COVID-19 Should Make Us All Realize What Is REALLY Important

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No matter where you are in this world today, most likely your life is impacted by this scary novel Coronavirus. For me and my girl, we are socially distancing and homeschooling/working. It’s challenging and isolating to say the least, but we are not alone. For us in particular, lacking adult and child/peer contact is difficult. But it’s for the greater good, society and our health. It’s not a “should we,” but a “we must” kind of moment.

During the day like many parents I am sure, I get snappy or annoyed. I feel like I can’t really focus on anything or, like I need to escape. Single parenthood doesn’t allow that escape. There are no other hands “on deck,” to change that for me.

But one positive thing from all of this is how clearly this virus points out what is really important in life and what isn’t. After this is all said and done, consider how many of us will “exit” this part of our lives and enter the next stage as a different person. Yes, some of us may leave financially devastated, anxious and depressed, but hopefully  all of us will realize now what really matters to us in life.

Love. The people in our lives. Our health. Happiness (mental health).

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3 Things That Affect Whether Someone Trusts You or Not

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You may be a trustworthy person, but if you’re doing the following three things … your love interest and or partner may not trust you as much. It may even be unintentional completely, but small things can build up over time to affect how someone trusts you. If you’re unpredictable, not available or distant, you could end up causing someone to feel as if he or she can’t put all his or her faith in you.

Unpredictability

If you’re not reliable or can’t be counted on whether in general or suddenly, your partner may start to feel anxious around you. Instability doesn’t lead to trust and comfort. It leads to anxiety and distance.
Be consistent.

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The Most Loving Thing Someone Can Do Is Be There For You

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The single most loving thing anyone can do is be there for you.

The person doesn’t have to have answers or help. The person doesn’t have to be an expert to be there for you.

All someone has to do is show up.

All someone has to do is not be lazy, selfish or unreliable.

Simply being present for someone when he or she needs it is the best way to say ” I love you.”

No gift, no favor and no “title” or status can show love the same way being there for someone can say–  You are loved.

The person who has the time to listen.

The person who has the time to help you if you’re sick or be an advocate at the doctor for you

The person who celebrates you and comes around to cheer you on.

That person loves you without any fancy gifts, showy displays of affection or exchange of vows.

Simply being a present and active person in someone’s life is the greatest gesture of love we can all ask for.

It’s one little thing that means so much– your presence.

Lots of Love,

Laura

The Moment When You Decide You Are Going to Be Loved Exactly As You Want to Be

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We all hit a point in our lives when we decide– whether very early on or later on– that we have had enough and want more.

We all hit that point where we are ready to own our lives and make our dreams come true.

We all come to that point where we decide that we absolutely without a doubt, cannot settle.

No more settling. No more waiting around. No more hoping for things to work out.

No more allowing people who don’t love or value us to continue to have us for nothing.

We decide we are opening ourselves up to all good and amazing possibilities.

From here on out even if the water is rough, we are going full throttle into the deep and finding what we want.

We say “adios” and swim forward to the future.

We find someone who fully embraces us. Fully wants us and cherishes us. Someone who gives us his or her all– just as we do in return.

We open ourselves completely to love in a positive way, whether we are 20, 40, 60 or older. We choose to seek out someone who truly cannot imagine a day or time without us. We choose to seek out someone who really is in it for the long haul– no games or BS> We find someone who loves us as is, flaws and all.

We decide to love and be love– and to ask only and I mean only for the best from our partner.

We decide that taking less than what we deserve is no longer acceptable. It is no longer serving us well.

We decide that we deserve the happy ending– and the happy middle and all.

We choose the best for us because we know we are deserving.

Every single human on this Earth wants to be loved and feel special. All of us.

We all want to be cherished and desired. We want to be loved.

And there will come a day for all of us when we know what we want and we will do everything in our power to get that love we deserve– without hesitation.

With Love & Light,

Laura

 

Your Actions (or No Actions) Show How You Really Feel About Someone

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Every relationship is built on actions– lack of actions, plenty of actions, the wrong or right actions.

One of the biggest things that will always tell the truth even if you don’t want it to, are  your actions!

Your actions show if you are full of hot air or, true to your word.

Consider this example– you can tell someone to let you know if he/she needs help, or you can show up on the doorstep and help.

You can tell someone you care about them and they’re important, and never be available for them

Or you can be there when they’re sick, in trouble or just to spend time together.

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The Rules of Intimacy

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The rules of intimacy are simple and genuine. They’re not as complex as love is. Love is a feeling and feelings are often complicated– but complicated doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Love can be intricately and wonderfully complex.

Intimacy however at its core, is simple.

To really have intimacy though, you must honor that person and that intimacy!

