9 Traits Grown Women Find Seriously Attractive in Men

Lots of guys ask questions like, “Why do girls like bad boys?”, wondering what it is women find even remotely attractive about men who end up hurting them. But if you really want to know how to get a girl to like you, the last place you should look for inspiration about what women find attractive are those rebels without a clue. And women, you should be paying no attention at all to those bad boys. They’ll only leave you high and dry, and they’re really no fun, save for – maybe – a few bedroom romps.

Honestly, if you’re over 21, you probably already know how quickly these kinds of guys lose their appeal. They’ve got a clear expiration date. They’re cute when they’re young, but as a girl matures into a woman, her patience for them disappears. And while the saying that “Good men are hard to find” may be popular for good reason, the good news is that at least they aren’t impossible to find. They do exist! And when we ladies finally figure out how to find a good man, there are so many things about that person that we love that we cannot help but overlook the small things he might do to upset us.

Truly, when you break it down, bad guys are “boys,” but good guys are “men.” Would you rather play with a boy – or run with a man? So guys, here are the dominant personality traits grown women find most attractive and utterly irresistible about a good man that make bad boys look like little babies. (After all, ladies, if you want to find a good man, you need to know what you’re looking for and why these men are so much better than that “bad boy” who’s been stringing you along.)

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Boys Drool, Men Rule,

Laura

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Real Stories of Love, After Divorce

The words “love” + “divorce” aren’t usually paired together. In fact, after a divorce most people find themselves wondering if perhaps, love is just a scam. Of course it’s not, but it’s normal to feel a bit weary or jaded, as long as you don’t let those feelings linger. After all, if you believe it, you’ll receive it— meaning that if you have a bad attitude about love, you’re most likely apt to attract negative situations and people. Believing is part and parcel of finding love … you just need a little blind faith. Hopefully not too blind, or you might choose the wrong person again.

With Valentine’s Day here, you might be licking a few salty wounds or feeling lonely. It is a Hallmark holiday in many ways, but if you’re a romantic like me, it’s normal to want to have someone to enjoy it with. So, as my present to all those wondering when cupid will strike, here are a few love stories after divorce to inspire you to have faith, be patient and believe.

You Say He’s Just a Friend

Jackie, creator and Editor-in-chief of Divorced Girl Smiling, had been divorced for 11 years and her ex had been remarried for quite some time when she ended up in a relationship that lasted for 6 years.

“It was always comfortable, but I felt like I wasn’t ready to get married again and neither did my boyfriend–which made things easy,” she says.

However, the tides turned when when boyfriend finally wanted to settle down. That’s when the issues started. After a few “make up’s and break up’s” as I call them, they finally ended it.

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Believe,

Laura

10 Simple, Sexy Ways To Show A Man Intimacy (Without Jumping Into Bed)

Intimacy isn’t solely about sex. Sure, sex counts an awful lot, but that’s not the only factor that goes into building an intimate and passionate relationship.

We all know you can have sex without real intimacy and connection, but how can you be intimate with a man beyond or besides simply intercourse? Here’s how to be intimate without jumping into bed, and they are guaranteed to make his body ache just a little.

1. Give each other a naked massage.

Forget the clothes. Forget the half-clothed shoulder rubs. Get naked, both of you, and give him a massage.

I Love It When My Spouse Says…

We all want to be told that we are loved — but not everyone wants to be told that in the exact same way! Does your spouse or partner speak your love language? For these people I spoke to, their spouses had something to say that just gets right into their very hearts and souls.

These 28 phrases, whether sexy, sensual, sweet, or kind, really make these married hearts go aflutter!

What does your spouse say that makes you feel so loved?

  1. “I’ll give the kids a bath tonight.”
  2. “Take all the time you need.”
  3. “Good job!”
  4. “You amaze me!”
  5. “Go take a nap — I’ve got this.”
  6. “Everything would fall apart without you.”
  7. “I thought about you a lot today.”
  8. “Meow!”

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Speak to Her/Him,

Laura

7 Signs You Might Be In Love If…

Are you in love, or is it just hormones?

I asked someone this, who I really cared about.

I was trying to decide: Did I really love this man or was I simply just, well, drunk on oxytocin and other various hormones?

I mean, the person in question is incredibly attractive. Great body. Beautiful face. Even better touch.

