The Top 7 Things I Want in a Partner

 

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I’m not picky. I am selective when it comes to a partner. Picky sounds snobbish and difficult. Selective sounds patient and also, smart. Which I am.

I have become pretty comfortable in my high-energy, quirky and lovable skin. Effusive and sometimes incredibly rambling, I know my strengths and weaknesses.

At this stage of the game, I know what I want from a partner. I know what I don’t want.

Mostly, I want someone who doesn’t get in my way of growing. I want someone who wants to have fun and go balls-to-the wall about life. As my parents have grown older and I have become a single mom, I realized that life is too short and it changes too fast. Have fun now. Take chances now. Be in the moment.

So, no, I am not open to everyone, nor should I be.

The characteristics I find the most appealing in a man are:

Kindness & Humility

I don’t need a tough guy. I like someone who is diplomatic and thoughtful, not a brute.

Tell me your honest thoughts without being hurtful. You can be precise without being cutting.

Action-driven & Not Lazy

Have interests. Be passionate about something.

Make consistent efforts with me and take charge. If you want to be involved with me, prove you deserve that chance.

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Your Actions (or No Actions) Show How You Really Feel About Someone

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Every relationship is built on actions– lack of actions, plenty of actions, the wrong or right actions.

One of the biggest things that will always tell the truth even if you don’t want it to, are  your actions!

Your actions show if you are full of hot air or, true to your word.

Consider this example– you can tell someone to let you know if he/she needs help, or you can show up on the doorstep and help.

You can tell someone you care about them and they’re important, and never be available for them

Or you can be there when they’re sick, in trouble or just to spend time together.

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3 Lessons on Love From Fathers

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The other day, a friend posted something on social media asking people what their fathers taught them, and there were so many amazing gems on love that I felt so inspired!

I am a firm believer that like the Beatles sang, “All you need is love,” and of course, chocolate, and these fatherly lessons really hit me right in the heart.

Accept the person for everything he/she is

This lesson was taught to me by my own father.

You can’t change someone. You can only love the person (or don’t) for who that person is.

This means you accept them as is– flaws and all. No one will be perfect. You will never meet one incredibly perfect person who comes with no inconveniences or stresses, but you can choose someone who is “perfect” for you– flaws and all.

The trick is to accept those flaws!

If the person wants you, he/she will convince you

This quote really struck me, so I posted it somewhere for me to see periodically:

Patience. If the person wants you, let that person convince you!

This spoke to me on so many levels.

1- Be patient for the right person– the right person who shows you you matter

2- If someone cares about you, he/she will find a way into your life and heart and convince you that this person is worthy of staying

3- When someone cares, that person will go out of his or her way to see it that you know it!

You can’t reason with the unreasonable

If you meet someone who is constantly unreasonable, difficult or impossible to view your side, forget it.

You cannot reason with the unreasonable.

Stick around and wait for someone like quotes #1 and #2

With Love,

Laura

9 Gifts to Buy Your New Love Interest This Valentine’s Day

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You two just met or are recently dating, and so you’re wondering how to crush this Valentine’s Day in a special way so you stay in her good graces. Well, you do it right with a thoughtful gift– so she knows you care and aren’t some foolish guy or gal trying to play her.

Try these 9 thoughtful Valentine’s Day gifts that she really wants to hit the ball out of the park with her:

Super Delicious Desserts!

The way to your lady’s heart is through chocolate or something covered in caramel.

Make it sweet sweet! Share it with her– or, better yet, let her pick a few desserts to enjoy. Probably one of my favorite dates was when the guy allowed me to pick two desserts to try at once. YUM!

Old School Box of Chocolates

Make it quality chocolate, puhlease …

This oldie but goodie always pleases!

Spa Day … Aah …

She needs to relax. She really, really needs to!

Of course,  you’re a new guy on the scene, so don’t go crazy dropping money you can’t afford. A massage as opposed to a spa day is cool, even if it’s an at-home massage.

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9 Ways to Keep Her From Forgetting You & Moving On

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Keeping a woman’s interest is no joke. One or two false steps and you could end up in the “love” recycling bin, asap! This is especially true if you’ve got yourself a very magnetic, strong and charming woman. The reality is she can find someone to replace you, so if you take her for granted or don’t pay her mind, you’ll get walking papers in due time.

If you want to keep her interest and not have her walking away from you, be sure to do these 9 things:

Pay attention to her

Don’t be a clingy psycho obviously, but give her the attention she deserves. That means real focused attention. Not you fiddling with your phone or half-listening to her chatter away.

Make plans

If you’re not asking her out, someone else definitely is– I guarantee this.

A little effort goes a long way, even if the two of you have hectic schedules. If you can’t pencil her in I can assure you she will pencil you out.

Surprise her with a call

Everyone loves to text. It’s easier and convenient, but hearing a love interest’s voice is special. Talking is way better than texting any day, hands down.

Even if it’s a short call to say hello, ask about a sick loved one, check how work went or whatever, it counts!