You can’t take that person for granted. You can’t be full of hot air. You must be genuine and available.

The 8 rules of intimacy:

Be available & present

Emotional unavailability is absolutely not ok! It breaks intimacy down and hurts and isolates the parties.

Be available. Be present. Put your phone done. Put your “reactions” away. Listen first. Then respond.

But be available. Show up.

Be honest

This doesn’t mean cutthroat commentary at every minute. It means being honest with yourself and your partner about your needs and wants. When you are dishonest, you trash intimacy– whether you’re being dishonest with yourself or your partner, or both of you.

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5 Ways to Make Your Partner Feel Special After You’ve Been Unavailable or Distracted

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We all want to feel important and cherished, whether we are an introvert, extrovert or something in-between. We all seek that attention and care from someone special, although the ways we may want that attention can vary. None of us want to be intimate with someone and then tossed aside. Unless of course, it was a one-night stand– but that’s for another blog. None of us want to feel ignored or not valued. We all want to feel special.

That being said, how good have you really been at showing the person you care about that he/she matters? Have you been sort of busy and unable to touch base? Have you been slacking or selfish or just not 100% there when with your partner? Have you had too much on your mind and been too distracted?

If you love someone and feel like maybe you need to give your special person some extra TLC for whatever reason, try these easy ideas to brighten their day.

Remember that every relationship  and marriage is truly a garden: it must be tended to, lest it grows weeds or dies.

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9 Compliments That Women Love to Hear

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There is nothing like a sweet genuine compliment from a man to make me feel completely loved and charmed. I don’t know about other ladies whether they need that from their male or female partner but, some good verbal affirmations does my heart and soul good.

So, for those of you ladies and gents looking to make a lady feel good, don’t hesitate to speak up and speak out. She wants to be appreciated and when you compliment her, you are showing her that you:

  • Notice how amazing she is
  • Appreciate her
  • Value her
  • Care enough to take the time to shower her with some TLC

Here are some of my most favorite compliments I’ve received. Feel free to share ones you’ve gotten in the comments.

You’re really strong

Acknowledging that I am a strong and resilient person makes me feel capable and appreciated. And admired! This compliment went a long way for me.

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5 Small Romantic Gestures That Make My Bad Days Better

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There is nothing like a small gesture of romance to brighten up a really dark day.

We all have those– crappy days and sometimes, weeks or months. For me, the past few weeks have been a doozy, leaving me really tired and left with very little alone time or time to feel refreshed. And so there is nothing like a small romantic gesture to ease the burden of those rough days. Truly, whether we are married, dating or mingling, someone’s positive actions can really help lift our spirits and help us feel loved.

Here are 5 small but very impactful– and romantic gestures– to make the bad days so much better! Each one of these gestures have made me smile and feel better during the crappiest times. They are truly simple ways to show someone you care when they need to hear it the most, and they cost nothing.

A surprise hug

A knock on your door from someone beloved offering a hug is a tiny gesture, but romantic nonetheless. Who doesn’t love a surprise visit from someone special?

That hug can make the stress and hardship of the day meltaway.

A tender note

An inspiring note that shares how much someone is thinking about you. A note of encouragement. A sexy note.

Handwritten. Emailed. Texted. All are beautiful small gestures that can really make someone feel loved when the person needs it most.

A massage

Some hands on attention is a recipe for romantic stress-relief, no doubt.

Whether you’re newly dating or married for ages, a nice massage after a crap day is a wonderful way to say you care about someone.

A homecooked meal

Feeding a stressed love interest or partner is a great way to ease that person’s burden. Make it romantic by adding candles and some wine.

Plus, the dessert= chocolate, of course.

An hour or two in bed

Cuddling. Relaxing. Reading to one another. Listening to music.

Just being there to listen or relax is romantic. Quality alone time makes a big difference when someone needs the love and support the most.

It really is easy to make someone feel loved. It takes less effort than you even realize, but it reaps a lot of reward!

In the Stars,

Laura

4 Reasons to Stop Jumping Hoops for Someone Who Won’t Do The Same for You

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How many times have you tried to reach out and make a connection to someone you care about, whether a friend or romantic partner, only for the person to snub, avoid or deny your attempts?

If you’re the one who always makes the effort, while the other person sits and does nothing, this post is for you.

Here are 4 reasons to stop making those written (and verbal requests):

People Take For Granted What Is Easily There

It’s human to take people for granted now and then, but if you’ve been getting nowhere with a friend, colleague pr partner, don’t bother.

That person has gotten it easy: you’ve made all the effort and they’ve done well, nothing to change the scenario.

Stop being available to that person. He or she is taking you for granted as you’re “easily there” when needed.

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