7 Easy Little Things She Wishes You Would Do (That Mean A Lot)

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We often overlook the little things that occur, thinking they’re not important when really, they mean so much to the other person. And sometimes, it’s when we ignore or forget to do those little things that the people we love feel unloved or not appreciated.

Funny enough, people often say women are so complicated but really, there are so many little things that we women appreciate that aren’t big gestures or grand gifts.

If you care about a special woman, here are 7 little easy things she wishes you would do to show her she’s important that will mean so much to her:

Make Dinner and Add Candles

Don’t ask her what to make. Just cook or order in, add candles and invite her over to relax. You can also bring the dinner to her or if you live together, tell her it’s on you tonight.

Wish Her Good Morning or a Good Day

We all get so busy that it’s hard to find time to communicate but a quick good morning text, kiss or call is always sweet.

Tell Her She’s Special or You’re Thinking About Her

It’s always nice to hear that you are special or that someone you care about is thinking about you.

Encourage Her After a Rough Day

When she’s had a bad day, supoort is always appreciated whether it’s a hug or word of encouragement.

Draw Her a Bath or Give Her a Massage

When she’s tired and has no energy, a bath or massage or both are small lovely gestures that will mean so much to her.

Surprise Her With Quality Time Together

A little surprise time together will uplift her spirits and make her feel that she is important to you.

Help Her Without Her Having to Ask

Your helping hands could mean so much, especially if you offer to help and she hasn’t asked.

Little Things Are The Big Things,

Laura

We All Need to Be Cared For

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No matter how old we are or how independent and capable we may be, we all need someone to be there for us. Sure, there are people who protest and say they don’t need anyone and that they’re “OK” on their own, but the reality is none of us is an island.

We all crave human touch, companionship, love, passion and connection. Without it, let’s admit it: we would be pretty boring people. It’s why people take so much time and effort to pursue love, romance, sex and friendship. If it wasn’t so intoxicating, amazing and transformative, nobody would be running after it, writing songs about it, or discussing it in detail with their friends.

When we don’t feel cared for, we are often at our worst. We feel anxious, unsure and misunderstood. We feel alone, powerless and intimidated. These feelings stem into depression or general anxiety. It bleeds into our everyday lives. Not having that connection can feel like you’re on an island or swimming in a turbulent ocean with the undertow taking you further and further away from the rest of the world. This isn’t to say that we need someone else’s care and love in order to be successful and happy, but that with love and available people in our lives, we become the best versions of ourselves. Because when we have people who do not care for us or treat us well, it does dim our light. This is why it is so crucial that we care for others and that we allow ourselves to be cared for and in return, that we give love back.
Having that love is like having a homebase: without a homebase, you will feel adrift, anxious and uncertain. This is the place where we feel our least “best.” It affects our mental health and wellness. But when we have that homebase— that love and care in our lives, we grow long, strong roots and reach out towards the sky with all the potential that is in us. This is what helps us grow and shapes our self-view and stability for the days to come.

Love Others and Yourself,

Laura

How Honest Are You Really?

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Love rejoices in the truth. So, how honest are you really, when it comes to your partner? Yourself? Your feelings?

Do you really have any clue of how you feel? Are you really open to your partner and spouse? Are you available and open, or are you hot and cold, playing games? Are you unavailable?

Who do you hurt with these games and lack of availability? Not just your partner, but yourself.

Do you believe you deserve love? Are you self-aware? Or do you bullsh*t yourself and others? Do you not know how you feel? Are your actions against your words? Are your words not in line with your actions?

What is it you fear? What are your hang-ups?

How honest are you with yourself?

 

Laura

 

When You Realize Your Worth, You’ll Say Buh-BYE to Lazy Partners & Bad Offers

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There is nothing more joyous than owning your own happiness and realizing how worthy you are.

When you do, it suddenly becomes so easy to laugh off bad partners. To say goodbye to men or women who don’t appreciate you or your value. To not want someone who makes a crappy effort or half-ass effort to be in your life.

It just becomes clear overnight– yes, really— that you deserve better.

So, when your ex comes a calling with same lame offer to Netflix and chill or when some guy or gal who doesn’t really appreciate you wants to hang out– but not commit to you or date and show you how important you are to them–

It’s easy to say, “Thanks, but no thanks.”

For me, there is only one relationship, one situation worth entering into:

The one where the person really makes an effort, is excited to see me and be with me and enjoys being with me.

