There are many reasons why a parent may be absent from a child’s life. In divorce, usually a parent is simply sharing custody time with another parent, rather than being absent; however, sometimes with divorce, one parent will “lessen” his or her commitment to the child/children or worse, become completely absent.
There are many reasons for a divorced parent’s absence, although most of them aren’t good reasons but simply, filthy excuses.
Some of the good reasons may be work-related, like work travel or perhaps military service or sickness.
Some of the bad “reasons?” A new relationship or abandoning the “old” kids for a new family are two lame excuses that sadly, happen more commonly in divorce than people think. And then there are actual chemical or mental health issues that affect a parent’s ability to be a parent like, drug addiction, gambling or other mental health related issues.
If your child is missing an absent parent due to military service or work travel, it’s easier to write off why to yourself and your kids why mom or dad isn’t around. But when it comes to more complicated reasons or plain old terrible excuses, it can be difficult to express to your child what’s going on.
How do you explain an absent parent to a child?