You’re divorced and now you’re ready to meet the right one.
Ok, got it! So many of us are looking for love, part deux.
But are you putting your best self forward? Or are you sabotaging romance before a spark can set aflame?
It’s not unusual for people to go out into the world bitter, afraid and slightly jaded after a divorce or any major breakup really. The key is really going out there and meeting people when you are truly your best self. Here are 8 serious signs you are sabotaging your love life all on your own.
1) A Billion Things on the Checklist
Before you’ve even met the person, you’ve got a billion things on the checklist someone needs to meet or you won’t consider him or her.
If your list of criteria is so stringent it is enviable to college application requirements, you’re not ready.
Yes—you should have deal breakers in your list.
Yes—you shouldn’t settle.
But no, it shouldn’t require jumping through hoops to be with you.
2) A Great Big Dump
Are you joining dates for a drink, only to prattle on about your ex or how jaded or torn you are about love and relationships?
You’re not ready. You’re a big hot mess of negativity and sorry, no one wants that.
No one wants to date your sad stories. A potential partner wants to date you—the available loving, you. Sure, you come with baggage like everyone does, but if your baggage arrives at the date before your personality can…you are not ready!
Tellin’ Y’all It’s Sabotage…