Men are pretty simple I think. I don’t say that to be condescending or negative. I see the simplicity as a positive. Basically, if a man likes you, you know it. If he’s on the fence about you– you know it. If he doesn’t like you– you know it. Of course, there is always room for situational and individual differences. Some men may be shy or, unsure of how to read your signals in response to him, whether you’re a woman or another man. This may make him appear as more or less interested depending on the situation.
But as a general guide, here are some signs to notice when you’re trying to decide where you stand with a man.
1. How He Sees You & When He Sees You
If a man likes you, he makes an effort to see you despite his hectic schedule.
He also will make sure to see you to do things with you or to just hang and talk to you– not just to fool around. Not that there is anything wrong with physical intimacy! Intimacy is very important, but, there is a difference between physical intimacy and a hook up, so don’t count frequent texts to come over for “action” as an indicator of deep emotions.
If he’s on the fence about you, he may ask you out at the last minute rather than in advance or, he may come and go.
If he doesn’t like you, he won’t make plans or want to see you or worse, he’ll try to text for hookups.
Time, Frequency and Intentions.
Consider these things.
2. How He Communicates With You & What He Talks About
If he likes you, he will want to communicate with you regularly and also, will share information about himself as well as ask you to share about yourself.
Someone who is on the fence will be less open and also, less invested in the questions he asks you.
If he doesn’t like you, he won’t bother to talk to you much or even learn about you. Or, he’ll just want to know surface detailed information and won’t bother to learn any more than that if he sees you as “just sex.”
Amount of Communication and the Kind of Communication.
Consider these things.
3. How Much He Gives of Himself & How Much He Craves You
A man who really is wild about you will move mountains to be with you. He will want to be by your side. He will be curious, intrigued and compelled to be with you.
He will find little ways to see you and will have a hard time resisting you.
Someone who is unsure about you will be less giving, less available and will not be consistent in his approach towards you.
If he doesn’t like you, he will give you nothing but the most trivial things and he will also be distant. If he is just attracted to your body, he will only give of himself when he wants to hook up.
It’s not really a mystery– you should have a good idea of where you stand with a man but if you don’t, you can keep these things in mind. Remember of course that every situation and man is different!