10 Life Lessons I Learned From Being Disappointed

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This week I had a few people disappoint me.

Plus, it was one of the hardest weeks I have had in the past few months. It was the last thing I needed– to be disappointed. Actually, does anyone ever need to be disappointed? No, but this week I just felt I took a real beating. Every day I had like 5-10 challenges. I’ve been trying to be mindfully positive each day as a resolution, and let me tell you this week put me to the test.

So, I’m sitting here and trying to think about some of the life lessons and positive spins I learned from being disappointed– and from this crappy week in general– as a positive take on the whole past seven days. Hopefully it can help someone else going through a rough day or week or, who’s dealing with disappointment.

Everyone makes mistakes, so maybe the person you disappointed still tried his/her best

The person may have had good intentions but perhaps that didn’t come across. No one is perfect. Maybe the person felt he or she was doing the best possible thing for you, even if it wasn’t what you needed.

Being disappointed sometimes shows you who values you and who doesn’t

Someone who values you will try hard to be there for you. Someone who doesn’t is bound to let you down. At least you know now that the person doesn’t care or value you.

Now you know the person lacks feelings and care for you.

Bad weeks happen to everyone … eventually, things will get better

If you had a bad week the good news is most likely, next week will be a lot better. We all have hard times.

Sometimes our bad times help us appreciate the good times more

You can’t have a rainbow without the rain, right?

Sometimes we expect too much from people who don’t care about us (or others) to begin with

Expecting other people to have the same beliefs or ways of living is a sure way to get hurt. Expecting others to do what we would do in a situation will also have you ending up in a lot of heartache. Some people don’t care about others. Some people may not care about you as much as you thought. It stinks, but it’s how it goes. We can’t expect others to do what we would do.

Some people don’t think about others when times are hard

Some people only want to be around for fun. Consider the guy who is looking to hook up. Consider your old party hard girlfriend from college who just wanted to find another party or kegger, rather than hug you when your dog died.

Some people can’t be there when times are tough– and that says something about them and not you.

You will grow from a bad week and learn new habits and ways of doing things

A bad week teaches us new coping skills and ways of looking at the world. A bad week teaches us a new way to do something.

Eventually, this too shall pass

And the hard week may not seem so hard anymore.

Sometimes things need to come to a head, before they get better

The old saying that sometimes things get worse before they get better is pretty accurate.

You’ve got to cut through the weeds to unearth a garden right? Well, the same with life. Sometimes we must handle the dirty and uncomfortable things in order to get to a better place.

The person who disappointed you may be hurting from his or her mistake

This person may feel really down about how he or she hurt you. That may be lesson enough for the person to not repeat the same choice.

Lots of Hugs,

Laura

 

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