It doesn’t matter how much you say you care about someone if you can’t back it up. If spending time with someone isn’t a priority and being close to someone isn’t a priority, well then, neither is that person.
We make time for what is important to us. We make investments in what matters to us. We do everything in our power for the people we love. If we are with someone and don’t want to spend time with them or commit, we don’t care about them enough. We don’t value them enough to make time or changes for them in order to have that person in our lives.
Sure, you hear people say how “Oh they’re not ready,” or “They don’t want it right now,” but the truth is, if the person really loved someone and actually cared about the person beyond surface attraction and sex, they’d commit.
It’s that easy.
When we value something or someone, we invest in it.