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One of the things my friends have been commenting to me lately is that the men they love tend to bury themselves in their work.
Consider that phrase- bury themselves.
Literally, suffocate themselves and their feelings by giving themselves so much work that they’re not accessible to handle their relationships or other issues of the heart. They’re not around. They’re present, but absent.
As someone whose dad worked constantly, I could relate to their feelings.
When men are depressed, anxious or any other kind of troubling emotion, they “seem” to dive into their jobs, isolating themselves from others.
Society jokes about the “man-cave” and of course the newly minted, “she-shed,” but work can be a safe place for men to dive in and ignore their feelings. This really interesting article in Psychology Today talks about the ways in which men manage their emotions.
Typically, men compartmentalize and shut out their feelings at work. So, it’s not unusual to me when people start commenting that their husbands are working too much, or that their partners are coming home late, only to find that the man in consideration is struggling with his feelings.
So, if you start to notice these signs, it’s possible that your favorite man is burying his feelings at the office or place of work.