Every relationship– friendship or romantic– has a path. Some are meant to go the distance and others, not so much. Some relationships– romantic ones– never even take off. And that I think, is the worst.
To fail at a relationship or marriage is really sad and challenging. Devastating. But to me, a relationship that never takes off is even worse.
There is the feeling that with a failed marriage or relationship, at least you got to try and give it your all. You can look back and say, “Sure, I made mistakes, but I still gave it my all most of the time.”
When you are with someone and feel the potential but it never comes to fruition, there is never that feeling of “I tried and failed– but hey! I tried!”
Instead, there is the feeling of “What if?” and “Why?”
“What happened?” and “What went wrong?”