In career, motherhood, sex, working mom life on January 30, 2017 at 8:54 pm
Listen up, girlfriends: All those times you’ve been saying you’ve got a headache is secretly jeopardizing your home and employment life. Having more sex makes you a better employee—and mother! No, really. The more times you hop in the sack, the more likely you are to hit a home run at work and with the kiddos. Here’s why:
1. You’ll Get Better Sleep
Having sex helps you get better sleep—something we could all use. As you bond with your partner, your body secretes the hormone oxytocin, often called “the love hormone.” That’s also the same hormone responsible for bonding with your baby, especially when nursing. Thanks to oxytocin, your body will be more relaxed, so you’ll be less stressed, leading to better sleep for you, mama.
And with better sleep comes a brighter morning handling a bunch of kids before running off to work and kicking serious butt in the office. So say yes next time your significant other wants to get frisky. Maybe you’ll get a raise, too!
Read More: 5 Ways Sex Makes You a Better Mom and Employee
Do It Tonight,
In divorce on January 27, 2017 at 4:35 pm
You pay your attorney a lot of money per hour that sometimes, your lawyer feels akin to an expensive boyfriend or girlfriend. Sometimes you think it might be easier if you just handed over your paycheck to your lawyer, or have him or her dole out an allowance to you on your earnings… since most of your money goes to your legal bill anyway! Hopefully if you’re like me, you really like your family lawyer, but even if you don’t, have you ever considered what he or she thinks about you?
Are you your divorce attorney’s worst client or favorite?
7 things your divorce attorney thinks about you:
1 – You’re not always reasonable
Some of your requests are just batty or clearly the sign of an angry spouse. If your attorney is a good attorney, he or she will tell you flat out that’s not something that will:
- B-Is reasonable enough for you to ask
Read More: 7 Things Your Divorce Attorney Thinks About You
Calm or Crazy?
In marriage, marriage advice, Uncategorized on January 27, 2017 at 3:58 pm
Affairs aren’t the only sign that there is clear trouble in a marriage. Some signs of trouble in a marriage are very obvious and others more subtle. Sometimes, others can see the trouble from the outside in before a couple can, and in some circumstances, the trouble is only prevalent to the couple; those haunting difficulties they share in private.
Read on to learn for nine signs that there’s big trouble in little China, i.e. your marriage, other than blatant affairs.
1. Consumed With Social Media
If your partner is chained to Facebook, it may be because the boy’s got a serious flirtation going on with an ex . . . or he’s hunting for old girlfriends.
If you’re the party whose nose is fixated on the news feeds, you may be doing the exact same thing. Tuning into social and tuning out your partner is a big fat sign your marriage is in deep dog doo-doo or the two of you are just negligent partners.
Read More: 9 Signs Besides an Affair That Your Marriage Is in Trouble
Deep, Deep Trouble,
In marriage, marriage advice, sex on January 26, 2017 at 2:50 am
If YOU won’t wear lingerie for your husband, who will?
I was at a mom’s event listening to all the woman chatter. One mom told me how she loved her yoga pants.
“I live in them,” she said.
“They’re comfortable,” I offered.
“My husband says I wear them too much. He complained. He asked if I would buy some sexy lingerie. He wants me to wear lingerie for him rather than these.”
She pointed down to her yoga pants and continued on, “I’m NOT wearing lingerie for him.” She snorted, chuckling like it was the most insane request a husband could make for a wife.
Before walking away I told her, “I think you should. I’m sure you’ll look great.”
Because if she’s not wearing lingerie for him, who is she wearing it for? And if she’s not wearing lingerie for him, who will instead?
Isn’t your husband the one person you should wear lingerie for? I mean, it’s OK to have your hot fantasies about that random guy at the gym or your old boyfriend from college, but shouldn’t this woman — shouldn’t every woman — want to wear lingerie for their husbands?
Read More: Dear Lazy Wives: Lose The Yoga Pants And Wear The DAMN Lingerie
In life, love, relationships on January 23, 2017 at 2:13 am
There is a fine line between being done with love, giving up before you should pull the plug, and ending a bad situation when you’ve hit that “f*ck this” point. There’s a difference between defeat and the admission of failure before you’ve even given something a chance, and finally getting tired of a circus act and throwing in the towel.
Giving up is a failure. It’s backing out of something due to fear of failure, anxieties of many kinds, or low self-esteem.
Cutting off a dead-end situation isn’t a failure. It’s a victory. It’s admitting that something or someone in your life is bad for you, to you or with you. It’s deciding to win. It’s making a better choice.
When you give up, you are cutting off a place or piece of you before it’s even begun. It’s the career you really wanted but were too afraid to go for. It’s meeting someone and feeling butterflies in the pit of your belly and running away because you don’t want him to end up like the others. It’s trying to achieve a fitness goal but realizing it’s going to take a lot of work and you’re too discouraged.
Giving up is when you see that your end result — whether it’s true love, more money, the better career — is difficult, time-consuming or risky, and you decide to back out before the curtains have even been pulled.
Read More: There’s A Difference Between Giving Up And Saying, ‘I’ve Had Enough’
Is it Failure or Victory?
