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10 Subtle Signs A Man Is Carrying A Broken Heart

In love, relationships on October 16, 2017 at 12:59 am

You’ve met this great guy, but there is something about him that just doesn’t seem quite right. Is it his mood? Does he seem hesitant around you? Does he talk about the ex periodically and when he does it’s like he’s sulking?

Before you become someone’s rebound and end up with your own broken heart, here are 10 signs his heart is broken and you need to beware before dating him.

1. He talks about his ex like he’s injured.

We all talk about our exes now and again. That’s normal as long as it’s not frequent. But when your new dude talks about his ex, he talks like he or she killed his cat or slashed his tires.

2. He’s very hesitant to commit.

He seems very into you but is extremely vague when talking about the future. It seems like he can’t decide what he wants: to keep you at a distance or to bring you closer. That hesitation to commit may be a sign he’s still broken-hearted.

3. He makes jaded comments about love.

When he talks about love, he sounds like a scorned teenage boy who will never believe in a happy ending. You feel a little like he’s been listening to too much Morrissey or The Smiths and wonder why he’s so downtrodden over love. Well, he’s that way because he’s still broken over someone that crushed his dreams and heart.

Read More: 10 Subtle Signs He’s Carrying A Broken Heart

 

Be Weary,

Laura

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Why Saying Goodbye Can Mean Saying Hello To A Better Start

In divorce, love, relationships on October 8, 2017 at 2:37 am

Saying goodbye is probably the most painful thing, ever. It’s the worst word to ever utter. It’s right up there neck and neck with, “I don’t love you” or even worse:

Telling someone you love him or her…and that person not saying I love you back.

Goodbye is final. It’s depressing. It’s heartwrenching. It cuts you right in the gut.

Endings are the worst. Truly. There is no torture worse than a breakup or divorce, right?

Right…very right. And wrong.

When love is real and right, it doesn’t end. It doesn’t end for a few weeks or months. It doesn’t die. It might ebb and flow. You might have times in which your “love tank” for your partner is low.

But it doesn’t end. It doesn’t say goodbye. Real love persists, even when sometimes, g-d damnit, we wish we didn’t love someone …

Real love with someone is forever because it always exists.

So if you’re saying goodbye or someone is leaving you in the dust it is very painful, but sometimes?

It’s very right.

Saying goodbye means that there is a “Hello” about to come right around the corner.

Saying goodbye to someone who isn’t right for you, isn’t right to you, or you two aren’t right together…means a fresh start.

Saying goodbye means you are back on that train platform, waiting to see what destination awaits you.

Where your heart will take you next.

Read More: Why Saying Goodbye Can Mean Saying Hello To A Better Start 

Start Fresh,

Laura

10 Times He’ll Say ‘I Love You’ (And What It Really Means)

In love, relationships on September 21, 2017 at 2:16 am

ome of us say “I love you” more easily than others but when he says “I love you,” sometimes it means a little more than just those three words. It depends on the context where the words are uttered and, of course, the unique relationship between the two people.

Those three words mean so much, but sometimes, they simply do more justice than spelling it all out for you. Here’s what it means when he says I love you, and how each utterance means something different.

1. When you lose a loved one

He can’t make it better for you, so when he says he loves you, he’s really saying, “I wish I could make the hurt go away.” He wants to eliminate your pain but instead can only offer his love and himself.

2. When you two are fighting

If he tells you he loves you as you two are fighting, there are a few things he may be trying to say:

  • Please stop thinking about why you’re mad and let me charm you.
  • I want the fighting to stop.
  • It’s okay if we don’t see eye-to-eye; I still love you anyway

Read More: 10 Times He’ll Say ‘I Love You’ (And What It Really Means)

What Does It Mean To You?

Laura

9 Things GOOD Men Do That Women Find SERIOUSLY Attractive

In love, relationships on September 7, 2017 at 8:09 pm

Let’s not pay attention to the bad boys because they leave us high and dry and really are no fun, save for a few bedroom romps. Honestly, if you’re over 21 I can tell you: bad boys lose their appeal. They’ve got a clear expiration date. They’re cute when they’re young but as a girl matures into a woman, her patience for them disappears.

And while the saying may be that “good men are hard to find,” they are not impossible to find. They do exist! And when we ladies find a good man, there are so many things about that person that we love that we cannot help but overlook the small things he might do to upset us.

Truly, when you break it down, bad guys are “boys” but good guys are “men.” Would you rather play with a boy, or run with a man?

Here’s what women find attractive and utterly irresistible about men that make bad boys look like little babies.

1. He’s handy.

No, we’re not helpless but I love a man who can fix things. And yes, I’m still a feminist but I’m smart enough to know what I do well and what I don’t. And women love a man who not only can fix things but who also want to fix things for us. Not because he thinks we’re helpless but because he wants to help and make things better for the woman he loves.

Read More: 9 Things GOOD Men Do That Women Find SERIOUSLY Attractive

12 Women Share the Compliment That Made Them Feel Amazing

In love, relationships, women on July 10, 2017 at 11:59 am

Words aren’t always cheap, and talk isn’t always hot air. One compliment can do a lot to a heart that was so happy to hear it. Genuine notes of appreciation go so far with someone. It’s amazing, powerful, and a bit scary to know that what you say to someone can impact him or her for the bad . . . or good . . . forever. I still remember the time one of my favorite people said he was proud of me and how my daughter is lucky to have me.

I spoke to women who shared with me the words that someone said to them that impacted their hearts for the better. What has someone said to you that made you feel amazing?

1-“I was walking down the street and a young woman stopped me and said, ‘Excuse me, you’re beautiful.’ I was stunned.”

