The Stranger: Happy Hour#7

Sometimes a person falls into our path, life, or day for a reason. Or if you don’t believe in that–maybe we can restate it as people come into our lives whether for an hour, a month, or a year+ and we then collect meaning and apply it to our lives as we go. That sounds more like my way of thinking. We meet people and then our interactions become meaningful to us in ways that may or may not be meaningful to the person we’re gathering such insight from.

That’s why a person you fall in love with might only view you as a source of inspiration…or otherwise. Why a friend may view you as someone to hang out casually with, but not someone to discuss his/her dark secrets with.

After walking clear across Central Park from the Upper East to the Upper West side, I sought air conditioning and a restroom at one of the city’s many Starbucks. There was a man in a bright red shirt waiting in line ahead of me.

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You Can Beat Depression: Happy Hour #6

I know that many people require medication to deal with chemical imbalances and sometimes therapy–both together is best in my opinion, but what do I know. Anywhoo, sometimes though, you yourself can snap yourself out of a dismal moment or day simply by how you think and the things you say to yourself and others. Cognitive-behavioral therapists would agree with me. Personally I prefer analysis to CBT, but I digress.

Today, I am wrapping up my book that I authored, and so it’s on to new jobs/s. I was applying for things and I felt myself cringe inside…and heard my little high-pitched voice inside my head say, “Nothing seems right here. I’m never going to find the right fit. Why bother?”

And that’s when I used my big girl voice and said, “Stop it. Stop it right now. You’ve found work throughout the whole year even though things didn’t pan out as planned. You’ve done so much good work too this year. Stuff to be happy about. Don’t get down.”

And that was it.

My bad mood floated away. It’s not always that easy to get out of a funk when things are not going your way, but sometimes it really is that damn easy.

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Happy Hour #3: Out in the Sun With Tea: Company Acquired

Today, and last night in fact, I was fortunate to have 2 friends to see. To sit, talk, and chat with, while drinking my beloved tea.

It wasn’t something huge, but it was something to keep me from remembering that I have lost one of the most important things in my life. That I have a billion things up in the air, and no matter what I do, I seem to have no control over.

Sometimes, a little tea, a little air, and some sun, is more than just something “little.”

It’s enough to get you through the day, and when times are tough, these happy hours add up to make for a better life.

With Chai and Chocolate,



Happy Hour: Day 1–Finding Happiness and sharing it, even if it’s just for one pithy hour

The other day I really wanted to spew a mouthful of annoyance because A; someone asked me a nosy question and yet the person could care less about me…just wanted gossip; B: haven’t heard from one friend–you know the kind of friend who is always selfish when you’re down and out, yet you’re there for him/her all the time? and C: Other stuff. Like… Continue reading