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My Eating Disorder Completely Controlled My Sex Life

In body image issues, eating disorder awareness, love, relationships on June 1, 2016 at 7:27 pm

I had the chance to interview an amazing woman, Jessie Moore for an article on Eating Disorders and how they impact sex & love lives:

My eating disorder started around age 13. I was just a girl with an average body type, but then someone had told me my “ankles were thick.” All I heard was the word “fat.” That’s when I first started dieting.

I got so many compliments about my new slim figure that I started to restrict my eating to keep it up. The compliments brought a high—a feeling of power and satisfaction. When I couldn’t keep up a restricted diet, I cycled the other way by bingeing and purging. I lived this way for the next 20 years. As I grew up, these destructive habits impacted my relationships as an adult.

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Tell Your Story,

Laura

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How to Tell If Your Body Image Is Negatively Affecting Your Sex Life

In body image issues, marriage, relationships, sex on February 26, 2016 at 4:50 pm

The two of you are there, in the middle of the most passionate and intimate act — sex — when your hideous and incorrect views of your body cause discomfort, displeasure, or sadness in the middle of the deed! Except here comes the worst part: you don’t even know that this is happening but your partner, who is the victim as well in your bad body image game, is aware. Painfully so. You may not even realize it, but your toxic feelings about your body are ruining the most precious and intimate aspect of your relationship. Here are four signs that your body image is negatively affecting your sex life.

1. You Experiment Less

Because you think your thighs, butt, or what have you are too big, too small, or not right, you experiment less in the bedroom. You’re uncomfortable in your skin and so you’re not ready to jump into a sexual relationship feeling confident and free. Instead, you’re feeling burdened and restrained.

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It’s Damaging,

Laura

6 Things Women in Their 30s Want Lovely 20-Somethings to Know

In body image issues, dating, dating advice, friendship, life, love, marriage advice, relationships, sex, women's issues on December 14, 2015 at 5:23 pm

As I round out the end of my 30s and all of its unique glories, challenges, and triumphs, it dawns on me that so every often I feel like I am 25 still. It’s as if I forget my own age. But there is one thing that makes me uniquely different from 25, and it’s not just my biological age, but all the wisdom and the self-esteem that started from life lessons in my 20s and headed into all the glory and heartache of my 30s. I am a very social person, and so I find myself often out people watching, and I see all you lovely, beautiful, sweet, and unsure 20-somethings and I want to grab a chair and pull you over so I can share to you what I know in hopes that it will help you as you venture into adult female life!

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With Love,

Laura

Real Women Have Whatever They Want — Curves or None!

In Beauty, body image issues, women's issues on December 1, 2015 at 10:01 pm

“I am a real woman damn it! And I don’t look like an hourglass!”

In fact, if I didn’t have a chest, I would probably wear clothes strictly from the kids’ department, but does this mean I am a fake woman? Like some human female version of Pinocchio?

The female body has evolved over the years. The Italian Renaissance called for the Rubenesque look, or a full-figured body. The androgynous look of the ’20s. Heroin chic of the ’90s. The big booty of the millennium. What’s considered “ideal” for the female figure changes through the years, but what doesn’t change is the fact that not every woman will always fit in the ideal type! There is no one female body shape that is timeless according to societal standards. So with that said, NONE of us are real women or NONE of us have been considered a “real woman” at some point in our lives. Quite frankly, I am tired of it.

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Proud of Me,

Laura

I Had An Eating Disorder, But Now I Look Forward To Thanksgiving

In body image issues, eating disorder awareness on November 23, 2015 at 4:44 pm

For the last 14 years, I’ve been in recovery from my myriad of disordered eating. I am lucky. So very lucky. I suffered from severe calorie restriction, body-checking, sometimes binging, over-exercising, and on very rare occasions, purging. It’s not abnormal to have a combination of eating disorders or disordered eating. I am 14 years stronger, but celebrating the holidays after recovering from an eating disorder can be tough. According to the National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, “about 50 percent of people who have had anorexia develop bulimia or bulimic patterns,” and this time of year is always a reminder of my struggles with food.

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I’m Free– Finally!

 

Laura

Why You Don’t Have to “Bounce Back” After a Baby

In body image issues, motherhood, pregnancy on July 8, 2015 at 2:28 pm

Nobody wants to be out of shape or unhappy with his or her body, but the fact is that the pressure is on to dump that baby fat and then some shortly after the baby is out of you. Yes, that’s right, shortly thereafter. Not one year or two years, but a few months. It used to be that women had babies and no one really commented on what happened afterward, but with the rise of social media and celebs with their personal trainers and plastic surgery, the commenting begins both in our own minds and on the lips’ of others fairly soon after that bundle of joy is out of the womb and into our lives.

