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9 Reasons It’s Completely Okay (And Normal) For A Strong Woman To Need A Man

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One of my biggest pet peeves as a single mom is when people tell me how strong I am; that I’m so strong, I don’t need a man. When manual labors present themselves, random friends from the “friend choir” will say, “You can do it yourself! I do it myself. I don’t need a man.”

Don’t get me wrong. I can do plenty myself. I’m very independent and I run a household alone and have for almost four years. I consider myself a feminist too, but since when was needing someone so terrible?

Okay, so “needing” someone in a needy, clingy way is a turn-off. Codependency is a turn-off. Needing someone in your life to partner with you is not. It’s really more about wanting a strong partner.

Why does being a feminist or a strong woman have to translate as not needing a man (or woman, depending on your preference)? There are many reasons why strong women need men and why it’s normal. She should never have to apologize for it. Here’s why.

1. Teamwork makes the dream work.

A strong woman has a great foundation in which a partnership can build something even more fabulous. There’s nothing wrong with going solo, but wanting a partner to carry out big dreams and ideas is great.

Sorry haters, but it takes two to row a boat. There’s no shame of wanting someone on board the ship.

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The Power of Two,

Laura

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The Difference Between Emotionally Unavailable Vs. Emotionally Available Men

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When we talk about someone being emotionally available, just exactly what do we mean? It’s not like we can just “check out” someone’s emotions or available nature like a library book. And it’s not like we can tell off the bat if someone is emotionally available or not — unless, of course, the person tells us at “Hello!” or walks around with a label on him or her.

If you’re trying to determine the signs he’s emotionally unavailable versus the signs he’s emotionally available, use this little “guide” that will help you determine if your potential love is free to make something grow and build with you, or if that person is “closed” for emotional and romantic business.

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Available…or Not,

Laura

If Your Man is Like a Cat-Back Exhaust System, You’re In Luck

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I never thought I would know anything about cars or men.

Actually, it’s debatable how much I know about the XX species—and I’m still learning about cars.

For a new job of mine, I’ve had to learn a lot about cars, trucks, performance driving, off-roading and then some. If you know me, you already know that all that stuff is Greek to me. But I’m a good student and hate to look stupid, so I’ve been doing my research. When it comes to men, I’ve made stupid mistakes sometimes, and I’m learning too—a work in progress trying to understand the sexy, mysterious and sometimes incredibly weird species, called males. Let’s just say…I have been researching men since age 3 and so far, I’ve yet to find that one guy that can capture me and throw me into his man cave for eternity.

But the other day, I had to write about Cat Back Exhaust Systems, and it made me think of men.

First of all, I knew zilch about exhaust systems, much less what a “cat” had to do with any of it.

But as I read on about mufflers, resonators, and horsepower, I realized that a man’s love or lack thereof, can be compared easily to a Cat Back.

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The 5 Types of Guys You’re Bound to Meet at the Gym

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The gym. It’s your haven. You might feel a little more at home at the gym than at work, or heck, even your own home. It’s the place you are at your worst and sweatiest, yet it’s also the place that you’re at your best. Your most hopeful. Your most powerful.

But as women, chances are hight that during a “moment” in our safe haven (aka the gym), our sanity and Zen attitude has been jarred by at least one of these five guys that women always seem to run into at the gym.

The Creepy Guy

Some of these guys have actual issues and others don’t have proper social graces, but the weird man who stares, as if he’s from The Silence of the Lambs asking for “the lotion, Clarice,” is so unnerving that you almost wished you joined an all-female gym or decided to work out at home that day.

Even when you give him your pitiful “please don’t chop me up into pieces” face he still stares back blankly at you as if he doesn’t register your pain and the awkwardness of his stare. The struggle is real.

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It’s a Scary Scene at the Gym Sometimes,

Laura

To the Divorced Guys: What It Means to Be a Nice Guy

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I understand that as a woman, the dudes are going to give me hell for this.
Please men, I love you dearly. In fact, probably way too much. I know women are “bad” too, but see I am not out in the world dating women, so I’m not as invested in other women and their dating habits as I am with the pool of guys I am meeting as a single woman.

So gentlemen, listen with an open heart.

A lot of men claim to be “nice guys.” And indeed, there are quite a few of you out there. Namely, I am thinking of my friends Mike, Chris, Steve, Tim, Stephen, and there are a ton more but, there are also impostors. Men who claim to be nice, but aren’t really. This isn’t because they’re intentionally evil, but that they’re not “all together” just yet. Under the issues, the man is nice. Above the issues? The man is toxic.

Let me just say — there is nothing more brutal than dating a man who is not over his divorce. Since separating from my ex, I have been on some dates the past two years, and I have met quite a few men who either openly or covertly ( with no evil intention but simply unbeknownst to them) were not over their marriages, yet were out in the dating world attempting to mix with the female sex.

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Be Nice,

Laura

5 Reasons Beer is Better Than Women, For the Divorced Guys Out There

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Did you recently divorce and now you’re considering dating again?

Before you decide to settle down with another woman, you might want to read this.
In fact, I am pretty sure that grabbing another beer rather than another relationship is a much better idea for you, and here’s why.
From woman to man:

Beer Nurtures Your Bones, Women Break Them:
Beer contains silicon which is linked to bone health. Women contain mood swings and other volatile elements which are bound to make us want to smack you instead of cuddle you.

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Better Than Beer,

Laura

Are You A Real Man? Take This Test To Find Out

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Technically there are certain characteristics that a person must have biologically to qualify as male. Some folks may lack these but still feel they’re a man. And in that case, kudos to you– I support people who embody all different definitions of gender and gender performance.

However, I feel that there are certain personality traits and behaviors that define if a man is a man or not. Again, some of my male fans ( Love you boos) have complained that I haven’t called women out on enough of their garbage, but I deal with men in a different way than I do with women. I know full well that people are both good and bad regardless of gender, but with that disclaimer said, here are the things I use in my mind to define if a man is a man, or merely a boy.

Read on to enjoy more of my wit and wisdom on love, dating, sex, and the humankind.

And at the end, I will hook you up with three awesome men to learn about, which is all a part of my new series,  Real Men.

I figured I could promote amazing guys and show the world that I haven’t given up on men. I’m merely waiting for someone to recognize my worth and show it!

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Let’s Talk About Male Privilege

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While I recognize that men share their hardships and trials in life…and I know that in constructing ideas about female identity (did I lose everyone? I hope not) that this in turn shapes ideas and “laws” about male identity, there are some great male privileges that I always wish I had freely, and no, I’m not talking about walking around shirtless. Sorry, dudes.

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Are you a newly-engaged man? Don’t run away yet

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All people seem to care about are the females when it comes to the idea of wedding chimes.

“Oh the bride-to-be’s ring is so amazing!”

‘What dress will you wear?”

“When is the date?”

“Are you having a big wedding…or a small wedding?”

Yet no one gives two flying  you know what’s  about the dudes. You’re about to undergo a big life change too, but unless you plan on wearing a dress or throwing a fit over flower arrangements, no one will make a reality show about the husband-to-be.

Here’s a little sweet advice from your favorite spunky and fresh-mouthed blonde, me.

Read my article here.

And then, because you want to please me, you will follow me here at Facebook.

That’s an order, not a question. 🙂

One woman who gives new meaning to the words ball and chain,

Laura