Without enough friction, there won’t be any sparks. And by friction, I mean good friction. When you rub two sticks together, you get a flame (hopefully). But without any action or friction, there won’t be a fire.
The same goes for your potential with another person (love interest or already committed partner).
You can never guarantee that someone will stay interested, invested and attracted to you without enough impetus to keep the fire going.
Here are good ways to fuel an attraction while also, bad things you shouldn’t do if you want to keep this person’s eyes on you.
1. Communicate Vs. Being Spotty
We all get busy. I don’t know one person on this planet who isn’t busy.
It’s okay if you can’t be in contact or have rough days. We all do. We can’t always be accessible!
If you want someone to stay intrigued by you and to desire you, communicate on a regular basis. Again, we all have days where we are off the grid and some of us have this more than others. Some of us need this more than others, and that’s okay.
But to keep that spark lit, don’t forget to communicate.
2. Playful Vs. Restricted
Toss aside life stressors and being busy. We all fall into this category.
Playing is a big part of keeping a relationship alive OR starting one to begin with!
By playing I mean, doing fun things together, sexy texts or calls, thoughtful gestures, a quick hello, going on an adventure, spending an hour together uninterrupted– or other things.
It all depends on your personalities on how playful you’d like to get but, play!
When you are restricted, it cuts off the opportunity for “play”
and play really matters if you want to stay connected to a love interest.
Being restricted can mean a couple of things, like:
- Not communicating
- Walling yourself off
- Letting anxiety dictate your actions
- Being unavailable or unwilling to bend
- Not being open to physical intimacy– or emotional
- Letting your self-conscious thoughts lead instead of confidence
3. Hot Vs. Cold
Think of yourself as an invitation.
Do you invite this person into your day, life, thoughts or actions?
Are you an intriguing invitation or are you stand-offish?
The more heat, the more intrigue. The less heat, the more likely you are to be in the cold with this person.
The winter is certainly good for one thing: getting warm together!
Consider your actions and what you’d like to gain with this potential interest or your current partner, and boldly go where no other woman or man has gone before– or not.
It’s up to you!