When I randomly look through articles I have written on divorce or read through comments on social media posts of these same articles, there’s always at least one or two “shamers” trolling the pieces. Usually these shamers quote biblical accounts or talk about how these people must be weak or awful, terrible parents (if divorced with kids) or quitters. How back in the day, “people stayed married.” It’s funny. These random strangers seem to think they know everything about a complete stranger’s divorce and life from one article. The ones who quote religion are acting as a “god” of sorts, passing judgments on people they’ve never met and never will.
You, the divorced or the person about to get divorced may also get shamers from your community. Family. Friends. Neighbors. Acquaintances. “Another one bites the dust. Another one quits.” You can see it on their faces, hear it in their words.
Well, as someone three years out and happy, I can tell you: pay these shamers no mind.
#1 Who Made These Folks The Boss Of Your Life?
Really, who gets to tell you what to do or how to feel about your life? Why would you let anyone tell you how to feel about your marriage, your divorce, or anything, period?
No one is the boss of you. Just you. And if someone pulls in religion, remind this person of free will. You have the right to leave someone. You have the right to move on. Unless these people are paying your bills and wiping your tush, who are they? Pay no mind!
No Shame In My Game!