If you asked me what the secret is to keeping people married, I would tell you there is “no secret.” I think that there are simple and logical things couples can do to avoid heading for divorce court. I also believe that if you don’t want to get a divorce, try to marry smartly. One of the things I didn’t do was marry smartly. There were red flags and questions about compatibility from the beginning, but at the same time I was in love and rather naïve to long-term relationships. The beautiful gift I got in the end was a gorgeous and healthy daughter. But there are things you can do divorce-proof your marriage as much as possible, and at the very least know no matter what that you tried your best as a wife for your marriage — always.
1. Be Separate
Give your partner some space. Constantly making your partner “ask for permission” to do things makes your spouse feel as if you’re a parent, not a partner. Let your partner have freedom to be, but not so much that your poor spouse wonders if you even like him or her.
2. Agree to Disagree
On some topics if the two of you are constantly butting heads, ask yourself if it’s really worth it to you to battle. Sometimes you need to agree to disagree and then let it die. If you knew going into the marriage that your partner always does X, Y, or Z and it annoys you, accept it and stop the fight. Picking battles is crucial.
Read More: 10 Ways to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage
Do Your Best,
