If you want a great sexual relationship with someone, you’ve got to agree on 4 different things:
- Frequency– how often you do it
- Type–is it kinky always, sometimes or never? is it romantic sometimes, always or never?
- Communication– do you want to discuss and push the envelope or share feelings, or do you like to keep it basic?
- Intensity– do you want it deep and long or short all the time?
It’s not like you need to have an academic discussion with your partner on the matter, but generally, couples who are sexually healthy and happy have similar bedroom styles in terms of type of sex, frequency, intensity and how they communicate during, before and after sex. And in many –I’d say most couples, one or both parties is willing to compromise on perhaps the frequency or type now and then. This is what makes the relationship work out well.