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I Love It When My Spouse Says…

In love, marriage, relationships, romance on June 6, 2017 at 2:21 am

We all want to be told that we are loved — but not everyone wants to be told that in the exact same way! Does your spouse or partner speak your love language? For these people I spoke to, their spouses had something to say that just gets right into their very hearts and souls.

These 28 phrases, whether sexy, sensual, sweet, or kind, really make these married hearts go aflutter!

What does your spouse say that makes you feel so loved?

  1. “I’ll give the kids a bath tonight.”
  2. “Take all the time you need.”
  3. “Good job!”
  4. “You amaze me!”
  5. “Go take a nap — I’ve got this.”
  6. “Everything would fall apart without you.”
  7. “I thought about you a lot today.”
  8. “Meow!”

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Speak to Her/Him,

Laura

8 Reasons Only Children Make Great Partners

In love, marriage, relationships on May 13, 2017 at 9:05 pm

Only children get a bad rep as being spoiled and self-centered. Personally? I just think the rest of us are so jealous on how good onlies can have it. The focus of their parents’ finances, hearts, and eyes. As the parent of an only, I can see drastic differences between her upbringing and mine, as the youngest of four girls. I can’t tell you how much I cherish having an only, although I would love to have stepchildren for sure. Onlies truly are resilient and bold creatures, making them in my opinion, pretty amazing partners! Here are eight reasons why only children are kick-ass amazing partners!

1. They’re Independent as HELL

While it may sound contradictory to say an independent person would be great in a couple, it’s not. Onlies are independent, meaning they won’t crush their partners with need. They are able to survive on their own and can offer a lot in a relationship. While being “too” independent can make people distant, onlies typically have close relationships with their parents from the very beginning years of life, making these independent gems able to connect with others all while still being self-sufficient.

2. They’re Creative

I spent a lot of time playing alone as a little kid because my sisters were older, but I had a neighbor down the street I could run to. With my only child, I hear the most amazing and creative “stories” playing out right in front of my eyes. Only children are creative because they have to be! If they grew up without kids to play with as much as their friends with siblings did, don’t you think they had to? Plus, only children don’t have “siblings” to take the heat from them when they get in trouble . . . or times are tough at home. They have to be creative to adapt or stay out of trouble. Your creative only child partner will keep things interesting and fresh. An only child as a partner is adaptive and inventive when the chips are down or up!

Read More:  8 Reasons Only Children Make Great Partners

One is an Awesome Number,

Laura

An Offer I Can’t Refuse: Dating & Hunting

In dating, dating advice, love, relationships on March 27, 2017 at 4:03 pm

The other day a friend of mine said, “All of a sudden the guys are coming out of the woodwork!” She had had a few good dates…and it seemed all the ex’s were popping up out of nowhere, randomly…and at once.

It’s always the case—for women at least…is it the same for men? I’m not sure. Guys—you’ll have to tell me.

Why is it that men seem to all come rushing for you at once, when just a month or even days ago, nobody had “boo” to say to you?

It’s the hunt.

Men smell when you don’t want them, need them or have forgotten them.

And then suddenly when they realize someone else is hunting you and you’re no longer an option to bring back to their cave,  men come around to mark their territory. Or at least try to. This isn’t to say guys pee on you—but you get the gist of it.

So for example, at the beginning of the year, I had quite a few dates. Two people I saw a few times…but nothing that rocked my world. Then suddenly—

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11 Qualities Every Man Looks For in a Wife

In love, marriage, relationships on February 24, 2017 at 1:03 am

There is no “wife buyer’s guide” in which a man can browse and pick the perfect woman — and no, online dating certainly doesn’t count — but there are certain traits that every man looks for when picking his mate for life.

There will always be a degree of variance. For example, most men admire a woman who is comfortable with her sexuality, but some men may crave that trait more than others. Read on to learn what could make you “Mrs.” material.

Read More: 11 Qualities Every Man Looks For in a Wife

Wife Material,

Laura

There’s A Difference Between Giving Up And Saying, ‘I’ve Had Enough’

In life, love, relationships on January 23, 2017 at 2:13 am

There is a fine line between being done with love, giving up before you should pull the plug, and ending a bad situation when you’ve hit that “f*ck this” point. There’s a difference between defeat and the admission of failure before you’ve even given something a chance, and finally getting tired of a circus act and throwing in the towel.

Giving up is a failure. It’s backing out of something due to fear of failure, anxieties of many kinds, or low self-esteem.

Cutting off a dead-end situation isn’t a failure. It’s a victory. It’s admitting that something or someone in your life is bad for you, to you or with you. It’s deciding to win. It’s making a better choice.

When you give up, you are cutting off a place or piece of you before it’s even begun. It’s the career you really wanted but were too afraid to go for. It’s meeting someone and feeling butterflies in the pit of your belly and running away because you don’t want him to end up like the others. It’s trying to achieve a fitness goal but realizing it’s going to take a lot of work and you’re too discouraged.

Giving up is when you see that your end result — whether it’s true love, more money, the better career — is difficult, time-consuming or risky, and you decide to back out before the curtains have even been pulled.

Read More: There’s A Difference Between Giving Up And Saying, ‘I’ve Had Enough’

Is it Failure or Victory?

Laura

Healthy Relationships Happen By Choice, Not By Chance

In love, relationships on January 5, 2017 at 3:34 am

Do you keep finding yourself in bad relationships that are toxic or abusive? Perhaps unfulfilling or too tumultuous?

