In career, motherhood, sex, working mom life on January 30, 2017 at 8:54 pm
Listen up, girlfriends: All those times you’ve been saying you’ve got a headache is secretly jeopardizing your home and employment life. Having more sex makes you a better employee—and mother! No, really. The more times you hop in the sack, the more likely you are to hit a home run at work and with the kiddos. Here’s why:
1. You’ll Get Better Sleep
Having sex helps you get better sleep—something we could all use. As you bond with your partner, your body secretes the hormone oxytocin, often called “the love hormone.” That’s also the same hormone responsible for bonding with your baby, especially when nursing. Thanks to oxytocin, your body will be more relaxed, so you’ll be less stressed, leading to better sleep for you, mama.
And with better sleep comes a brighter morning handling a bunch of kids before running off to work and kicking serious butt in the office. So say yes next time your significant other wants to get frisky. Maybe you’ll get a raise, too!
Read More: 5 Ways Sex Makes You a Better Mom and Employee
Do It Tonight,
In career, marriage, motherhood on October 24, 2016 at 1:56 am
Did you know that breadwinning moms make up some 40 percent of all U.S. households’ major (or equal with partner) earners? That’s according to a 2013 Pew study, and we hear that the number has risen since then. Yep—that’s a lot of us working moms!
Even so, there are myths and stereotypes that still surround breadwinning moms, like these:
She emasculates her husband with her success.
She’s too concerned with her career.
She’s bound for divorce with her success.
But beyond these less-than-flattering and less-than-truthful attributions are the positives that we know, like the fact that commanding a good salary and supporting your family is a wonderful and empowering scenario. The reality is that today there are many pluses to being a breadwinning mom that go beyond making the sole or larger paycheck—in or a marriage or not.
Here, a family and relationship expert—and real-life breadwinning mom—helps us dismantle the falsehoods and promote the truths of this way of life.
1. Myth: A breadwinning mom’s success wrecks her marriage or relationship.
The idea that heterosexual breadwinning moms are ruining their relationships with their career/financial status is a modern-day myth, asserts Stephanie Coontz, author of the award-winning A Strange Stirring: The Feminine Mystique and American Women at the Dawn of the 1960sand director of research at the Council on Contemporary Families. “It used to be true that couples where a women earned more than her husband faced a higher risk of divorce. But for marriages formed in the 1990s and later, that is no longer true.” Take that, myth! But …
Read More: 10 Myths, Pros and Cons of Being a Breadwinning Mom
Times Are a Changin’
In career, motherhood, working mom life on August 26, 2016 at 5:21 pm
You know you’re a working mom when you enter the office in a beautiful new dress and have a glaring PB and J stain or snot rocket all over the front of it. Of course, you didn’t realize it because you were too busy shoving kids into a car or chasing them toward the bus stop with the hopes that somehow everyone would end up in one piece at school.
Your survival — and your new dress — was secondary.
Having office hours while caring for kiddos can get pretty complicated, even if you’re miles away from them at the office. Read through for eight reasons.
1. The Outfit Conundrum
You get a great deal at Loft on new office dresses. Your child gets a great craving for cheese puffs. You walk into the office with orange stains down the front like you just exited a clown car. You took so much time to do your hair though (and by time, we mean five minutes) that you don’t even recognize the hot orange streaks on your outfit. You’re too pleased you’re having a good hair day.
Read More: 8 Complications You Run Into at Work as a Working Mother
You Really Liked That Dress,
In career, motherhood, working mom life on July 8, 2016 at 6:37 pm
If you still dread handing off your new baby to daycare, if you wonder how you’re going to manage at work while missing your precious kids, if you’re toting a breast pump back and forth every day, if you’ve got spit-up on your button-down shirt, yep, you’re a new working mom. You know what? Millions of mothers who have walked the same path have survived and thrived (and so have their kids). It will get better, it will get easier. Meanwhile, take comfort in these new-working-mom common bonds—and take in a few tips too.
1. Your daycare knows your voice the minute you say hi.
You have called your caregiver so many times that they know your ring and answer the phone with your name. But they get it: You can’t help checking up on your child. Meanwhile, to manage daycare anxiety pangs:
• Be sure you’ve chosen the right childcare fit for your situation. It could be daycare, it could be a nanny or an au pair. If you’re not sure which is the better way, read this article on which option will work best for you.
• Remind yourself to breathe—your anxiety may be affecting your health.