2-“My sweetie says I light up the room when I walk in.”

3-“A man said I’m the most beautiful woman he knew in real life and that I was the smartest person he knew.”

Read More:  12 Women Share the Compliment That Made Them Feel Amazing

Say Something Sweet,

Laura

I Love It When My Spouse Says…

In love, marriage, relationships, romance on June 6, 2017 at 2:21 am

We all want to be told that we are loved — but not everyone wants to be told that in the exact same way! Does your spouse or partner speak your love language? For these people I spoke to, their spouses had something to say that just gets right into their very hearts and souls.

These 28 phrases, whether sexy, sensual, sweet, or kind, really make these married hearts go aflutter!

What does your spouse say that makes you feel so loved?

  1. “I’ll give the kids a bath tonight.”
  2. “Take all the time you need.”
  3. “Good job!”
  4. “You amaze me!”
  5. “Go take a nap — I’ve got this.”
  6. “Everything would fall apart without you.”
  7. “I thought about you a lot today.”
  8. “Meow!”

Read More: I Love it When My Spouse Says…

 

Speak to Her/Him,

Laura

8 Reasons Only Children Make Great Partners

In love, marriage, relationships on May 13, 2017 at 9:05 pm

Only children get a bad rep as being spoiled and self-centered. Personally? I just think the rest of us are so jealous on how good onlies can have it. The focus of their parents’ finances, hearts, and eyes. As the parent of an only, I can see drastic differences between her upbringing and mine, as the youngest of four girls. I can’t tell you how much I cherish having an only, although I would love to have stepchildren for sure. Onlies truly are resilient and bold creatures, making them in my opinion, pretty amazing partners! Here are eight reasons why only children are kick-ass amazing partners!

1. They’re Independent as HELL

While it may sound contradictory to say an independent person would be great in a couple, it’s not. Onlies are independent, meaning they won’t crush their partners with need. They are able to survive on their own and can offer a lot in a relationship. While being “too” independent can make people distant, onlies typically have close relationships with their parents from the very beginning years of life, making these independent gems able to connect with others all while still being self-sufficient.

2. They’re Creative

I spent a lot of time playing alone as a little kid because my sisters were older, but I had a neighbor down the street I could run to. With my only child, I hear the most amazing and creative “stories” playing out right in front of my eyes. Only children are creative because they have to be! If they grew up without kids to play with as much as their friends with siblings did, don’t you think they had to? Plus, only children don’t have “siblings” to take the heat from them when they get in trouble . . . or times are tough at home. They have to be creative to adapt or stay out of trouble. Your creative only child partner will keep things interesting and fresh. An only child as a partner is adaptive and inventive when the chips are down or up!

Read More:  8 Reasons Only Children Make Great Partners

One is an Awesome Number,

Laura

An Offer I Can’t Refuse: Dating & Hunting

In dating, dating advice, love, relationships on March 27, 2017 at 4:03 pm

The other day a friend of mine said, “All of a sudden the guys are coming out of the woodwork!” She had had a few good dates…and it seemed all the ex’s were popping up out of nowhere, randomly…and at once.

It’s always the case—for women at least…is it the same for men? I’m not sure. Guys—you’ll have to tell me.

Why is it that men seem to all come rushing for you at once, when just a month or even days ago, nobody had “boo” to say to you?

It’s the hunt.

Men smell when you don’t want them, need them or have forgotten them.

And then suddenly when they realize someone else is hunting you and you’re no longer an option to bring back to their cave,  men come around to mark their territory. Or at least try to. This isn’t to say guys pee on you—but you get the gist of it.

So for example, at the beginning of the year, I had quite a few dates. Two people I saw a few times…but nothing that rocked my world. Then suddenly—

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11 Qualities Every Man Looks For in a Wife

In love, marriage, relationships on February 24, 2017 at 1:03 am

There is no “wife buyer’s guide” in which a man can browse and pick the perfect woman — and no, online dating certainly doesn’t count — but there are certain traits that every man looks for when picking his mate for life.

There will always be a degree of variance. For example, most men admire a woman who is comfortable with her sexuality, but some men may crave that trait more than others. Read on to learn what could make you “Mrs.” material.

Read More: 11 Qualities Every Man Looks For in a Wife

Wife Material,

Laura

There’s A Difference Between Giving Up And Saying, ‘I’ve Had Enough’

In life, love, relationships on January 23, 2017 at 2:13 am

There is a fine line between being done with love, giving up before you should pull the plug, and ending a bad situation when you’ve hit that “f*ck this” point. There’s a difference between defeat and the admission of failure before you’ve even given something a chance, and finally getting tired of a circus act and throwing in the towel.

Giving up is a failure. It’s backing out of something due to fear of failure, anxieties of many kinds, or low self-esteem.

Cutting off a dead-end situation isn’t a failure. It’s a victory. It’s admitting that something or someone in your life is bad for you, to you or with you. It’s deciding to win. It’s making a better choice.

When you give up, you are cutting off a place or piece of you before it’s even begun. It’s the career you really wanted but were too afraid to go for. It’s meeting someone and feeling butterflies in the pit of your belly and running away because you don’t want him to end up like the others. It’s trying to achieve a fitness goal but realizing it’s going to take a lot of work and you’re too discouraged.

Giving up is when you see that your end result — whether it’s true love, more money, the better career — is difficult, time-consuming or risky, and you decide to back out before the curtains have even been pulled.

Read More: There’s A Difference Between Giving Up And Saying, ‘I’ve Had Enough’

Is it Failure or Victory?

Laura