How Someone Treats You Is a Reflection of Who They Are

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Someone hurt my feelings a bit ago, and I found myself wondering what I had done to earn such behavior. When I dug deep, I realized I had done … nothing. When I spoke to a confidante about the matter, the person said plainly:

This has nothing to do with you and everything to do with this person’s self- view and own issues.

This is good advice.

How people treat us is often an indicator of how they view themselves and feel about themselves, more than anything.
Self- esteem and confidence. Past issues. These factor into many of our behaviors when we interact with others.

So, the next time someone hurts you remind yourself that this person’s actions are a reflection of how he/ she feels about him or herself. It has nothing to do with you.
Not to mention, your actions are in relation to how you feel about yourself.

All we can do is control our own actions. We can’t control if others hurt us or make bad choices. We can just choose how to respond and move forward.

Be Strong,

Laura

Someone Sent Me a Surprise Gift To Make Me Feel Loved Today

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I had a bad day today. I barely slept last night. I kept waking up every 1-2 hours like a newborn, so I was cranky today. I made it through a tough workout, but just dragged for most of the day. My kid was cranky. I was feeling down about some things. I was grateful for  the sunshine and warm temperatures, but I was definitely feeling distraught.

And then, someone did something to show me how much the person loves me.

I got a surprise package of some goodies and a few necessities. No toilet paper or paper towel, sadly.

This is exactly what I’ve been talking about in my past blog posts:

You don’t have to see someone to let them know you love the person.

You can show love in many ways.

And if a global health pandemic doesn’t make you try harder to keep your loved ones, loved— than your priorities are completely wrong.

I was feeling really upset and down today and that one small gesture said everything to me.
It made me really evaluate the people in my life. Who is really there for me. Who is really not.
Perspective is a beautiful thing.

Be Loved and Be Safe,

Laura

COVID-19 Should Make Us All Realize What Is REALLY Important

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No matter where you are in this world today, most likely your life is impacted by this scary novel Coronavirus. For me and my girl, we are socially distancing and homeschooling/working. It’s challenging and isolating to say the least, but we are not alone. For us in particular, lacking adult and child/peer contact is difficult. But it’s for the greater good, society and our health. It’s not a “should we,” but a “we must” kind of moment.

During the day like many parents I am sure, I get snappy or annoyed. I feel like I can’t really focus on anything or, like I need to escape. Single parenthood doesn’t allow that escape. There are no other hands “on deck,” to change that for me.

But one positive thing from all of this is how clearly this virus points out what is really important in life and what isn’t. After this is all said and done, consider how many of us will “exit” this part of our lives and enter the next stage as a different person. Yes, some of us may leave financially devastated, anxious and depressed, but hopefully  all of us will realize now what really matters to us in life.

Love. The people in our lives. Our health. Happiness (mental health).

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3 Things That Affect Whether Someone Trusts You or Not

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You may be a trustworthy person, but if you’re doing the following three things … your love interest and or partner may not trust you as much. It may even be unintentional completely, but small things can build up over time to affect how someone trusts you. If you’re unpredictable, not available or distant, you could end up causing someone to feel as if he or she can’t put all his or her faith in you.

Unpredictability

If you’re not reliable or can’t be counted on whether in general or suddenly, your partner may start to feel anxious around you. Instability doesn’t lead to trust and comfort. It leads to anxiety and distance.
Be consistent.

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The Most Loving Thing Someone Can Do Is Be There For You

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The single most loving thing anyone can do is be there for you.

The person doesn’t have to have answers or help. The person doesn’t have to be an expert to be there for you.

All someone has to do is show up.

All someone has to do is not be lazy, selfish or unreliable.

Simply being present for someone when he or she needs it is the best way to say ” I love you.”

No gift, no favor and no “title” or status can show love the same way being there for someone can say–  You are loved.

The person who has the time to listen.

The person who has the time to help you if you’re sick or be an advocate at the doctor for you

The person who celebrates you and comes around to cheer you on.

That person loves you without any fancy gifts, showy displays of affection or exchange of vows.

Simply being a present and active person in someone’s life is the greatest gesture of love we can all ask for.

It’s one little thing that means so much– your presence.

Lots of Love,

Laura

Your Actions (or No Actions) Show How You Really Feel About Someone

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Every relationship is built on actions– lack of actions, plenty of actions, the wrong or right actions.

One of the biggest things that will always tell the truth even if you don’t want it to, are  your actions!

Your actions show if you are full of hot air or, true to your word.