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Be Easy On Yourselves Ladies!

Laura

What Happened When a Kid Called My Kid Fat

In body image issues, eating disorder awareness, girl empowerment, motherhood, women's issues on May 21, 2015 at 5:10 pm

I was picking my daughter up from aftercare, but once again, she didn’t want to leave. She was sitting at a little preschool-size table with one of her BFFs, and they were drawing pictures together. She had on leggings, a t-shirt, and a puffy zip-up vest. As I coaxed my girl to hurry up, her little friend pointed at my girl and said while laughing, “She’s so fat!”

Instantly, my blood tingled. I felt my face get a little hot.

“That’s not nice. We don’t say that to people. She’s not fat,” I said sternly with a voice that indicated I meant business.

I didn’t yell or say anything else, but the little friend looked at me with a face that read somewhere between, “Oh, I shouldn’t have said that,” and “Wait, what did I do wrong?”

Finally, she said, still laughing, “Her vest makes her look fat.”

My daughter barely noticed the whole conversation and simply got up to go home as if nothing had happened, but something had happened.

To me.

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Raising My Girl As Best I Can,

Laura

5 Reasons to Put On That Bathing Suit or Heck — a Bikini

In body image issues, motherhood on May 14, 2015 at 2:56 pm

I had a baby. Sure, I’m in good shape, but I have my flaws just as much as the next person. Putting on a bikini pre-Mom was tough for me, but I did it, so perhaps I wasn’t as nervous as other women. After I had my daughter, I felt more self-conscious. People told me I was ridiculous and that I looked fine, but I didn’t believe it. I had my daughter at the end of March, so the first Summer, even though I was back to my prebaby weight, I didn’t want anyone to see me in a suit of any kind — I was strategic to say the least. The following Summer I spent sick and pregnant, and the pregnancy did not work out in the end, so a bathing suit wasn’t on the table anyway. But then came last Summer.

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Screw it, I’m taking off my shirt this summer again,

Laura

7 Brutal Truths About Loving Someone With An Eating Disorder

In body image issues, eating disorder awareness, love, marriage, relationships, women's issues on May 6, 2015 at 4:15 pm

We like you a lot. But we are slaves to our bodies.
It’s been about 13 years since I recovered from my eating disorder. For about two years I went through everything, from periods of not eating, to binging and on rare occasion, purging — and I thank my lucky stars I got out of that hell every single day.

An eating disorder is not an easy plight: you don’t need to drink alcohol to live, but you damn well need to eat if you want to stay alive. Food is everywhere and unavoidable. When you struggle with an eating disorder it can feel like you’re a prisoner to your body … so essentially, you’re dating or married to a “trapped” woman in chains.

If you happen to love a woman with an eating disorder I say to you now: Be patient, good luck, and here’s what you need to know:

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Finally Hungry,

Laura

Breastfeeding My Baby Literally Saved My Boobs — And My Life

In body image issues, motherhood, women's issues on May 4, 2015 at 6:18 pm

Boobs. Breasts. Fun Bags. Titties. Tits. Boobies. Mommy’s Milk Makers.

If it pertains to breasts, I’ve heard it all.

When I started out in the world, I was the flattest girl of them all. Growing up in a house of six people with five of them being much older, well-endowed females, getting boobs was on my “to-do” list. I couldn’t wait! I thought it would be so cool. I remember the day my childhood best friend got her first training bra. I was so jealous I stood in the driveway until my mother got home so I could convince her to “bandage up my nipples” with a 28AAA training bra that was training, well, zilch. Even if I was nowhere near womanly, I felt like one with my white lace junior bra adorned with tiny flowers right in the center of the two cups. Damn right, you know I was pulling out all the exercises:

“I must, I must, I must increase my bust.

Okay, so that never happened besides once or twice. I wasn’t stupid. I knew squawking like a chicken wasn’t going to grow me any ta-tas. It was either in the cards for me … or not. Time would tell.

It was all fun and games — until I actually got tits.

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Tits Okay Now,

Laura

“I must, I must, I must increase my bust.

Okay, so that never happened besides once or twice. I wasn’t stupid. I knew squawking like a chicken wasn’t going to grow me any ta-tas. It was either in the cards for me … or not. Time would tell.

It was all fun and games — until I actually got tits.