I have a lot of friends– most of which I would say are good, close friends, but it is hard for me to not feel a bit lonely amongst all the holiday cheer. Perhaps it’s that my family members have grown and gone many different ways. Some of which are not well and able to celebrate very much. Perhaps it’s being single for so long. Perhaps it’s living in a town where everyone is so closely knit and I am still relatively new. Perhaps it’s that some of the old traditions we have I couldn’t afford to do OR, that my kid was sick and we missed out on two festive things.
Or maybe it’s just me. Maybe not.
What do you do when you feel like the holiday cheer is so loud and you are lost amongst it? It is hard to not feel disappointed and sad because the most wonderful time of the year really can be so wonderful. Why wouldn’t you want to enjoy?
As much as I enjoy the holidays, I somehow feel like something is missing– or that I am missing out. I try very hard to give my kid a great holiday, and I think I do a good job.
Then of course, there is social media. You see everyone’s cocktail parties, old friend parties, high school reunions, family celebrations and more. It’s hard to not feel like– where do I belong in all of that and do I even belong anywhere?
I think some of my feeling of displacement comes from the fact I have a mixed religious background and also, single and family not celebrating to the same extent.
So, if you’re feeling a little blue, left out or what have you during the holidays, try to remember these things:
1- Not everyone has family or loved ones to be with. It may seem that way, but it’s untrue.
2- Don’t compare your life to anyone else’s– especially on social media!
3- All those parties look like a lot of fun– and also … a lot of work. You too can throw your own party and also, pay for it!
4- Maybe you should start your own party or gathering as a yearly tradition. There may be others wanting to celebrate.
And for those of us who are single…
5- I know it feels like everyone has someone or is married, but it is not the case. And they’re not always happily married either. Instagram filters don’t come in “secretly unhappy.”
Hang Tight– and Smile,