All of those factors could have meant my feelings were really just hormones and hot-in the pants and not necessarily, straight from the heart. Although let’s be real: a good relationship requires “hot in the pants” and “straight from the heart.”

I found my answer though, when I went down this little list of mine. Here are a few ways to tell whether it’s love or hormones:

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When to Accept It’s Over For You

I hesitated to write this but felt compelled to get it off my petite shoulders.

I am happily single but there is one thing that I have yet to grapple with. The fact that it is over.

Oh not my marriage. That I am totally fine with being over. Yes, I said that. I am fine with having a divorce. I am not grieving the end anymore. I am sure once I get word that my divorce is final that I may feel some sadness but to be honest, I am not sure there will be any more pain. I am done, done, done. And so is he. That chapter is long shut.

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Here’s How to Know If a Guy Will Be Good in Bed — It May Surprise You!

You’ve met someone. And this time? You think you might actually like him. When his name starts to get peppered into your conversations with friends, that’s when they start popping the questions:

  • Did you two kiss?
  • Have you done it?
  • What’s he like in bed?

The questions fall out of their mouths like wildfire but the fact remains that you haven’t done the deed with him yet. It’s just been intense makeout sessions or perhaps not even that. So how do you know if this new man is going to deliver when it comes time to hit the sheets? Well, there’s no scientific guarantee to measure whether your man is going to curl your toes or not, but there are a few signs that say you might have snagged a hot one!

And if you have? Enjoy and do tell the ladies. Not everyone can be so fortunate to have a man that makes love and does the deed like a champ!

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I Hope You Get Lucky,

Laura

Single on Valentine’s Day? Who Cares!

Hi, my name is Laura and I am single on Valentine’s Day.
When I enter any store or public location, I am harassed and dazzled with hearts of pink and red and chocolate boxes and cards for people of all ages.
When I go to the store, my daughter points out all the Valentine’s Day candy she sees because apparently to four year-old’s, every holiday is a celebration of chocolate and gifts…upon them.
Truly, it is though.
I am Laura, and I am almost divorced, separated for almost two whole years and am completely and utterly single.
When I go to websites and social media outlets, retargeting ads hit me saying “Buy this sexy lingerie” or “Indulge in the taste of sweet chocolates.”
I am Laura, and I have gone on a bunch of dates and had not one real boyfriend (minus one guy who got really close) in the time I have been separated.

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As One & Happy,

Laura

Moms, Stop Putting Pressure on Dads to Create the Perfect Valentine’s Day

In case you’ve been living in a bubble since Jan. 1, Valentine’s Day is coming up. Get ready for the dud gifts or the smashed-up chocolates or the gift you didn’t want to end up in your lap. Get ready for the guys and dads standing in line last minute at the drugstore buying cards and chocolate. How terrible, right? I mean, couldn’t they have made some effort? Last minute really shows poor attitude, right? It IS Valentine’s Day, after all! The day of love . . . the day of . . .

Wait a minute!

Let’s think about this logically, moms.

Do you think your marriage or partnership truly weighs heavily on the actions of one day? I mean, it’s true — someone could do something terrible to devastate a relationship in one day, but chances are, buying a card at the drugstore on Valentine’s Day and shoving a box of cheap chocolates in your hands is not the worst thing that will happen to your relationship or marriage. Chances are, your hubby or main squeeze loves you to pieces. That last-minute stop? It felt like effort to him. It felt like effort among all the pressures and stresses of life that a dad feels just like you feel, as a mother.

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Appreciate the Small Things,

Laura

Why Single Moms Should Date Single Dads

I am a lazy dater. By lazy, I mean I don’t put in the real effort required to make online dating work. As a single mom, I should cut myself some slack. I have a lot of other things on my plate and to be completely honest, I love how my life is going as of now. I love my friends, kid, work, and social life — OK, so some weekend nights, I’m stumped on whom to go out with if I am kid-free — so why complicate it with a man? Enough said.

But of course, the idea of romance and love still appeals to me. The idea of intense online dating? It does NOT appeal to me. The reality is if you want to succeed with online dating, you’ve got to go out with a plethora of frogs to meet any potential partner, and right now, I have taken a slight back seat to swiping left and right and mindlessly texting guys who I will probably never meet. When I get a match whom I am not crazy over, I decide to not meet him and, instead, go see friends.

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Give a Dad a Chance,

Laura