Consider this example– you can tell someone to let you know if he/she needs help, or you can show up on the doorstep and help.

You can tell someone you care about them and they’re important, and never be available for them

Or you can be there when they’re sick, in trouble or just to spend time together.

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10 Valentine’s Day Gifts For Your Favorite Single Mom

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Lately, I’m running on empty. I’ve had a few fires to put out and other contending fires to still manage. Welcome to life as a single mom. Surprisingly, I’ve handled it all really well– minus some sleepless nights and a little heartburn. I can thank my dad for the heartburn. Pretty sure genetically, he handed that down to me. But I digress.

Valentine’s Day is in 8 days (yay!), and with that said, this single mom could use a few Valentine’s gifts for anyone in the mood to buy me something. Wink.

And if you don’t personally feel like gifting me, I’m pretty sure any other single mom I know would like these gifts!

Starbucks Gift Card

Your single mom would love a coffee gift card because chances are … she runs on Dunkin or the ‘Bucks.

Someone to Make Lunch

I hate making school lunches. I would love someone to make my kid’s lunch for a week!

A Big Box of Godiva

You can hand pick the truffles she wants at Godiva, and damn, it’s delicious.

I need one. I want one. I MUST HAVE ONE!

Bring Her Dinner or Take Her Out

Relieve her burden. Take her to dinner! Bring her dinner! Give her the night off, already.

Massage or Mani/Pedi

Chances are if you’re a single mom, treating yourself comes with either intense financial guilt … or doesn’t come at all due to $ or time.

Treat a lady!

Champagne or Wine

A nice bottle will take the edge of the last X of days I’ve been kicking *ss as a single mom.

Send!

Cozy PJs or Lingerie

If you’re her friend, don’t buy her lingerie unless she’s feeling you, too.

If you’re more than friends, treat her to something beautiful. Bring chocolate too.

If you’re just friends, cozy pajamas with some hot cocoa is super sweet.

Watch Her Kid/s

Be a babysitter. Give her a break. Don’t text her as you’re watching her kids either, unless it’s urgent.

Do a Chore For Her

Do the groceries. Fold the laundry. Clean the house. Get dirty for her. Give her a day off.

Just Make Her Feel Special & Appreciated

Enough said!

X’s & O’s,

Laura

 

When We Are Unlovable

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When we are unlovable, we feel impossibly alone and adrift. We feel our most fragile and frightened.

None of us are without flaws. When we are at our absolute worst, we are reminded of every single one of those things that make us imperfect and human.

But in your mind sometimes, it feels as if all you might be is incapable, weak, incomplete and unlovable.

The core fear that perhaps we will stay in that ocean alone forever, with our flaws and insecurities is enough to break the human spirit, extinguishing it from all mankind.

None of us want to feel as if we are not understood or are impossible to love.

Each and every one of us inside is dying to connect to someone else. To feel secure and loved.

To not be navigating this world alone with all of its storms and waves.

Because when we do, it Is easy to sink and not return. To feel as if resurfacing is too hard and that the territory is too vast.

For Peace,

Laura

Is Your Life Full of Meaningful People & Purpose?

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We all have a reason and purpose for being here, although some may argue that there is no purpose at all other than existing. But in my opinion, I believe we all have a path to carve as we are here on Earth.

We all have people, things and activities that propel us to wake up every day. Inside of all of us, is a light. Some of us are able to harness that light and shine it to others well, and some people, not at all. Maybe that person is not “well.” Maybe that person is depressed or traumatized. Whatever the case, we all want to shine that light, whether we feel able to or not. And at different times in our lives, we may be able to focus that light and share it with others whereas in other times, we may feel dark and dim.

I know that I personally feel my absolute brightest, when I am able to give love to others and feel needed and wanted in return. I feel lit from within as well, when I am creative, whether through writing or dance. Singing. Working together on an idea.

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4 Reasons to Stop Jumping Hoops for Someone Who Won’t Do The Same for You

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How many times have you tried to reach out and make a connection to someone you care about, whether a friend or romantic partner, only for the person to snub, avoid or deny your attempts?

If you’re the one who always makes the effort, while the other person sits and does nothing, this post is for you.

Here are 4 reasons to stop making those written (and verbal requests):

People Take For Granted What Is Easily There

It’s human to take people for granted now and then, but if you’ve been getting nowhere with a friend, colleague pr partner, don’t bother.

That person has gotten it easy: you’ve made all the effort and they’ve done well, nothing to change the scenario.

Stop being available to that person. He or she is taking you for granted as you’re “easily there” when needed.

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