4 Reasons to Stop Jumping Hoops for Someone Who Won’t Do The Same for You


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How many times have you tried to reach out and make a connection to someone you care about, whether a friend or romantic partner, only for the person to snub, avoid or deny your attempts?

If you’re the one who always makes the effort, while the other person sits and does nothing, this post is for you.

Here are 4 reasons to stop making those written (and verbal requests):

People Take For Granted What Is Easily There

It’s human to take people for granted now and then, but if you’ve been getting nowhere with a friend, colleague pr partner, don’t bother.

That person has gotten it easy: you’ve made all the effort and they’ve done well, nothing to change the scenario.

Stop being available to that person. He or she is taking you for granted as you’re “easily there” when needed.

If They Wanted to Do It, They Would Have Done It By Now

If you have to keep trying for something, it’s not worth it.

If your friend wanted to be a better listener … if your colleague wanted to be a team player … if your romantic partner wanted to be more engaged and available … the person would be!

If they wanted to do it, they would have done it by now.

You Can Say It In 5 Languages But It May Not Change A Thing

You can say it every which way and tap dance while you’re syaing it, and it may not do a damn thing to change the situation. See points #1 and #2. This person has it as he or she wants it and you being available all the time with your agenda only makes it easier on that person, not you!

You Deserve A Friend/Colleague/Partner Who Doesn’t Make You Jump Hoops For Them

See all my previous points.

Aren’t you tired of dancing around like a damn circus clown or a dog begging for a treat?

Cut the act. Get rid of the costume and the sales pitch.

Find a better friend, colleague or partner.

You deserve it.

You’ve Got This,



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