In divorce advice on January 19, 2017 at 2:44 am
Getting a divorce is a marathon—not a sprint and if you know you’re going down the divorce road, prepping your finances is a smart way to handle what’s about to come your way. Finances can be the hardest obstacle of them all in divorce. It’s one thing to go through the various emotions of divorce—grief, anger, happiness, relief and sadness, but quite another to be potentially facing a perilous financial situation.
Here are some tips to help you financially prep for divorce:
1- Assess your accounts and debts—joint and sole:
Here’s one piece of scary news—you better hope your spouse doesn’t have debt secretly wracked up because as the spouse, you can be held responsible. This is something out of your control, but what you can do is assess all the joint and sole accounts and debts. Get a handle on what the two of you stand to have to pay off—and what the two of you will potentially be fighting for, or splitting.
And if you don’t have your own account…
Read more: 8 Tips to Help You with Finances When Facing Divorce
Run With Purpose,
In marriage, marriage advice on January 19, 2017 at 2:41 am
If you asked me what the secret is to keeping people married, I would tell you there is “no secret.” I think that there are simple and logical things couples can do to avoid heading for divorce court. I also believe that if you don’t want to get a divorce, try to marry smartly. One of the things I didn’t do was marry smartly. There were red flags and questions about compatibility from the beginning, but at the same time I was in love and rather naïve to long-term relationships. The beautiful gift I got in the end was a gorgeous and healthy daughter. But there are things you can do divorce-proof your marriage as much as possible, and at the very least know no matter what that you tried your best as a wife for your marriage — always.
1. Be Separate
Give your partner some space. Constantly making your partner “ask for permission” to do things makes your spouse feel as if you’re a parent, not a partner. Let your partner have freedom to be, but not so much that your poor spouse wonders if you even like him or her.
2. Agree to Disagree
On some topics if the two of you are constantly butting heads, ask yourself if it’s really worth it to you to battle. Sometimes you need to agree to disagree and then let it die. If you knew going into the marriage that your partner always does X, Y, or Z and it annoys you, accept it and stop the fight. Picking battles is crucial.
Read More: 10 Ways to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage
Do Your Best,
In dating advice, divorce on January 9, 2017 at 3:20 am
Dating after divorce. Ah. When my ex and I first separated, it felt exciting to date and also, a bit like dodging bullets. While it wasn’t a whole new world — I had obviously dated before — it was still a new playing field and I came into dating differently this time, than I had before marriage.
Heed these expert dating tips offered to you by myself and Jason McClain — speaker, mentor, and life coach — before you go off into the wild yonder of dating after divorce. It’s better to have some wise advice under your belt in order to avoid unnecessary strife and heartache.
1. Get Out Those Old Ugly Feelings:
Jason McClain, urges you to reach out before dating and spend time with a good counselor or best friend to air out your feelings. Does either individual believe you are ready to date again? Ask for an honest answer.
From my perspective, there is nothing worse than sitting on a date with someone who is still angry, hurting, or messed-up over a former spouse. It’s very off-putting and instantly feels like the person needs therapy, and not romance.
Read More: 10 Expert Dating Tips After Divorce
Are You Ready?
In humor, motherhood on January 9, 2017 at 3:09 am
Some might say it’s the staple item of male excitement.
Some might say it’s the staple item of female fitness.
The majority of moms would say it’s the wardrobe necessity of choice.
Actually, make that THE wardrobe, period.
For all the teasing a mom’s partner will give her about her varied outfits of black yoga pants, black yoga pants, and black yoga pants, these partners don’t understand the pure vitality and life comfort a pair of yoga pants brings. The pure sight of clean yoga pants in a mother’s burgeoning clean laundry pile of is a sight almost as welcome as a child silently sleeping.
So ladies, don’t let people’s negativity around your yoga pants ruin a perfectly great relationship. Think about it, is there any other relationship in which you receive such ease and comfort? Is there any other relationship in which you receive no stress or aggravation? Nope! Even your family cat or dog can be a real pain in the ass sometimes.
So screw the haters, here are just eight reasons to justify all that yoga pant wearing (not that we need reasons…):
Read More: 8 Ways to Justify Living in Your Yoga Pants
In love, relationships on January 5, 2017 at 3:34 am
Do you keep finding yourself in bad relationships that are toxic or abusive? Perhaps unfulfilling or too tumultuous?
Instead of saying, “Oh I just have bad luck” or “I always meet the weird ones” or “Why does this always happen to me?” you need to realize: these relationships aren’t happening to you by chance, but by choice.
People who know how to have healthy relationships did not simply “get lucky” at dating bingo; instead, they made smart, healthy choices about love and their life. That’s why they’re happily and healthily coupled.
Bottom line: a healthy relationship happens by choice, not by chance. Here are 5 signs you don’t know how to have a healthy relationship.
1. You always meet bad guys.
If you find that every guy you seem to meet is a scumbag, that could be chance… as long as you’re not getting involved with them. If you find that the people you meet and subsequently date are “bad apples,” this comes from how you feel about yourself.
Healthy, happy people do not tolerate bad apples for long, or a second even. Healthy, happy people leave a situation once they realize it’s bad. They don’t stay to end up wounded.
Read More: Healthy Relationships Happen By Choice, Not By Chance