• Ease up on yourself. It’s totally OK to be concerned this new phase for you and your baby.
Read More: 10 Signs You’re a New Working Mom
It’s Tough, But You Can Do It!
In career, dating, dating advice, sex, Uncategorized on May 31, 2016 at 5:59 pm
The new hire is in, and wow! He’s hot. Or . . . she’s amazingly gorgeous.
And I am talking jaw-dropping, toe-curling, panty . . . (is “wetting” a word?) hot!
You want to invite this co-worker to your desk ASAP for a chat on everything and anything related to work. OK, that’s a complete lie. You want to invite this scrumptious delight to your desk to get a better look, however, you need to hold on “Bae” with the “I’m going to be the most helpful co-worker for the newbie” routine.
You cannot, I repeat, you cannot lay a manicured finger on that “10.” Here’s why:
1. Word Gets Around
The second the word gets out that you and Mr. or Mrs. Hottie from the IT department are knockin’ boots, guess who everyone will talk about? YOU. Not as much Mr. or Mrs. Hottie, just you.
Read More: 4 Reasons Your Hot Co-Worker Is Completely Off Limits
Don’t Sh*t Where You Eat,
In career, motherhood, women's issues on May 27, 2016 at 4:17 pm
As a working mom, your childless co-workers may or may not have thought this about you as a working parent and co-worker.
It’s not that your childless co-workers aren’t awesome — they are! — or that they don’t like kids (they may or they may not!) but that from time to time, they think you get perks that are unfair thanks to your status as a mom.
1. How Come She Gets Flex Time?
I am of the school of thought that companies should offer flex hours, whether you’re a parent or not. I understand that not everyone may deserve that privilege, but if employees are stuck to their desks and jobs 24/7, eventually, they will quit. Burnout is not pretty, and if you are a working parent, you know how hard that work-life balance is. Everyone needs it.
Read More: 4 Things Your Childless Co-Workers Think About You as a Working Mom
In career, divorce, divorce advice, single mom on May 13, 2016 at 8:38 pm
As a newly single mother living on one income, having a job is high on my priority list. I was working part-time when I was married, and once my husband and I separated I immediately had to go back to full-time work. Learning to navigate a new job and single motherhood while going through a divorce was tough. If you’re in or have ever been in this boat, you know what I mean.
So how can working moms get through divorce with their jobs intact? First things first: Make sure your kids are cared for. You can never have enough backup care, suggests psychologist Leah Klungness, Ph.D., co-author of The Complete Single Mother.
Read More: Working Through Divorce
In career, family life, motherhood, parenthood on August 4, 2015 at 2:04 pm
For some moms, going to work is an easy choice because they love their jobs, but for other moms working is simply a choice dictated by financial need. Sometimes though, a job may end up not being worth that paycheck. Here are a few situations in which you may want to give your two weeks’ notice whether permanently or temporarily.
Do you come home with constant agita, migraines, nausea, or other health issues? Are you having trouble sleeping? Is work stress and problems spilling into your home life? Is it impossible to just leave work at work? If you answered yes, it sounds like your job has become a pressure cooker. Add bonus points if you’ve lost or gained a considerable amount of weight.
Is this stress affecting not just you but also your family members? If you find yourself snapping at your kids, distracted while playing with them, forgetting family events, or struggling to keep up at home and work, your work stress may be affecting more than you alone.
Read More: Is it Time to Leave Your Job?
Work- Life Balance Isn’t Easy,
In career, woman, women's issues on May 12, 2015 at 2:47 pm
I am so fortunate to be at a job in which both the men and women respect each other. I can’t express how glad I am to be blessed with this opportunity, but what makes me sad is that this respectful work environment is a rarity in my experience. The joy I feel in being a regular person in my full-time job and not a trophy employee for some disgustingly inappropriate male boss, shouldn’t be uncommon — it should be the standard. But unfortunately, being a “body” instead of a worker has been a common instance for me in my employed life.
Read More: How to Get Winked at and Harassed at Work
Not A Barbie Doll,
In career, life, motherhood, single mom, working mom life on January 27, 2015 at 10:38 pm
Earning money– whether is is through a part-time hobby, a full-time career, or on a freelance basis, is crucial for mothers.
It boosts self-esteem, gives a woman workplace viability if she decides to return to work full-time later on down the line, and it gives her financial independence.
Here is my latest article on why SAHM and working moms alike should make their own money.
Paying My Own Bills,