There are many things you need to make it through a divorce, most of which is courage and tenacity. The process can be long and hellish if you’re unlucky, quick and easy if you’re fortunate. In any event, after a divorce no matter how good or bad the divorce is, there are some things you need after divorce more than you even realize. The chances are really that you’ll realize you need these things when you’re in the middle of a crisis or low moment, but if you know ahead of time, you’ll be better off.
1 – Patience
Patience is a virtue of which I lack. But let me tell you, getting a divorce certainly beat the importance of patience into my bones.
More than you know it, you’ll need patience.
Patience to navigate life afterwards, from finances to dating and new relationships.
Patience for your kids.
Patience for all the things that a divorce can bring.
2 – Ability to Let Things Go
Ouch, here’s another thing I struggle with.
You can’t make your ex be a good person. You can’t make money fall from the sky. You can’t make love happen when you want it to.
There are some things I can walk away from, and others I struggle to.
If this is you, divorce is going to require you to learn how to do this, asap. Really, life after divorce requires that you let go of things and people and conceptions, and quickly.
3 – Acceptance of the Unknown
You thought your marriage was going to be forever. News flash, it’s over.
Pretty jarring, eh? Yes, it is. Your fairy tale took a sharp turn to the right and suddenly, it’s a tragic-comedy or just a drama series.
Strength & Peace,