too. After all, there’s no tag line that states you must be a part of duo in order to enjoy the most wonderful time of the year.

Survive the holidays this year alone by not surviving, but thriving.

Read More: How to Survive the Holidays Alone

Alone, Not Lonely,

Laura

Nervous About Meeting His Family Over the Holidays? Read This First

In dating, dating advice, love, relationships on December 12, 2016 at 3:23 am

Meeting your partner’s family for the first time can be stressful, but then top it off with meeting them at the holidays, no less, and you’ve got a recipe for nerves. Before you decide to run away, break up, or pretend to be sick, put these tips in your back pocket, put on your best outfit and shoes, and you’ve got this!

1. Pick Your Most Comfortable and Polished Outfit

Now is not the time to choose those pants that you can’t quite zip up or put on that racy blouse, even if your honey loves it. Choose an outfit in which you feel comfortable and look good — even if you think it’s a little dull.

Also watch your shirtsleeves — when you’re nervous, you tend to sweat more than you typically do. Having a comfortable outfit will make you at least feel at ease.

Read More: Nervous About Meeting His Family Over the Holidays? Read This First

You’ll Do Just Fine,

Laura

Check out my article on “The View”

In women on December 12, 2016 at 3:21 am

Whoopi Goldberg and the ladies on  The View discussed my article, “What Does Your Panty Style Say About Your Personality on TV!”

Read the article here.

Watch The View’s “panty discussion!

Thong or Bikini Briefs?

Laura