Hot & Sexy Valentine’s Day Dates for New Partners & Love Interests

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You just met or are newly dating … but Valentine’s Day is just two weeks away.

What do you do?

You have some exciting, sexy fun!

Of course, all of this depends on how risque you are or not– and how new you are to each other. Second date? Third? Fifth? Dating for a month?

Well, read on for some fun and also on occasion, steamy ideas to make your V-day cosmic. Or orgasmic– depending on your goals!

Innocent Fun

How about a little pottery making? Your hands touch, but it’s sweet and creative.

You can also try a wine and cheese pairing or maybe, head to a brewery.

Light and fun but also, all innocent and easy early dates for new potential couples.

Stepping it Up a Notch

Okay– so you’re ready to dip a toe in a more sexy type of celebration. Good for you!

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When You Finally Meet Someone Who Speaks Your Love Language

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Everyone “speaks” love in a different way. For me, when a man is super intelligent, witty and able to verbally charm and compliment me– I melt. I especially am happy if he is handy and also, willing to slow dance or try salsa-merengue!

When you meet someone who does or who just “might” speak your love language, it literally feels like your soul has awoken. Especially when you are a lady like myself who is divorced and ready for fun!

Maybe you want a woman who feeds you the best meals and says I Love You with a steak.

Maybe you need a guy who does nothing extra special, but showers you with gifts.

When someone walks in the room and speaks that undercurrent love language, it is like the floors drop underneath you and a little hope lights up in your heart in the darkest of times. It makes the day (and night) more meaningful.

Stay Bright,

Laura

 

That Exciting Feeling When You & A New Love Interest Have Chemistry

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Chemistry: it sort of feels like your body is on fire … in a really good way!

Maybe it was a great phone conversation. Maybe it was a quick, but really full of potential– coffee date. Maybe it’s just the heat you’re feeling with someone. Whatever the case, that first sign of spark can really rev up your engine emotionally, and physically!

When these signs of life show, it’s hard to not get too excited and start imagining the two of you on a very secluded beach drinking frozen cocktails and slipping off for a skinny dip– but keep your head level!

  • This might turn into something amazing … or, it may fizzle out. Either way, at least you’re having fun, right?
  • It feels great– so stay positive and hope for the best, but don’t let your imagination get away with you.
  • Focus on the fun– it’s refreshing to have a good time and feel connected to someone, so stay as present in the moment as you can.

May this spark keep you dancing until the late hours,

Laura

 

3 Key Differences Between Men Who Take You Seriously & Men Who Treat You as an Option

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You meet a guy and he seems fabulous… but a bit flaky at times. Does he care about you? Does he find you valuable or just someone to toy with?

Are you meaningful to him and special? Or just a notch on the ol’ belt?

Are you his Plan A or his “optional package?”

There is nothing worse than being a guy’s optional package. It can kill your self-esteem and confidence.

Here are 3 key differences between men who are seriously into you … and men who see you as an option for him to choose when he feels like it:

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When We Are Unlovable

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When we are unlovable, we feel impossibly alone and adrift. We feel our most fragile and frightened.

None of us are without flaws. When we are at our absolute worst, we are reminded of every single one of those things that make us imperfect and human.

But in your mind sometimes, it feels as if all you might be is incapable, weak, incomplete and unlovable.

The core fear that perhaps we will stay in that ocean alone forever, with our flaws and insecurities is enough to break the human spirit, extinguishing it from all mankind.

None of us want to feel as if we are not understood or are impossible to love.

Each and every one of us inside is dying to connect to someone else. To feel secure and loved.

To not be navigating this world alone with all of its storms and waves.

Because when we do, it Is easy to sink and not return. To feel as if resurfacing is too hard and that the territory is too vast.

For Peace,

Laura

Is Your Life Full of Meaningful People & Purpose?

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We all have a reason and purpose for being here, although some may argue that there is no purpose at all other than existing. But in my opinion, I believe we all have a path to carve as we are here on Earth.

We all have people, things and activities that propel us to wake up every day. Inside of all of us, is a light. Some of us are able to harness that light and shine it to others well, and some people, not at all. Maybe that person is not “well.” Maybe that person is depressed or traumatized. Whatever the case, we all want to shine that light, whether we feel able to or not. And at different times in our lives, we may be able to focus that light and share it with others whereas in other times, we may feel dark and dim.

I know that I personally feel my absolute brightest, when I am able to give love to others and feel needed and wanted in return. I feel lit from within as well, when I am creative, whether through writing or dance. Singing. Working together on an idea.

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How to Get the Best Revenge on Someone Who Hurt You

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When I got divorced, I did not want any revenge on my ex. I only wanted him to be happy. In general with most break ups I had, I wished the person well and we remained friends. A few didn’t want to be friends and a few I sort of didn’t really care for, but generally revenge is just not my cup of tea.

But occasionally, we all have someone who has cut us to the bone and disappointed us in such huge ways that it feels as if we will never be ok. Of course, someone great always comes around to show up that fool who hurt you, but in the meantime, dealing with the hurt can be challenging.

Here are “good ways” to get revenge so you can feel great and let the fool be smarting … not you!

Ignore The Person

In public. In private. Always. When you see the person, snub him or her. Don’t return a smile. Don’t be kind. Don’t be mean. Just ignore the person.

If that person hurt you, he or she doesn’t deserve your time.

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There Is Without a Doubt, Someone Out There For You– Dying to Be With You

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It seems impossible. There can’t possibly be someone out there.

You have been on every dating site. You have gone to dating events, bars, concerts, friend set-ups, community gatherings and are pretty sure you have met everyone on the planet.

And you like none of them. They all stink.

But for those who look closely and pay attention to the details, there will always be one.

One person who shows up when you least expect it.

One person who says yes. One person who doesn’t make you jump hoops to be with him/her.

One person who shows up, has something to offer and is willing to stick it out with you, no matter what. One person who likes you for your flaws and imperfections.

It may seem impossible but really anything is possible.

There are billions of people on this planet. What makes you think you’re so awful that there is no one created for you?

That is a lie.

Someone will show up. Someone good. Sift through the weeds. Pay attention to the red flags.

And amongst all the noise of bad online dates, weird people, flaky people and missed connections, someone will show up.

God Speed,

Laura

4 Reasons to Stop Jumping Hoops for Someone Who Won’t Do The Same for You

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How many times have you tried to reach out and make a connection to someone you care about, whether a friend or romantic partner, only for the person to snub, avoid or deny your attempts?

If you’re the one who always makes the effort, while the other person sits and does nothing, this post is for you.

Here are 4 reasons to stop making those written (and verbal requests):

People Take For Granted What Is Easily There

It’s human to take people for granted now and then, but if you’ve been getting nowhere with a friend, colleague pr partner, don’t bother.

That person has gotten it easy: you’ve made all the effort and they’ve done well, nothing to change the scenario.

Stop being available to that person. He or she is taking you for granted as you’re “easily there” when needed.

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The Person Who Sews Your Heart Back Together

 

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One day, when you have believed it to be impossible. One day, when you will have waited so long you don’t even remember a time when you weren’t waiting.

One day, when you have exhausted all hope and thrown all your cards in–

someone will show up and sew your heart back together.

She will stitch together the pieces your ex left when she cheated or ran you ragged.

He will knit and craft your broken heart edges that remained from your ex’s cruel words or lack of love.

This person will show up, and seem like a myth or a fable. This person will seem like a mirage or a hologram, but indeed:

He or she will be very, very, very real.

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