Priorities. We all have priorities in our life. When people tell me they’re too busy, I secretly add in my head “because it’s not important.” When people decide something is important, they do it.
The same goes for you. If someone decides you are important, he or she will commit to you. The person will make time for you. The person will want to be with you. The person will have no lame excuses as to why he or she isn’t available.
The same goes for “things.” If being healthy is important, people will make time to be healthy. If being kind is important, people will be kind.
Actions delineate priorities. This makes it easy to see who really cares about you.
People who would rather be with you then be with many partners or alone, care about you.
People who say they’d rather be alone or with many people, don’t give a flying f*ck about you.
Friends who show up when you need help, care.
Friends who reach out and want to connect with you, care.
Married spouses who want the marriage to work, communicate and go the distance for the sake of the marriage.
Spouses who say they love you, will show they love you to keep the marriage working.
The same goes for your own actions!
If you really care about your health, you’d make healthy choices as best as you could.
If you really cared about the environment, you’d make choices that show this.
If you really love your partner, you will take steps to show this.
If you really care about your kids, you will show up– all the time, not just when you feel like it.
So, if you’re unsure whether you are important to someone or whether someone is important to you, look at actions.
And if the actions aren’t there, you know the answer.
When people care, people move their butts and do something. They show love. They make change. They prioritize. They don’t just say something is important … they’re moved to do something about it.
If your car has a flat tire and getting to work matters, you will try to fix it.
If you discover your partner is sick and he/she needs help, you will be there to help relieve his or her burden.
You– and anyone else– don’t just sit around and do nothing when something matters. You do something! You take action.
This is why it is so easy to see a committed partner from a non-committed one, as well.
That dude who just wants to hang out when he feels like it and then do whatever he wants, when he wants to? Doesn’t prioritize you.
That flaky chick who shows up when she’s bored and needs stuff and then floats why? Doesn’t prioritize you.
And I am willing to bet you aren’t prioritizing people and things as well.
Consider this a call out: what do you prioritize? Who do you prioritize? Are your priorities in line?