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5 Small Romantic Gestures That Make My Bad Days Better

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There is nothing like a small gesture of romance to brighten up a really dark day.

We all have those– crappy days and sometimes, weeks or months. For me, the past few weeks have been a doozy, leaving me really tired and left with very little alone time or time to feel refreshed. And so there is nothing like a small romantic gesture to ease the burden of those rough days. Truly, whether we are married, dating or mingling, someone’s positive actions can really help lift our spirits and help us feel loved.

Here are 5 small but very impactful– and romantic gestures– to make the bad days so much better! Each one of these gestures have made me smile and feel better during the crappiest times. They are truly simple ways to show someone you care when they need to hear it the most, and they cost nothing.

A surprise hug

A knock on your door from someone beloved offering a hug is a tiny gesture, but romantic nonetheless. Who doesn’t love a surprise visit from someone special?

That hug can make the stress and hardship of the day meltaway.

A tender note

An inspiring note that shares how much someone is thinking about you. A note of encouragement. A sexy note.

Handwritten. Emailed. Texted. All are beautiful small gestures that can really make someone feel loved when the person needs it most.

A massage

Some hands on attention is a recipe for romantic stress-relief, no doubt.

Whether you’re newly dating or married for ages, a nice massage after a crap day is a wonderful way to say you care about someone.

A homecooked meal

Feeding a stressed love interest or partner is a great way to ease that person’s burden. Make it romantic by adding candles and some wine.

Plus, the dessert= chocolate, of course.

An hour or two in bed

Cuddling. Relaxing. Reading to one another. Listening to music.

Just being there to listen or relax is romantic. Quality alone time makes a big difference when someone needs the love and support the most.

It really is easy to make someone feel loved. It takes less effort than you even realize, but it reaps a lot of reward!

In the Stars,

Laura

4 Reasons New Relationships Are So Much Fun in the Winter

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The winter may be a most frigid and desolate time, but it’s also a great excuse to cuddle up and start cuffing with someone sexy, fun and new!

The other bonus point is: less bugs. To me, this is always a selling point!

And while winter doesn’t have the warm sultry allure of a rainy summer night or thunderstorm, the chill has its own appeal, especially for new loves!

Staying Inside Means More Face Time (In Real Life)

Instead of mixing and mingling, the cold chill keeps the two of you new love interests inside, face-to face … for serious personal time! The noise and fun of summer is great– and the interactive fall with its mild temperatures are too, but winter gets the two of you to hibernate. And what better way to get to know a new lover and partner?

That Frigid Wind Causes You Both to Be Creative

Eager for action but not going to bother heading outside into the arctic air?

Those cold temps invite the two of you to be creative with each other, which can make for incredible sexy fun!

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When You Finally Meet Someone Who Speaks Your Love Language

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Everyone “speaks” love in a different way. For me, when a man is super intelligent, witty and able to verbally charm and compliment me– I melt. I especially am happy if he is handy and also, willing to slow dance or try salsa-merengue!

When you meet someone who does or who just “might” speak your love language, it literally feels like your soul has awoken. Especially when you are a lady like myself who is divorced and ready for fun!

Maybe you want a woman who feeds you the best meals and says I Love You with a steak.

Maybe you need a guy who does nothing extra special, but showers you with gifts.

When someone walks in the room and speaks that undercurrent love language, it is like the floors drop underneath you and a little hope lights up in your heart in the darkest of times. It makes the day (and night) more meaningful.

Stay Bright,

Laura

 

The Power of New Love

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New love is amazing.

It’s the fulfillment that yes, good things do happen! It’s the hope that starts a new day. It’s the fire that starts under your butt when things are bad. Because even when things are bad, love carries us through.

Love has the power to heal the old wounds. To shush our fears and give us faith in things unseen and hoped for.

Love has the ability to make you work a little harder when really, you want to quit.

New love especially reminds you of all the times you cried, felt despair and pain.

New love says to those painful moments:  I saw you, I heard you and here I am to tell you that the bad times aren’t forever.

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Reasons to Love Valentine’s Day Whether Single or Taken

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I love Valentine’s Day. I don’t care if I’m single, taken or jilted … the day to me, symbolizes love and hope for all of us.

I know there are a whole slew of haters on V day and I get it. Why should people (usually men) be pressured to make this magical day of love in order to prove one’s worthiness? We should love each other every day of the year and appreciate all we do for our loved ones. But a little reminder in a busy world can’t hurt! I mean, stopping to say —

Hey dude. I love you.

Or

You mean the world to me– and I express this with 50 different Godiva truffles.

Really isn’t such a bad day. Besides, there is chocolate! Lots and lots and LOTS of chocolate to be eaten. And damn, this girl loves chocolate.

Here are 5 reasons to stop being a little downer on Valentine’s Day– and to celebrate it whether you’re monogamous, polyamorous, or just “sleeping with yourself:”

Treat Yo’ Self

Buy the chocolate. Buy all of the damn chocolate!

My faves?

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