Men ask me for advice rather frequently about the ladies. And one of the biggest things I always say is to tell her how you feel.
Every woman and person is different, but there are quite a few of us who really love to get that verbal affirmation from our partner. If you’ve ever looked into the 5 love languages, then you know what I mean. If you haven’t– verbal affirmation is a love style; people who have this preference enjoy hearing their partners express their feelings, getting praise or hearing expressions of love from their mates.
For me, this is one of my strong love styles.
So, if you are a man who can’t or won’t express how he feels and you meet a woman who needs this, you are in deep, deep poop.
Here is why:
She Won’t Be Fulfilled
Not hearing those words of affirmation will kill her feelings for you. I know for me, it can make me completely disinterested and disengaged.
You don’t have to be a wordsmith, a rapper or a songwriter to express how you care verbally. If you’re shy or not great with words yes, it will be harder for you but just trying will really make her happy.
She Won’t Connect With You For The Long Haul
Like I said above– eventually, she will disengage and find more greener pastures. Hearing how you feel can really make a difference.
She Can’t Read Your Mind
Be clear with how you feel. She can’t guess. She can’t imagine your feelings. Sure, you can show her and that counts a lot, but hearing it goes a long way as well.
She Wants to Feel Safe & Secure
When you withhold how you feel, you jeopardize her security and safety. She doesn’t know where she stands or worse, she doesn’t feel comfortable. She feels unappreciated. Not loved.
If you’re struggling to share how you feel, tell her. Ask her what she needs and tell her you will try to share how you feel more but ask her to be patient with you. Not everyone is good with talking– but you can’t keep silent forever, or you’ll lose her.