In divorce, divorce advice, friendship on March 30, 2016 at 8:46 pm
Getting a divorce is a tough decision, and most likely if you’ve made the call to end your marriage, you know how hard it can be to regroup. This is why friends and loved ones will (hopefully) be by your side during the process. Expect right away that people — even strangers — will give you unsolicited advice, and most of it is done out of the goodness of their own hearts. People want to help and hate to see people sad or uncoupled. Folks are in love with love, and your divorce may be a cruel reminder that sometimes, Cinderella doesn’t find Prince Charming. After a while, though, despite all the best intentions people may have, it can be draining to hear the “same old” stuff spewed at you from the mailman to your cousin’s best friend’s boyfriend. Here are six things divorced women don’t want to hear anymore. Thanks in advance.
1. “Wow, that must be awful.”
Yes, sometimes divorce is awful, and if you ask someone at the right moment, she might agree. However, after some time, divorce is not so awful and it is just another life challenge a woman or man completed.
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In dating, friendship, love, relationships on January 15, 2016 at 6:05 pm
If you’ve met a lady who says she’s the youngest sibling, you better win her heart now or you’ll end up with a serious case of regret. Everyone knows (besides perhaps the older and middle siblings) that the youngest sibling makes for an amazing better half and woman. Listen up and choose your next woman wisely and make sure she’s known as the “last in the family.”
1. She Appreciates When You Remember the Little Things
The youngest kid? Our mothers didn’t fill out our baby books — in fact, she probably didn’t even buy one or if she did, one of our older and supposedly “wiser” siblings ruined it by scribbling all over it with crayon that it never got filled out. No one remembers our first steps. Actually, neither of my parents is completely sure what my Hebrew name is because I’m number four out of four girls! (OY VEY!) as long as I was breathing, all was OK with the world.
Your youngest sibling girlfriend will go gaga if you remember her full name (that’s first, middle, and last) simply because she was most likely called by her siblings’ names for her whole life.
If you can tell her anything about her childhood — like her favorite boy band or cartoon growing up — she might make you dinner for a month! This is a good thing unless like myself, her older siblings cooked for her and now her domestic skills are less than subpar.
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In divorce, friendship on December 27, 2015 at 1:42 am
Going through a divorce can be a living nightmare. Even when the divorce process is smooth and amicable between two individuals, it’s still heartbreaking. As a woman whose divorce is almost final, I can truly say that, even though my divorce has been 75 percent amicable and 25 percent not, it has taken a while to adjust to all the many life changes a divorce brings. This is amplified if your friend is like me, divorcing with a child involved. You have to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get those Nikes or high heels back on quickly in order to parent effectively with someone who may potentially have completely different views on raising children than you do, or who you never see eye to eye with. It’s challenging, to say the least.
But there is hope.
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In dating, dating advice, friendship, love, relationships on December 15, 2015 at 6:04 pm
You can only wish that your man will be adored by your friends and vice versa, but sometimes that isn’t in the cards. You may find a billion lovable things about yourboyfriend, but your friends may not see him exactly the same way as you do.
Let’s be real: sometimes we as women don’t always pick the good men we deserve, and our friends are dismayed and heartbroken when we choose someone below us. Of course, our friends and our dude simply don’t mix sometimes. Here are six signs your friends can’t stand your boyfriend.
- They snub him.
They never, ever want to hang out with the two of you together. But if you’re up for a girls’ night they will come around. But to be in your boyfriend’s presence? Well, they typically make excuses. Perhaps you ought to wonder why they never want to see him.
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Maybe They’re Right About Him?
In body image issues, dating, dating advice, friendship, life, love, marriage advice, relationships, sex, women's issues on December 14, 2015 at 5:23 pm
As I round out the end of my 30s and all of its unique glories, challenges, and triumphs, it dawns on me that so every often I feel like I am 25 still. It’s as if I forget my own age. But there is one thing that makes me uniquely different from 25, and it’s not just my biological age, but all the wisdom and the self-esteem that started from life lessons in my 20s and headed into all the glory and heartache of my 30s. I am a very social person, and so I find myself often out people watching, and I see all you lovely, beautiful, sweet, and unsure 20-somethings and I want to grab a chair and pull you over so I can share to you what I know in hopes that it will help you as you venture into adult female life!
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In divorce, divorce advice, friendship, single mom, single parent life on August 4, 2015 at 1:59 pm
If you’re a newly single mom or a single or divorced mother who is still having a hard time finding backup, getting a support system in place is crucial. Whether it’s finding someone to help with your children or creating new holiday traditions as a new “family” of sorts, creating a new village for yourself will enrich your life and your children’s.
Whether you’ve been a single parent for two days or two years, having women to turn to who have been there and done that is valuable. It took me a year to finally make my own social media group comprised of single moms. I added acquaintances and friends (and suggested they add friends too) in order to get some support on questions and problems I had that my other friends and family couldn’t answer. While I know some ladies better than others, I consider them a good source of information and one I need as I venture into a new life with my daughter, alone.
Read More: How to Build a New Support System as a Single or Divorced Mom
It Takes a Village,
In friendship, motherhood, women's issues on July 2, 2015 at 2:50 pm
Motherhood usually means kids first, partner second . . . and Mom third. One of the first realizations of motherhood is how once that baby is out of you and in the world, who you were as you once knew it changes. It’s a hardcore identity struggle for some of us: how do we be “a person” yet be a mom too? For some, it’s one in the same, but for most mommies, just because we gave birth doesn’t mean we have forgotten the interests and sparks around us that make us happy. There’s this dialogue that if you don’t take care of yourself and only focus on the kids, you’re doing it wrong. Then there’s the opposite dialogue: if you’re enjoying yourself and taking too much “me” time, you’re a crappy mom. How does one win?
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Where My Girls At?
In friendship, motherhood on April 27, 2015 at 5:10 pm
Sometimes a friendship doesn’t work out, whether it’s for a major reason or small petty reasons (sadly), but what do you do when it’s a mom friend who either happens to have a child that your kid is close friends with, mingles in the same circles as you do, or both? It’s not an easy situation, and every scenario is different depending on why you decided to sever ties with this friend, as well as how old your children are and if the two children happen to be close friends or not. And if you haven’t yet cut the cord with this female friend of yours, but are considering it, maybe it’s worth figuring out a way to handle the situation in a delicate manner.
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Breaking Up Is Hard To Do,
In friendship, motherhood, women's issues on April 24, 2015 at 8:18 pm
My daughter had two playdates set up with kids in her school this past Winter, and I was excited to meet the moms as well as the children she spoke so much about. Neither one of the moms knows that I write about marriage, divorce, relationships, and parenthood, so it was ironic that both moms revealed to me problems in their marriages in the short time span that we were all together. Even a few years back, a mom at our mommy-and-me playgroup started calling me to vent about her divorce even though I had just learned her last name. Oddly enough, here I am getting a divorce as well. You could say that perhaps it’s me; maybe I am a good listener and a very friendly person with an open mind. I would agree with all of those sentiments, but the one thing that drove these women to reveal to me their personal problems is that they needed a good friend.
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Let’s Be Friends,
In friendship, motherhood on February 27, 2014 at 3:22 am
I don’t wear yoga pants unless I am at the gym.
I arrive at my daughter’s early morning dance class in makeup and “clothes” that aren’t yoga pants or sweat-suits.
I might be totally cool with my daughter being loud in public sometimes also.
I might also join her.
That might have been me, singing broadway in a Target store, but I will never tell.
I might not love cooking, and I might just find all of reality television to be the death of me, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be my friend, mothers.
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