Looking For A Husband? Here Are Your Jewish Father’s Top 3 Picks

There is reality, and then there’s another universe called “Your Jewish Dad’s Reality.” He wants you to be happy and treated well, but if he could control it, he would pick your partner for you. In fact, there are probably quite a few Jewish fathers who have attempted this trick. On his planet, there are only a few men who are good enough for you and, unfortunately, your choices rarely make the cut!

When I told my dad I was getting a divorce, he had a list of suggestions of who would make the best candidate for hubby number two. It was sweet because he wants me to be happy, but also slightly impossible since he hasn’t been out in the world to see the people I keep meeting. Here are three men your Jewish dad is begging you to marry.

1. The Doctor
A doctor is the Jewish dad’s dream. He has a good education and a steady job. Most likely, robots won’t replace doctors thirty years from now, g-d willing.

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He’s Got His Opinions!

Laura

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4 Signs You Deserve Better

In case someone did not tell you today, most likely…you deserve better.

Sometimes it’s hard to believe that you do.
I have seen so many women and men settle for crappy behavior from a partner.
In fact sadly more often than not, it seems like I am cringing when I hear about something a friend or loved one’s partner has done to the other person.
Recently, I met someone whose partner treated him terribly. It was obvious to me but seemed less obvious to him even though it was written on the wall in neon pink paint. It is hard for me as a straight-forward and passionate person to watch people hurt themselves or get hurt.
More still, I have been watching for years, a friend of mine get treated poorly by her partner, day in and day out. My stomach hurts thinking about the lack of love this person has experienced while she gives so much in return.
And ironically so as I write this, I must confess to being someone who has given others a lot and taken less than she deserves more often than not.
Maybe I am the only person that feels this way but when a loved one settles for less than he or she deserves, I have to speak up. Even if most likely, the person will go on and continue to tolerate disrespect, I have to say:
You Deserve Better.

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7 Toxic People to Avoid At All Costs

Here is a list of people you should avoid at all costs.

No matter how much empathy or sympathy you have for these people, don’t get close.

Please dear man or woman, heed my word and avoid these soul suckers:

1- Separated Men & Women:

Unless they’re divorced or have already seen a lawyer or mediator (with real plans to divorce), kick them to the curb for now.

Men tend to grab another woman in order to nurture themselves emotionally and sexually while in the rebound period or  while they are having martial trouble more often than women. Men will use women to nurture their egos.

Yes, I realize women can be vultures this way too, but I have seen many men do this.

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4 Clear Signs A Woman Likes You

Women.

We can be difficult, can’t we?

You’re afraid to say the wrong thing or breathe the wrong way lest we cry or scream. I’m not a screamer personally. Tears though, are more my thing from time to time.

How do you know if we legitimately like you and aren’t just adding you to our flavors of the week?

This easy guide should help you out.

Thank me later.

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7 Signs You Might Be In Love If…

Are you in love, or is it just hormones?

I asked someone this, who I really cared about.

I was trying to decide: Did I really love this man or was I simply just, well, drunk on oxytocin and other various hormones?

I mean, the person in question is incredibly attractive. Great body. Beautiful face. Even better touch.

All of those factors could have meant my feelings were really just hormones and hot-in the pants and not necessarily, straight from the heart. Although let’s be real: a good relationship requires “hot in the pants” and “straight from the heart.”

I found my answer though, when I went down this little list of mine. Here are a few ways to tell whether it’s love or hormones:

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Dating Sites and Apps for Single Working Moms—a Roundup

You’re single, you’re a mom, you have a job—and you want to date. Me too. So before you tell me it’s impossible, I offer you this: Anything is possible! I know, I know, the logistics of dating as a solo parent who’s working to provide for her family can get tough. I’m right there in the trenches online and on apps, looking for love and, mostly, looking to stay out of trouble. Sometimes it seems I’m swimming in a very shallow dating pool, but I haven’t given up and taken in fifty cats. Yet.

So here’s the “downlow” on dating sites I’ve tried as a SWM (single working mother). You should try too. And remember: You can do it at home, at night after the kids go to bed, in your jammies if you want.

Phone Apps

Tinder
Pros: Tinder is quick and easy. You set it up through your Facebook account and set your preferences within minutes. You won’t waste time filling out large forms and questionnaires, and your pictures are right there on Facebook. (Caveat: Don’t use photos of you with your kids or of them alone, for their safety. You never know.) Searching for matches is super simple. Once you’ve set age and distance preferences, you start swiping. A simple swipe left and dreamguy is gone forever; a simple swipe right, and he could end up a match for life!

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Give it A Shot,

Laura

 

5 Things Someone Will Love You Will NEVER Do

If you have to wonder if someone loves you, chances are he or she doesn’t.
But there are a few things that someone who truly loves you for all of who you are will NEVER do, no matter what.

If the person does these things, chances are he or she is toxic and it’s not a healthy love.

A person who loves you will never:

1- Leave For Good:

He or she may temporarily leave your life or need a break, but if the person really loves you, he or she isn’t going to leave you for life. Eventually, that person will return to you. The old adage, “if you love someone set them free, if they return…”is true. True love returns. Passing fancy does not.

It’s normal to need a break and it’s o.k. to fight sometimes, but if the person loves you, he or she will want to be around you.

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What It’s Like to Have Too Much to Offer As A Divorced Woman

I used to think that I wasn’t good enough. Mainly because of late tween and teenage experiences that bled into more colorful but not so great experiences in my early-twenties. And then furthermore, being married to someone who loved me based on conditions and not on who I was. Someone that could give up and someone that didn’t seem to see the best in me, even though I was trying my best. Perhaps he was too.

Now I know I am good enough. I have much to offer. A stable career. A blooming career. The ambition of a billion men and (wo)men. The spirit and energy of a teenager. The friendliness of a Labrador Retriever. A healthy child. Great friends. Two parents who tolerate me. Wink.

I’m fit and healthy. I have a good work-life balance although yes, I am rather busy. I make friends with strangers. I am open and not bitter. I am not the least bit grieving my divorce.

Yet somehow I end up feeling as if I have “too much” to offer someone that often dates, back off or never happen.

Guys worry: Are you judging my grammar? ( I am a writer after all.)

You write about sex? Wow. Intimidating.

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Strong & Tall (Well, In Spirit),

Laura

5 Signs He or She Doesn’t Care About you

When someone shares his or her feelings with you and says he or she cares, it could make your heart skyrocket for days, especially when the feelings are intense and mutual.

But the reality is when it comes to love and relationships, words matter but actions matter more. How do you truly know if the person you’re involved with, whether male or female, is genuine?

Here are 5 Signs he or she doesn’t truly care about you.

I recently dealt with a guy who seemed like a dream. A great man with good values. But because he wasn’t able to commit, I questioned (and still do) how viable his feelings were for me even though he seemed like a wonderful man and person.

 

In my eyes if someone truly cares about you, he or she will:

1- Be Ready to Prioritize You

If he or she isn’t making you a priority, most likely your potential partner doesn’t really care.

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