In the world of female relationships from day one, being nice is stressed; we are told that we should be a good, nice girl … not a bad girl.
Of course, we want our children to be kind. Of course, we want to be kind ourselves. To be good people.
But sometimes, being “nice” is really just a prettier way of framing the fact that you might be a doormat. That you might let others frequently walk, run and fly all over you.
I hear it from women frequently.
“I’m trying to be nice.”
Or, “I felt I needed to be nice.”
And when women say these things, it’s often in a situation where they shouldn’t be nice! Where they shouldn’t just suck it up and deal.
So, how do you know if you’re being kind and respectful, or if you’re being a complete doormat? Because being nice isn’t always the best thing. Sometimes, having a backbone and being tough is the best course of action. All too often, women are dissuaded from being tough, or even tormented for being “bitchy” when really, a woman might just be standing up for herself.
Read More: 4 Key Ways to Identify Your Doormat Behavior
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