I am not interested in situationships. I am not interested in being someone’s option. I am not interested in being your or anyone’s friend with benefits.

I am only interested in someone who sees spending time with me as enjoyable and a MUST. Someone who really likes me and finds me fun to be around and wants to get to know me better.

Someone who knows how to ask someone on a date and follow through. Someone who is a good friend, too and caring.

Someone who sees my VALUE. Someone who sees me as so valuable, that he appreciates any second of my time.

That is all I am interested in.

Everyone else, can take their offers elsewhere. My price tag will not be on sale or reduced.

K? Thx. Bye,

Laura

 

Someone Who Deserves You

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Someone who deserves you …

Feels honored to be by your side.
Is proud of you.
Loves showing you off to friends and family and the world.

Shows you deep respect and care.

Is kind to you.

Wants to spend time with you and not just for his or her own needs.

Expresses love to you.

Works on him or herself to be the best person he or she can be— not just for you, but for themselves as well.

Doesn’t take you for granted.

Wants you to stick around.

Can’t imagine life without you.

Appreciates you and attempts to understand you.

Listens to you.

Makes the effort to be available to you.

❤️
Laura

6 Things He/She Must Do If That Person Supposedly Cares About You

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If someone cares about you, he or she puts the money where his or her mouth is.

There are just certain things they have to do, otherwise that person is not worth it, not reliable and a flake.

And these things by the way, are non-negotiable.

1. Asks You Out

Random hangouts or late night get togethers aren’t a sign that someone cares about you. It’s a sign that someone views you as convenient.

If someone cares about you, that person will ask you out and make a plan. No BS. No “Maybe we’ll do something.” That person just asks you out!

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When You Can’t Go Further in a Relationship Due to the Other Person

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Every relationship– friendship or romantic– has a path. Some are meant to go the distance and others, not so much. Some relationships– romantic ones– never even take off. And that I think, is the worst.

To fail at a relationship or marriage is really sad and challenging. Devastating. But to me, a relationship that never takes off is even worse.

There is the feeling that with a failed marriage or relationship, at least you got to try and give it your all. You can look back and say, “Sure, I made mistakes, but I still gave it my all most of the time.”

When you are with someone and feel the potential but it never comes to fruition, there is never that feeling of “I tried and failed– but hey! I tried!”

Instead, there is the feeling of “What if?” and “Why?”

“What happened?” and “What went wrong?”

How to Be in The Moment Romantically & Sexually

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Overthinking and pushing can take you out of the moment when you’re with your partner, whether it’s a sexual or romantic moment.

Looking too hard into the future or overanalyzing things can take away from the pure joy and fun that romance and sex brings.

Here are 3 ways to avoid overthinking and help yourself stay in the moment in the bedroom or wherever you are, with your love interest:

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How Someone Treats You Is a Reflection of Who They Are

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Someone hurt my feelings a bit ago, and I found myself wondering what I had done to earn such behavior. When I dug deep, I realized I had done … nothing. When I spoke to a confidante about the matter, the person said plainly:

This has nothing to do with you and everything to do with this person’s self- view and own issues.

This is good advice.

How people treat us is often an indicator of how they view themselves and feel about themselves, more than anything.
Self- esteem and confidence. Past issues. These factor into many of our behaviors when we interact with others.

So, the next time someone hurts you remind yourself that this person’s actions are a reflection of how he/ she feels about him or herself. It has nothing to do with you.
Not to mention, your actions are in relation to how you feel about yourself.

All we can do is control our own actions. We can’t control if others hurt us or make bad choices. We can just choose how to respond and move forward.

Be Strong,

Laura

4 Gestures That Made For Great, Memorable Dates

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Not every date is worth talking about– but some are worth talking about and sharing for years to come– even if you’re not with the person still.
When you have a good date and then go out of your way to show someone that you are intrigued by them and want to know more, it really makes a memorable difference to that person. The little things or the big things we do can go such a long way.

If you had a great time with someone or think there’s a special connection, why not make some extra effort to share how excited you are about meeting this person and developing the relationship potentially further? At the very least by doing so, you’ll get an idea of how this person feels about getting to know you further as well!

Here are some of the most special small gestures I’ve received on dates or after dates, through the years, that really touched me and made me smile.

A Thoughtful Note

When someone expresses what a great time he or she had in words the day after a date– it goes a long way.

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