It’s not easy keeping it together if you are feeling depressed or going through some serious life stuff. A biggest part of the challenge is hiding it.
Sure, maybe you have people you can come clean with, but for the most part, adult life is going through the motions without showing the “emotions”– unless you trust someone and let your guard down. I’m not saying you should fake it and not get help. If you are depressed, you should get help. But what I am saying, is sometimes you have to keep it together when you’re out in public or in a situation that demands privacy.
Here are some tips for keeping cool when really, you need a hug and a break.
1. Steer conversations towards other people
Avoid questions and have the person talk about him or herself. Most people like to do that!
2. Take time outs
Take a mental health day. Go for a walk. Hide out for a while and work in a different location in the office.
3. Say, “I’d rather not…”
Discuss it. When people ask if you are upset, you can decline talking– and find someone you trust to vent to.
4. Take a drive and cry
If your kids can’t see you cry or you just need to let it out, blast some music and cry a bit. Just watch the road.
5. Can say you’re fine
Not ready to talk to someone about your hurt feelings? Say you’re fine and wait for a time when you’re more composed.
6. Exercise, meditate or dance
Move. Move and mooove. Put your sadness or stress into the motions.
Chin up– hang tight– and hope for the best,