One of the worst parts about divorce and separation is the initial marching band that’s going off in your brain, and no—this isn’t a nice “in-tune” band. There’s like a cacophony of clashing notes…a melody in constant “minor” and the feeling as if your brain never shuts the heck up. How do you, after the divorce papers are signed and you’re walking out into the world as a newly single Mr. or as Ms., find some peace as you make a whole new life?
You adopt mental mantras that you say daily, or as needed, in order to fool both you and your brain into believing you’ll be ok because guess what? You will be! You just need to make yourself believe so.
1) For the Discouraged: This Too Shall Pass:
It was my saying of the summer! I am still saying it.
You will encounter some new hardships as a divorced person and if you have kids, they’ll also be going through major changes.
As hard as things are today, remind yourself that they won’t be around tomorrow.
Indeed in time, everything changes.
This too SHALL pass. Repeat.
2) For the Brand New Single Parent: I Am Only One Person:
I tell my daughter this often.
I am only one person, with one set of hands. Be patient.
Be patient with yourself. Be patient as you adjust to doing things on your own. Be patient as you learn a new rhythm.
All in a Mind Set,