Instead of saying, “Oh I just have bad luck” or “I always meet the weird ones” or “Why does this always happen to me?” you need to realize: these relationships aren’t happening to you by chance, but by choice.

People who know how to have healthy relationships did not simply “get lucky” at dating bingo; instead, they made smart, healthy choices about love and their life. That’s why they’re happily and healthily coupled.

Bottom line: a healthy relationship happens by choice, not by chance. Here are 5 signs you don’t know how to have a healthy relationship.

1. You always meet bad guys.

If you find that every guy you seem to meet is a scumbag, that could be chance… as long as you’re not getting involved with them. If you find that the people you meet and subsequently date are “bad apples,” this comes from how you feel about yourself.

Healthy, happy people do not tolerate bad apples for long, or a second even. Healthy, happy people leave a situation once they realize it’s bad. They don’t stay to end up wounded.

Read More: Healthy Relationships Happen By Choice, Not By Chance

True That,

Laura

I Am Not A Second Option. Either Choose Me Or Lose Me.

In dating advice, love, relationships on December 15, 2016 at 2:01 am

When you’re a matter of convenience and not a matter of the heart, you know you’ve got to walk away.

Let’s be real. We have all been the second choice. Default option. Substitute woman. Sidepiece. Batter-up. Understudy. Pinch Hitter. It’s the worst position to be in.

When you’re little, you’re taught to be a graceful loser. But when you’re a man’s second option, you’re fooled into thinking you matter, except it’s really not true. You’re just getting slivers and slices of this person’s affection, but somehow you’ve been walking around like you must matter to this man.

But you don’t.

You matter when it’s convenient for him. You matter when his first choice doesn’t show up or fulfill her role. You matter on an “as needed basis.” There’s no pain greater than continuing to live as the second option and accepting your occasional walk-on role in a man’s life.

So there must be a time when you decide no more. Finito. It’s time to retire the damn role of “default option.” It’s time to decide that you deserve to be the first choice, primary woman, lover, and friend, the priority not an option. The be-all-end all owner of his heart.

Read More: I Am Not A Second Option. Either Choose Me Or Lose Me.

Be Number #1,

Laura

Nervous About Meeting His Family Over the Holidays? Read This First

In dating, dating advice, love, relationships on December 12, 2016 at 3:23 am

Meeting your partner’s family for the first time can be stressful, but then top it off with meeting them at the holidays, no less, and you’ve got a recipe for nerves. Before you decide to run away, break up, or pretend to be sick, put these tips in your back pocket, put on your best outfit and shoes, and you’ve got this!

1. Pick Your Most Comfortable and Polished Outfit

Now is not the time to choose those pants that you can’t quite zip up or put on that racy blouse, even if your honey loves it. Choose an outfit in which you feel comfortable and look good — even if you think it’s a little dull.

Also watch your shirtsleeves — when you’re nervous, you tend to sweat more than you typically do. Having a comfortable outfit will make you at least feel at ease.

Read More: Nervous About Meeting His Family Over the Holidays? Read This First

You’ll Do Just Fine,

Laura

11 Phrases Guys Say When They’re REALLY Into You

In love, relationships, Uncategorized on November 21, 2016 at 2:58 am

Women have an arsenal of things we say when we aren’t into someone. We also use body language cues and eye rolls that could freeze an unwanted man right in his footsteps.

But men? Well, they’re knocked for being the less verbal sex, which isn’t necessarily true or accurate. Perhaps they’re saying plenty to us but maybe the message isn’t translating as they’re intending it to be, or we’re missing the signals.

But there are quite a few phrases a man can say that tell you he’s very into you.

1. “This reminded me of you.”

He won’t always say he’s thinking of you because he might want to avoid being too direct to spare his feelings from being hurt. He will say that something reminded him of you because he’s thinking about you and wants you to know without taking the risk of truly saying so.

Read More: 11 Phrases Guys Say When They’re REALLY Into You

He’s SO Into You,

Laura

8 Signs He’s Not Just Having Sex With You, He Actually LIKES You

In dating, dating advice, love, relationships, Uncategorized on October 3, 2016 at 8:16 pm

You’re super-excited about someone and your feelings are intense for them. The sex is off-the-charts hot. The connection is amazing. Waiting to see this person is torture. You cannot imagine another second without being in this man’s arms.

You’re so cooked and fried over this guy, we could call you a friggin’ hamburger. But is he sizzling over you? (Pardon me… all this talk about sex makes me hungry. Wink.)

Is this man crazy about you and serious about the relationship you’re forming? Or is it just about the sex for him, and the only real relationship that’s going on is the one inside your head? Here are eight signs he’s actually serious about your relationship and isn’t just in it for sex.

1. When the chips fall, he’s there to see you through.

If he’s serious about your relationship, when your car breaks down, you get sick, the cat dies or you have a huge blowout with someone in your family, he’s there. He’s there not because he’s forced to be, but because he cannot imagine leaving you alone.

He’s there because he’s invested in the time he spends with you and developing what you two share. He’s there because you need him, and that’s all he needs to know. If he’s not there for you, he’s only into you as a “curvy, sexy body.” Period.

Read More: 8 Signs He’s Not Just Having Sex With You, He Actually LIKES You

He’s Into You,

Laura